How do you forgive a parent?

United States
October 4, 2006 2:00pm CST
Say, You have confronted this person, given this person more chances then you should have, but they say they want to change but keep on being the same way. You have accepted that they will never change, they are just mentally ill and there is nothing you can do.. But the emotional scars this person left was at such a young age that you have grown as habit to believe and accept as truth. And no matter what you do this pain still persists and ppl all around turn into this parent and patronize you (in personality and actions)not literally, duh. How do you get over this even when you understand the entire thing? Please no religious oriented answers.
1 person likes this
5 responses
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
Umh.... I don;t know.. I always hear my parents say. Try to ask them to hear Ur voice. Or make a deal in paper and ask them to sign in. My parent want to do that. Sorry if I missunderatnd what U explain. I'm not too good in English
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
Ah.. so sorry... it's lagh and it double post. How to remove my post? So sorry
• United States
4 Dec 06
thats ok i know about the double post sometimes you cant help it. lol thank you for the advice i appreciate it.
@vinaykant (814)
• India
3 Dec 06
i do not think But the emotional scars this person left was at such a young age that you have grown as habit to believe and accept as truth. And no matter what you do this pain still persists and ppl all around turn into this parent and patronize you (in personality and actions)not literally, duh.
• United States
4 Dec 06
dont copy me thats not cool and its annoying. what? you dont have anything to say or just are an idiot.??
• United States
14 Oct 06
I see you found the answer that suited you. good luck to you.
• United States
4 Dec 06
well, whatever doesnt mean we still cant have a conversation. ya kno.
• India
14 Oct 06
ya i understand tat but i was never in tat situation before...its really an irritating one... if i am employed and if i can manage the family with out this person then i would not step back to send tat person to an old age home... else i see no other options then to change his behaviour.. maybe i'm not good to ans this but at this moment i think this way..may be my decision changes later with time or experience..understanding other person is very difficult..even if its ur own parent or any other person..
• United States
14 Oct 06
Thanks..
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
Umh.... I don;t know.. I always hear my parents say. Try to ask them to hear Ur voice. Or make a deal in paper and ask them to sign in. My parent want to do that. Sorry if I missunderatnd what U explain. I'm not too good in English