How emotionally intelligent are you?
January 16, 2007 2:53am CST
1. When I am emotionally hurt I can disguise it well from others. A: Agree B: Disagree 2. I might never get over things, which upset me. B: Agree A: Disagree 3. I usually know how someone is feeling before they tell me. A: Agree B: Disagree 4. Things which worry me cannot be dismissed easily from my mind. B: Agree A: Disagree 5. Most people are doing their best in difficult circumstances. A: Agree B: Disagree 6. I am more moved by things I see on TV than people I meet. B: Agree A: Disagree 7. For things to improve I need to change more than others do. B: Agree A: Disagree 8. I don’t know what people really think of me. A: Agree B: Disagree 9. Given enough time, I could cheer almost anyone up. B: Agree A: Disagree 10. I hate haggling, even if it would make something cheaper. A: Agree B: Disagree 8 or more As:You are scoring very highly indeed in emotional intelligence and this may expla in your ability to continue functioning fairly well even in the grip of strong emotions. Your superior control over your emotions means that even when angry you are often able to remain fairly civil, while lower scorers resort to rudeness and aggression. Your understanding of the emotion others invoke in you ,and your ability to control these feeling s, explains why you may be able to get on with a much wider variety of people than lower scorers, and this skill of co- operation will explain your greater likelihood of career and relationship success in life. 6 or 7 As: above average for emotional intelligence and this may explain your superior abili ty(compared to lower scorers) to understand quickly what others are feelings. One possible problem you may encounte is tha t your skills in handling your own and others emotions leads you to focus too much on getting on with others, and to n eglect other ingredients, to success in life, like hard work and having good ideas. One of the reasons others may turn to you for advice is your ability to act wisely in human relations. Between 3 and 5 As; Average for social intelligence, and this means your understanding of yo ur own current emotional state might not be quite as insightful as higher scorers. Certain goals, perhaps like financ ial success, take priority in your life over getting on with others, and yet no matter how many of these goals you attain, you remain relatively unhappy. This means you may not yet have understood what emotions in your life are really im portant to you, or what causes them. Your happy. May be linked to your chronic need for praise siblings or your partner. Only when you understand what you really need can your EQ score go up. Between 0 and 2 As: very low in emotional intelligence and this is probably explained by you r inability to divert attention from concern with your own emotions to being more sensitive to how others are feel ing. You may feel there is too much emphasis on politeness as you like to break social rules and are not afraid of a lienating others to get what you want. The more emotionally intelligent way is to get others to enjoy giving you what you want. You are perhaps too impatient with others to be in control of your emotional state, and only when you gain m ore emotional control will the impulsive, temperamental side of your nature improve.