Who's Guilty?

@Chapman15 (1503)
United States
January 16, 2007 7:06pm CST
Today I caught myself telling a story and trying to make it sound more exciting! Why would anyone do this? I'm not sure on some levels, because I really have nothing to prove by the story... I just didn't want it to sound boring I guess... I know I may change the way I tell a story telling one of my friends opposed to my mom, but why do we try to emphasize things that weren't all that important in the first place? After a deeper psychoanalysis of myself, I found that in each case I embellished or emphasized a certian part, it was to grab the persons attention... Was it because I could tell they were on the verge of being uninterested? Or is it feeling of the importance of the given story that needs to be highlighted?
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Interesting thought there. I have found myself embellishing the delivery of a story more often then changing the details. Sometimes I will add a story within a story just to make it sound better, but I only do that because it is a related story. I think deep down inside the reason why we tell stories a certain way or embellish certain details of the story is to entertain people. If we are telling a funny story we always want peopl eto laugh. If we are telling an interesting story we always want people to listen. Subconsciously we can read their body language and tell if they are into the story or not and that may trigger something in our brain that tells us to spice up the story a bit. Me, I tell mostly funny stories. I add all kinds of gestures and even sound effects to the story to get people laughing. So you could say that I am adding to the story to make it sound better. As long as it gets my audience laughing then I certainly don't mind.
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Well, I knew this was coming from you, as I read your post on wanting to become a stand up comic... By the way how's that going? It's interesting what you wrote about body language, because I was swooped up in the poker craze for awhile, and I do think it is subconscious. I really couldn't tell when someone was bluffing most of the time, but sometimes you just have that feeling that maybe you subliminally picked up! Anyways, I think your right we most definately change our story based on the listeners reaction!
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I am putting together some material, but since the holiday I haven't been able to get myself into any kind of rhythm with writing, or taking pictures or anything really. It's crazy not being able to work right now and establish any kind of rhythm. Hopefully I'll bounce back here soon and get myself into some kind of routine where I can think and get all of my ideas out. Right now life is just too random for me!
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Sounds rough, maybe you could twist some of the bad things that have been happening to you into a bit! Sometimes the funniest things are about suffering! I know everytime one of my old college buddies left for a break, something funny sould happen like a maltov burning his hair, a couple nails through the foot, or a shaved eyebrow when he passed out! All kinds of good funny stuff happens during bad times lol!
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
18 Jan 07
there's the story-teller in chapman! :) hey, there's nothing wrong about emphasizing things or embellishing them, as long as you're not deviating from the truth (unless it's fiction), that's fine. you want to keep your audience, that's the normal way to do it - make it sound exciting!
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
18 Jan 07
So, I have your approval? That's all I need in the world lol!
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
19 Jan 07
yes, my approval and my blessings! go, tell your stories, blabber and embellish to your heart's content! :)
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
20 Jan 07
You don't need to tell me twice lol!
@inked4life (4228)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I do that all the time. Sometimes, making conversation is just pain ful for me, especially when there is nothing really important to talk about. One way to make it seem important or interesting is to spice it up a little, not by lying, just embellishing a little
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
When I tell a boring story I try to channel into what other people at the scene were thinking if it needs spice lol! I also try to use hand movements and body gyrations lol!
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I guess maybe I could get a clip and put it on youtube or something lol!
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Wow .... You have really come up with quite a topic with this one. I also find that i do this and i also change the way i tell a story to certain people as you also do. I never actually change too much of the story itself though just the way i like you said emphasize things!
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Sometimes you have to over compensate for a lame story lol! I guess were all actors to some extent...
• United States
17 Jan 07
Let's face it, we all like to be entertainers at times and we change things in a story or place more emphasis on certain parts of a story to maintain our audience or get the reaction we are seeking from them. It isn't that we are trying to be hurtful of the subject of our conversation, we just like to be sensational and what is more sensational than embellishing or emphasising parts of a story that grab your attention. While caught up in the energy of the response from our audience we are capable of just about anything. It is only after we come down from this very emotional high that we begin to realise what we have in fact done sometimes. At least that's my thoughts on it.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
LOL, that's a great analysis! I do seek a certain reaction, and when I don't get it I raise the stakes!
• United States
17 Jan 07
This is funny because I have caught myslef doing this too. I have noticed that I mainly make my stories sound better when I am telling them face to face and I think that maybe they are bored with it. It is not bad as long as you are not lieing, I mean you are just trying to keep someones interest.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think it goes along the lines of, at the end of the story you don't want to say, "You just had to be there I guess"
@shywolf (4523)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that it is for both reasons that you stated. To get/grab the person's attention, and to try to highlight the importance of the given story. I am sure that we all are guilty of doing this at one time or another. I hope that I have never made up an outright lie to make a story more interesting, lol! I can't remember a time that I have.. but I have certainly embellished and tried to think of ways to make it sound more interesting. It is just human nature to do so, i feel. ^_^
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Oh yea, I have lied before, but I have to tell myself that it wasn't anything that hurt anyone or changed the words of anyone, just that extra hot sauce it needs!
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
17 Jan 07
In a way, it might be a hidden desire to be accepted or please people. You want people to hear your stories and therefore think highly of you for telling them a great story. It is an ego related desire. You don't want to sound boring to others or be perceived as a boring person. If you discover that someone views you as boring, you will go into a panic and take that person's judgment of you to be true. There is no judgment that matters except the one you give to your self. There is nothing wrong in embellishing a story if your purpose is to express your feelings about it. If you fail at getting other people excited, it does not mean anything. Perhaps, you need practice in telling stories, or, others are not in the mood to be captivated. The importance you place on a story might not agree with how others see it. That is of no consequence. It is your view that counts to you. It is fine to express your true feelings when telling a story. That is the kind of person you are. There is more than one way to tell a story and more than one way to intensify it.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
You definately analyzed the toppic the most! I do agree that it's all about pleasing the listener, and integrating feelings, I thought men weren't supposed to have those lol... I guess I need to start judging myself better and figure out what exactly I'm embellishing on, and wether it makes the story less factual!
@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
17 Jan 07
hihihhi It is funny. If you were my friend in real all I could say that you are totally stupid. hihihihi Sorry, but you are an idiot..
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
lol, thanks for the big confidence boost my friend!
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think most people make discussions sound more exciting for attention reasons. You dont want to seem boring, or overenthusiastic. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you dont make it a habit. You dont want to be known as a story teller either. Good topic. Best of luck to you!
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yeah, nobody wants to get caught doing it all the time, because it will turn into the boy who cried wolf!
@Ambur25 (1007)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I'm not sure exactly what you mean... Is it like. lying to make the story more interesting? Or just putting emphasis on certain things of the story? Either way, it's probably just like you said. It's always more interesting to tell a story with some "amazing" outcome. Who wants to hear, "I went to the store today, and guess what? I bought milk!" There's not much excitement in that. Lol. But if you went to the store and saw a celebrity buying milk, THAT would be more interesting. =P
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think it's a little of both... I like to emphasize things in the story and the emphasized part may be a lie or it may just be a stretch of the truth lol!
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I do the same thing all the time and I fell as there is nothing worng with it, I fell as if I want to keep ther peson interested! Just dont over do it and then start putting lies in it becasue in time you will get caught!
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I thought white lies were okay!?! Just that your not covering up a large skeleton in the closet!
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
Stories, however you tell them will always have different effects on the receiver, there are a lot of factors that affect each reaction, even yourself. You caught yourself? good! at least you noticed, Your delivery of the story might have varied due to the reaction you perceived your audience is giving you, realizing later somethings should have been done differently. Be thankful you still have that psychoanalysis of self thing. Realization comes after an event comes, just remember to be kind to yourself.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
What have I just done!?! I told them I was a black belt and they want me to fight this burgler! Just kidding, but I get what your saying!
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I think I embellish the story to make it funnier. I don't think it's the same as lying. I think we all do it. I have heard people telling stories and was with them when it happened, and they also add to it.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yeah, I guess it depends on the perspective of a person. When 9 people see the same thing happen there will be 9 different accounts of that story!
@nuttmeg (441)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I sometimes do this too, usually to snazz it up a bit for the inevitable punchline. Who knows, but I'm always going for the humorous side of things. I also tend to dress it down more with my mother, or tell her the more boring version anyway, unless I'm going for shock value *halo*. I think that when I do it, it's because of wanting to grab the person's attention, to impress and not sound boring. I can't usally keep up with it, however, because my mind's often racing 3,000 miles per minute and I end up spacing on what I'm saying anyway, so I try avoid it instead of risking sounding like a complete idiot (not always successfully, mind you). If they seem uninterested, then I'm usually one to just mutter the last part and be done with it--why bother lol.
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Yeah, it's easy to mellow it out to the folks and reltives, but I bet they know what is really going on... My mom will always interject things like "So, how drunk were you when that happened?" Lol, oh well mom's got a right to know when her son's lying!
• Portugal
17 Jan 07
My opinion it´s that you like when you are telling stories and also liked to get the people attention and for ma there´s nothing wrong with it.
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Thanks, I still don't understand why I need to throw in the stupid BS stuff that isn't relevant to the main point...
@brimia (6584)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I notice a lot of people doing this including my mom and cousins. I guess most people don't want to find themselves telling an uninteresting story because why would you bother telling the story in the first place?
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@avs189 (1031)
• India
17 Jan 07
I feel that its ok for u to read stories to get attention but make it point to ensure that it shouldnt be bluffed or exaggerated in most of cases as it does...so try to ensure that ur within ur limits and dont go haywire trying to be fantastic or imaginative,superfical or artificial!!!!
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• Lampe, Missouri
17 Jan 07
i think for the most part we do this to get people interested in what we have to say. we are not really try to lie or change the story in any way just want it to sound cool so to speek.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
me
@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
18 Jan 07
You just earned a minus muahahahahaha!