Getting married though online chatting

Malaysia
January 16, 2007 10:02pm CST
I have a friend who found her love through internet chatting. Until now she is happy with her life and I really think she is lucky indeed. But I wonder how many of us really believe in love through internet chatting? Please share your thoughts with me here. Thanks.
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14 responses
• India
18 Jan 07
I believe that internet chatting and marriages can be successfull and there is no harm to know people here online and spend your life with them.
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• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
Yeah, I believe so. Life is so full of mystery. We can find our true love just anywhere.
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
indeed your friend was really lucky to find her love through the internet...my cousin found her husband by sending snail mail before when having a pen pal was a fad...it doesn't matter how they found each other, what matters is that they are happy and love each other...
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• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
Yeah, it's true. True love is to be found everywhere no matter internet or outside internet.
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@bluewings (3857)
4 Mar 07
I have heard about internet relationships that resulted in tying the knot.Haven't known anyone personally who got married or fell in love through net.I think it's quite possible given the fact that on internet you can exchange your views on umpteen topics you might be hesitant to talk to a complete stranger about when face to face.Sure helps to know how a person thinks ,feels or reacts in such circumstances.I think the downside is that whatever is being said is just theory and not a real life situation where you could see the person react the way he/she thinks he might.Also, the darker side remains invisible.I came across one that asked whether you prefer a known devil over an unknown God, of course a figurative one.My take is ,it's possible to have a happy relationship even if it takes off through the net given that both are honest and ready to learn more as they go along.
• Malaysia
12 Jul 07
You're right. Thanks for the reply.
@bezzamae (447)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
ive heard a lot of the same scenarios just like what your friend experienced. maybe it wasnt just chatting.. like calling on the phone or whatever means of communication. there's nothing wrong with that as long as both is happy.. at least they have found love in a very unique way.
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• Malaysia
4 Mar 07
Yeah, I have to agree with you. With today's technology, it is quite impossible to resist from calling by phone isn't it? After online chatting there must be some type of other direct communication which we can know each other more deeply. Gee... thanks for your opinion.
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I think if two people online are honest, it would be easier to fall in love with them than offline. You will be falling in love with the person and not their looks ro their wealth. This can only happen if both are honest, but most of the time they are not. Online dating is dangerous and scary. People can hide who and what they really are, so I hope everyone is very careful when they are doing this.
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• Malaysia
27 Feb 07
Yeah, I do think that people who got married through online chatting are very lucky indeed. God loves them and had destined them a very wonderful good luck in the online chatting. I have no objections on browsing for soulmates through online. I am happy for them, and I hope good luck will always be on their side. When two person fall in love not because of looks, wealth or any physical attractions... it is SO romantic.
• Oman
1 Feb 07
i have two friends who are having long distance relationships with guys through internet. theyve even gone to visit them and the guys have come here to meet them. their relationships have been going on for years and they are happy with it. now they are planning to migrate and move in with their boyfriends. it works for some people but it would never work for me. i need to be able to see the guy and talk to him to decide and long distance relationships are not for me. out of sight is out of mind
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• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
ha ha ha... well... it's up to you...
• United States
1 Feb 07
I was a product of that! I met my honey on myspace! I was actually a non believer to those things. I've had these online bfs since I was 13, nothing serious just for fun..it was just funny saying I had an "online bf" lol But never in my life did i think online dating was worth it. I thought, its not the same when you see someone in person. Then it hit me, EXACTLY A YEAR AGO, (and two weeks) I met this wonderful guy on myspace. We took it to online chatting and we both found a lot of things we had in common. I MEAN A LOT!! It gave me chills! The after 6 months of chatting, he finally came down to Miami to see me. I WAS A NERVOUS WRECK!! I'm thinking in my head. This is not going to turn out like expect. Well, make story short. It wasn't.. IT WAS BETTER!! I truly feel I found my soulmate! The only hurtful thing is its a long distance relationship :( but we see each other frequently through out the year. I guess what I'm saying is, ALL IS POSSIBLE!! Not everybody is destined to find true love online, but it is, i repeat IT IS POSSIBLE!!
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• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
Wow... how wonderful... it makes me stop for a while and think... maybe online chatting gives us more choice to select whom we think will fit us best, isn't it? Wow...
@smartnrich (1067)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 07
Thats is possible nowdays.the love will come after they know each others. Chatting is some of the way to get it, and they can meet after that and on that time its not an online relationship anymore, but the real world.How about you.Do you believe it?
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• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
Hmmm... yeah... I do believe that. One of my friends (I don't mean to offend her, I am just giving an example)... she is quite not attractive. I mean... maybe she's not confident enough to dress up and be more talkative around men... so she always ended up in a relationship through online... After a while she decided to meet the guy and it always ended up with the guy leaving her... just because she's not attractive to look at. But she never give up, she continued searching through online... and one day his prince charming was found... at last! Now she is already engaged with the online guy and I always pray for her happiness. The last time I saw her she looked happy, content, and to my surprise she looks attractive! Well... that's the miracle of love, I suppose... lol...
@dhigambaram (1133)
• India
22 Jan 07
hey guys this is dhigambaram, from india this same thing happened with me.Well im dng my Third Engineering vell vell when i was 2nd year i got a an yahoo id of gal...nd i juss keep msgs here...after sumtym she also msging me ....as days goes we became gud .....the main thing is she is studing in my college af8 three months ...but i meet her nly nly af8 af8 my semester upto dat i always contacting her with online chating....now is she is every tng for me .... nd i love her she 2ooo ....v frequently meeting..... always chating thro'yahoo.... so online chating is my gr8....else iim lucky ....then wot else ...guys ........njoy life ...!!!
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• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
ha ha ha.... good for you! You're so lucky! Congratulations and don't forget to inform all of us when you are getting married! lol...
• United States
22 Jan 07
I'm still hopeful that I will find someone online. I've chatted with at least 4 guys regularly in the past and all promised to visit me here in the Philippines but after months, they just disappear. I don't like Filipino guys so I have no choice but to wait. I've tried looking but it only looks like I'm trying too hard. So sometimes I just sit and wait and sometimes someone would just start emailing me or start to chat with me. Right now I have email penpals and I think it's better to make friends than to rush things.
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
Yes. A lifetime relationship can't be rushed. I've a friend who was dumped by his boyfriend after having a 7 year relationship. She was so frustrated and made the decision to get engaged to a guy she just knew a month before from online chatting. But the engagement was put off a month later due to major personal issues. A month after that, she got engaged to another guy also from online. And this time she tied the knot (got married) three months after the engagement which I think was too early. Now they are married for almost two years, and I hope they are happy.
• United States
17 Jan 07
I would say that is more than internet chatting right? Or does she only talk 2 him online
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• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
She had done some talking through the phone at times.
@tintusam (1169)
• India
29 Jan 07
i think it is not worth to marry one through chatting. it is good to have a chat friend or girlfriend. but its not good to marry.
• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
Maybe you got some bitter experience with online chatting... thinking of sharing it with me and all our friends here? I sure do want to know about your experience....
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Just curious why you think that? I met my husband online, and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life! :) Did you have a bad experience?
@ladyjava (1186)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 07
Me and my husband are living testament of your topic here. We met while chatting in a Malaysia yahoo chat room and casual talking turn to friendship and we found love. We met at one of a gathering organized by the room moderators and the rest is history. Been married now coming to 7 years in March and never regretted one minute of it... Goes to show when destiny places it's part nothing is impossible :)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 07
Wow... have you ever thought that IF you didn't do a small thing in the beginning... I mean if you didn't make the decision to chat in the yahoo room that PARTICULAR day, you won't be marrying him now? I mean, it is a very slim chance. If you missed him that split moment, he would never be discovered and you won't be married to him now... lol... Wow... that's what is called destiny... Are you from Malaysia? Which part?
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
4 Feb 07
Yep, it is definitely possible! I met a man online, and we began chatting, then calling each other on the phone, and eventually we met in person after awhile. We're engaged to be married in 2008, so it happens! lol
• Malaysia
8 Feb 07
congratulations! You're so lucky indeed. Let me know your wedding date okay... lol... even though I can't attend I sure will pray for you! LOL... Well, I think it is all about 'being comfortable' with someone... don't you think so? I mean, if you found someone no matter where... and you're comfortable being around him... then... ZAPP!! The fire is on and there you are... falling in love and getting married... ;D