When you and your spouse are arguing do you agree to disagree to make peace?

@kbkbooks (7022)
Canada
January 15, 2007 2:41pm CST
Sometimes there are just some things you cannot agree about with your partner. Sometimes they are important, sometimes they are silly. In either case, they can cause real problems. Do you ever just decide to stop arguing and each hold your own opinion without holding a grudge?
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@Dena33 (1533)
• Finland
16 Jan 07
I must be honest, rarely we decide not to continue the argument.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
It is tempting to continue to make your point.
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
It is tempting to continue to make your point.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I don't know if we ever agree to disagree, but there are times when we realize that the discussion is going no where or that it's really emotionally charged. We have agreed to call time outs when we are feeling overwhelmed. We try to come back to these issues and to the best of our ability come to some sort of understanding. We are fortunate in that we usually agree and when we don't we have already decided how to handle those situations when they come.
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
Emotions often get in the way, and then we yell and get nowhere.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
16 Jan 07
well mostly we do not see eye to eye in anything but we usually tend to compromise.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
I think it's a good thing.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
Me and my hubby never have big fights, in fact we never did since we're together. Of course, sometimes we have disagreements, but it's never too serious and we both dont hold grudges.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
Good for you, I hope it stays that way.
@flordz (269)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
i usually agree just to stop the argument, i dont like fights or talks with a high volume voice, that is why i will just agree even if it is not agreeable.
@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
It's good if you have the strength to say stop and then do it.
• United States
16 Jan 07
well mostly we both argue for a while, then either one of us who is bit more calm and sensible try to find a solution..usually ends up to a scarifice or a compromise..i think its better to talk about it and try finding a solution rather then having your own points because that creates lack of understandin.. This works out pretty welll for us..
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
It's great that you can work things out.
• Singapore
15 Jan 07
In any relationship or marriage there are bound to have agreements and disagreements. Argument may be healthy in the sense that one gets to understand the other party better, the way he/she thinks, etc... However, to argue for the sake of argument is not healthy. One shouldn't get physical after any arguments. Sometimes words said in an argument can hurt the other party badly thus its best to keep the argument to a minimum.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
Can't avoid arguments, but it would be nice to keep them to a minimum.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
15 Jan 07
Yes, sometimes, we just can not agree and there is usually about something ridicilous that is not even worth fighting over.... I would probaby not back down if it was something that i felt very very strongly about though, but i have a hard time seeing us fight over something like that!
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
Thanks for your input.
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
we rarely do arguments.. if such situations occur then i mostly stay quiet rather then indulge in aimless arguments. my husband when cool down realize his mistakes and come to em by himself and sorry for his sayings... so some times little quietness worth a while.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
My husband goes quiet. It drives me crazy.
• United States
15 Jan 07
No, we don't hold back anything. If the arguement gets bad, one of us will walk away to cool down. Then we try talking about it again. We never go to bed angrey. Usually one of us will see the other's point. If we both are right, then we have to agree on what to do then in order for us both to be happy. I love the communication we both have with each other.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
16 Jan 07
It sounds like you have things under control. God Bless You.