Dead beat mom's

United States
January 15, 2007 1:45am CST
What do you think about the ladies that just want to party and not take care of their kids?I took my 2 children and left with them when they were babies one was 1 1/2 yrs old the other ws newborn.I have raised them they are now grown and on their own the son is a soldier in the army and the daughter has just graduated high school hopefully on her way to college soon.Mother has found me and has been calling wanting to know where they are in life,should i let her know? the son and daughter don't really want her to know them for she has never cared and chose her own brother and alcohol over them along time ago.I was with her for 6 years before we had children , she was a bad alcoholic amongst other things . but she was bueatiful and i thought i could change her.Never could Never will She is still the same but now very old looking drunk.
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sid556
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I'd update her on her kids....let her know what she missed out on. I would not hook her up to see them or give them any personal info that would lead her to them if they do not care to see her. since she had nothing to do with their upbringing, she lost all her rights for that sort of closeness many years ago.
Justme2007
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I agree also with Expen as for the mom being a deadbeat be thankful you did the right thing and left. Its to bad that some parents don't care about their own children. Me being a mom and going through labor please I would not walk out on my children the deadbeat dad yes You must remember you can't change anyone who doesn't want to change no matter how beautiful she is people will be who they want to be. I assume she is still drinking from your last line if so make sure you let your children know so they can make the choice if they want to deal with her or not. Keep your head up and your heart open because when we love our children we don't want them to get hurt and sometimes we make the wrong decision for them. god bless
xenpen
@xenpen (90)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Your children are old enough to decide if they want her in their lives or not. If the issue was already brought up and they declined contact, then so be it.