Going the extra mile

Singapore
October 4, 2006 10:15pm CST
How far will you go for a friend? Lending money or acts of kindness? For me, it's really doing things for the person..
12 responses
@ssh123 (31103)
• India
6 Oct 06
If he is a close friend, I would have known his family problems too. If he needs money, I do not hesitate giving him whatever possible for me. I also would like to help him in whatever form of help he needs. Throughout my life, friends have helped me a lot.
• Singapore
6 Oct 06
You have good friends around you! =) It's always more blessed to be able to give! =)
@ssh123 (31103)
• India
6 Oct 06
I am a staunch follower of saying: THERE IS GREATER PLEASURE IN GIVING AND TAKING Secondly some eldersly person quoted from VEDAS (our sacred books), more you give more you get. I do not give to get more. More you get, more the headache is my saying.
• Singapore
6 Oct 06
That's an interesting saying =) I also believe that it is a blessing to be able to give =)
@MGjhaud (20697)
• Philippines
6 Oct 06
as long as for the better. lending money isn't really the basis. when things goin wrong to a close friend, its not really doing all the work for her/him. talk to him for good things to do. guide her/him which is better to do.
• Singapore
6 Oct 06
Understanding the situation is indeed important so that you can do what's best for the person.. thanks for sharing! =)
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@MGjhaud (20697)
• Philippines
10 Oct 06
you're welcome. =) no problem.
@LaGitana (278)
• United States
7 Oct 06
GREAT question. I'm not sure how to answer. I suppose in any moment it is different. I believe we should give our friend the shirt off our back if they ask for it (and if we have another one for ourself). I believe we should not be a doormat, and simply enable a weak friend who is literally sucking life force from us when they are perfectly capable of helping themself. However, everyone needs support and love and encouragement beyond what they can dredge up for themselves at different parts of their lives. Kindness and generosity with boundaries, is my motto. Always give. But as they say in the airline industry, "Put your own oxygen mask on first." If you don't, you may have nothing at all to give anyone else.
• Singapore
8 Oct 06
That's a very interesting analogy.. i believe in striking a balance in everything as well.. thanks for sharing! =)
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
6 Oct 06
my dear never mix business with kindness both can't and will never go hand in hand, so when it comes to lending money to a friend dude i must tell you once i give that sum of money out i as well take it that the money ain't coming back. because the chances of money lend to a friend coming back to you is barely 10% lol
• Singapore
7 Oct 06
Thanks for the advice.. i do agree that when money is lent out to a friend, there is a high chance that it will not be recovered.. that's why if i ever lend money, i will definitely have that expectation that i'm blessing this friend and that the money will probably be gone for good =)
@psmohan (1883)
• India
6 Oct 06
Not to the extent of lending money or anything. This will preserve the friendship. You can help him physically but not monetarily. This could break friendship or atleast hatred will develop
• Singapore
6 Oct 06
Yeah, i do agree that monetary issues can spoil the friendship.. i guess a lot of things have to be done with discretion =)
• United States
5 Oct 06
If a good friend of mine needs money I would help them out as much as I could. I would do anything for my friends
• Singapore
6 Oct 06
Your friends are blessed to have you as a friend! =)
@blazonvj (430)
• India
8 Oct 06
i wiil lend money as long as i have it..and act of kindness...hmmm...thats something i'll do till my last breath...friends are forever...cannot leave them when they are in need of us
@bblessed (1822)
• United States
8 Oct 06
You have to walk a mile in their shoes
• India
7 Oct 06
i have my friends at college. i love them and they too. i don anything for my friends coz ther worth my life
@vipul20044 (5799)
• India
7 Oct 06
friends are so hard to find I can go zillions of miles, outta the blues for a friend and yes that depends ! Return something to someone with whom you can expect things from It isnt that if you give something , you should alwasy expect to get something But yes you cant even imagine just giving away
@rakleen (566)
• India
6 Oct 06
IF HE IS A GOOD FRIEND OF MINE.......I CAN DO ANYTHING FOR HER/HIS.
• United States
5 Oct 06
The Lucy show says to be a friend to the friendless showing random acts of kindness. lol