What do you think about long distance relationship?

United States
January 16, 2007 5:21pm CST
Recently my girlfriend broke up with me and the only reason that she put forward was the "distance". She said that she couldn't take it anymore. Are there other people with the same problem? if so, please write about your experience...
4 responses
• Malaysia
16 Jan 07
Oops... Sorry to hear that. How long u have been in the long distance relationship? I have been in that kind of relationship as well. But it doesnt last long. Though I have to say that ever since from beginning I am in the long distance relationship already. My x was sooo irritating. Kept on checking on me, just to see whether I cheated on him or not. I had no space to breathe, I had to report everything to him, no clubbing allowed, not even hanging out with my friends though it's mixed (guys and girls). It just didn't make any sense at all. Thus, I broke up with him. But to be honest, even though I have no problem in those. I still think that eventually we will broke up. Cuz distance is such a major problem for me. That's the biggest barrier, cuz when u need somebody by your side, he won't be able to stand by u. And all the trust issues. At first, trust might not be a big deal, but sooner or later it will. Oh well, I do hope u can cope with ur probs though :).
• United States
16 Jan 07
hope so:)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 07
r u still keeping in touch with her?
@biwasaki (1746)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I've been in a long distance relationship before and it is HARD work. You have to be able to trust the other person completely. If there are trust issues, its very hard to make a long distance relationship work because you'll always be wondering if that person is being honest with you. Also, you have to deal with hardly ever being with the other person. Relationships are about making connections on a mental and physical level. Its hard to sustain a relationship if the physical aspect isn't there. In my opinion, if you are both willing to work at the relationship it can work out. But it will take work from BOTH people.
• United States
16 Jan 07
thanks for the response. Well i was ready to do it. But at the moment she doesn't even want to talk to me. She said that she cannot even be like friends anymore. From this I cannot understand whether she loves me a lot that she cannot even talk to me as a friend or she doesn't want to talk to me because she seeing somebody else...:(
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Well I was in a long distance relationship twice, the 1st time being I could not take the distance, I like to be able to be with my special someone and not have to plan trips, I like to be able to say "Hey I'm coming over or vice versa. To me it's hard, I have a friend who was in a long distance relationship for 6 months until he moved here where she was. I guess my question to you, is this distance "temporary" or "Permanent"? that also can play a factor as to why she could not take the long distance relationship...
• United States
16 Jan 07
thanks for the response. It was a permanent one, and i can understand her. I can understand everything, but i love her sooooo much that i just cannot accept the truth. anyway thanx once again..:)
@lilmeowsy (685)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
Honestly, I've never had a long distance relationship. The furthest I've had was someone who was still living here in the same country where I live. It's just that, I live in the city while he lives in the province. It didn't work out because we hardly have time for each other since we are both busy doing other things like work and other extra curricular stuff. I never want to go through the same relationship again. There are times when I can endure being in one but the truth is, once you miss that special someone of yours, you can't help but feel lonely and go on wishing that he was there with you instead of being somewhere else. It's a very sad experience. I never want to be in a long distance relationship again ever! ^^