Is there jealousy in your relationship?

Jealousy - This is a logo for envy.
@Sawsen (795)
United States
January 14, 2007 8:20pm CST
I notice this a lot when I'm out. Some girl will be looking at a guy, and the girl the guy is with gets extremely upset and seems like she wants to beat up the girl that was looking at her guy. And sometimes it's vice versa. So my question is, are you jealous when someone looks or talks to your significant other in a really friendly way? Or does your signifcant other get jealous when someone else looks at you? or you look at someone else? And do they act out on their jealousy?
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@jenbatres (800)
• United States
15 Jan 07
My partner and I have a very secure relationship. We both have looked at others, but it goes no further. I think it is natural to look at others. It is the people who are not allowed to look that end up cheating. If you can't trust the person your with then why would you be with them.
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@opinder (421)
• India
15 Jan 07
ditto for me. after all its trust that sustains a relationship.
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@jenalyn (675)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I agree. No one is going to walk around with blinders on. Besides it is only human to look at other people, even animals do that.
• United States
16 Jan 07
i totally agree i think when someone is not in a secure relationship that is when they become jealous and i believe you should be able to trust your partner.it is natural to look but i do not agree with people that are so jealous that they actually go and assault someone who looks at their partner if your not secure in a relationship or trust your partner you should not be in the relationship.
• United States
15 Jan 07
I think it's rude for someone to smile at your significant other when you're with him/her, but you should just ignore it because it's not like your significant other is doing anything back. You would only have to worry if your significant other is doing the smiling.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
15 Jan 07
In all honesty I think there is jealousy in all relationships. I have experienced this and it doesnt matter how close you are to someone . However, the key to a succesful relationship is not to get the jealousy out of hand. If it can be discussed and analysed before the fighting starts then it can be positive
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• Philippines
15 Jan 07
yes.my boyfriend is a very jealous guy.and is very protective.he hates it when other people look at me.so he reprimands me whenever i wear sexy clothes.so the only outfits i have in my closet right now are jeans and tee-shirts.i wear shorts whenever i'm home,and just when he's around.he is always there to protect me,that's why i feel safe whenever i am with him.and i wouldn't want to be with anyone else but him. =)
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@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
15 Jan 07
I think jealously have no space in a true friendship..and if by anyhow it manages to create its space then there is something wrong in the relationship.Also I feel that friendship doesn't mean that you would break your limit,..there is some descency which is to be followed..and when these descency crosses its limit while dealing with "significant" then such acts can create jealousy or anger.. and I don't think there is anything unusual in such things.
@Lecaro (1105)
• Romania
15 Jan 07
no, in my realtionship isn't jealosy... we know we love each other and this is enough!
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@jithinsb (520)
• India
15 Jan 07
hmmm..thats was a nice question..Actually the question is is your partner possessive..right??? actually my gf is very possessive for me..but she is open minded also..she wont get annoyed that soon,but if i have any deeper relation with the other girl and if i cross the limits,then,she will get very disturbed and irritated ,obviously every gf will be like that.its not that she doesnt trust me,but she is very genuine in expressing her feelings always,thats she never pretend to be smiling when she is sad..if she is irritated by any of my acts then she wil let me know that straightaway..that has helped me to strengthen my relation always..thanks to her.. but if someone unknown to both of us stares at me or keep on looking at me,then my gf will actually make fun of me rather than being possessive..i love the way she do that .. and now my case,i too am very possessive at her case,not that she look at some guys ,but if some guys stares at her i ll get very irritated and disturbed and i feel like kick that guy towards the hell..but,evenif she is very friendly with a guy whom i know very well i wont be bothered by that..and if she is becoming over friendly with a guy on whom i have a bad impression ,then i will defenetly gat angry..and i will let her know that... And the important thing is that neither of us act due to jealousy,but due to possessiveness only...and we both trust eachother a loooot..
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• Melbourne, Florida
15 Jan 07
I used to be jealous when I was young and insecure. Now, if a woman hits on my man, I consider it a compliment to me and my taste in men. I know who he is going home with, so what do I have to worry about? Also, my man is a flirt. He loves women, and loves to make them feel good about themselves. So I'm not jealous when he flirts with other girls. I could get mad, but then he would just do it behind my back, and I certainly don't want that.
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@delaney36 (817)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
Getting jealous to some degree is just normal but if it's too much then it's not healthy anymore. One thing if you trust your partner then there is nothing t be jealous abut even if he/she is talking with someone else.
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@remaster74 (4065)
• Greece
15 Jan 07
I used to be jealous somewhat but my ex-husband was something else at this part. I ended sometimes in the hospital due to his jealousy. And he was jealous for no real reasons. If jealousy is at the point of insanity is unhealthy for both members of a relationship.
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@mishang (499)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
when girls eye for my guy, it's more a complement for me, because i know my guy and he wont hook up with them. but some girls just have they way and flirt, it's not that i'm jealous or anything but i do stand my ground and signals the girl to leave my guy. it's vice-versa. my guy and i have decided that it is easier for me to let me do the talking with the girls than for him because they may get him wrong.
@korek222 (702)
• Poland
15 Jan 07
Well if someone talks to a person i'm with in other way that friendly i'm not jealous (or maybe just a little) i just start to feel powerful since i can say to that guy - "she wants me so you can try but you wont manage to do anything " abd i never make scenes about anything to my girlfriend :) And well i must think she understands that cause she does the same way :)
@Catkin (480)
• United States
15 Jan 07
My girlfriend and I both get jealous. I don't usually do much, but she may mention it later. We also get jealous of past exes; she's especially hostile when the subject of a girl I loved in high school comes up, even though she is now back in Spain and is just a very good friend.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
I can honestly say that there is absolutley not jealousy in our relationship. My partner and I understand that when we go out things like this may happen and there is nothing to worry about as we always go home together. The other people may wish or think that they have a chance but they don't. My partner has never done anything that would make even act this way nor would I ever do anything. I love him to much. It is flattering however to know that someone else is attracted to your significant other.
@Lady_Vincy (1540)
• United States
15 Jan 07
In my last relationship there was akot of jelousy on both sides. I was jealous because I felt my b/f was spending more time with his friends than with me. My b/f was always on the phone with his best friend. Whenever we were suppost to be spending time with each other he would still answer the phone. That started to make me really jealous. I didn't even wast him to talk to his best friend anymore. As for him he was also jealous because of the relationship between my bestfriend and I. No matter what, at the end of it all we broke up. Now we can talk to anyone we want with out being jealous because we are no longer together. Jealousy is a really hard thing to dael with. It is known for breaking up alot of good things in life.
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@fayzah (253)
• United States
15 Jan 07
no jelousy here, if i was jealous of him, i would not have married him, it would mean that i didn't trust him 100% so how u can marry someone if you don't trust them? i feel jealousy is an insecurity, and man made emotion.
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
15 Jan 07
My hubby doesn't get jealous but I think thats because there is really nothing he can get jealous about beacause Im a stay at home mom so most of the guys that i talk to he knows. However I do get jealous and it's more or less when my hubby comes home and tells me he had lunch with one of his co-workers ( most of them are women. Women whom when he first started working there asked if he was single which he was not!) I don't get jealous when a woman looks at him though.
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@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
hhmm yeah i would get jealous when my hubby would talk to any other girl.. eevn if he talked bout his collegues or any other girl i get jealous and i often change the topic to avoid tension. And i know the same case with him too. it often happens when the couple is so close and loving, and it is natural feeling that you feel uncomfortable in such situations and things. it is alla bout feeling of insecurity i guess...!!!
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• India
15 Jan 07
i have been in the same situation where my ex-girlfriend always thought that i was checking out the girl....and she sometimes made a situation out of it, and i broke up with her eventually, this was not the reason but it was one of the many....i feel that even one jealous partner may make the relationship unstable, and instead of saying, "happily ever after" the story comes to "to be or not to be", and eventually "the end". so it is always better to sort out the nature of other person before committing anything......
• India
15 Jan 07
NO. . There's not. In love .. there can't be any sort of competition or jealousy .. if its there .. it can't be called a sound relationship. Can it?? If its friendship .. then it may be .. because that depends on person to person .. that how much friends are you with the person.. In true friendship it can't be there!