What kind of advice do you give?

If someone asks my advice I always tell them that the best i can do is to listen to their issues. i dont decide for them or tell them what they must do. these people turn to us because they need and wanted to be heard--and that's what they really need, a shoulder to lean on, a ready ear that will give ease their extra baggages. So I tell them..."ok, do you want to talk about it? you can trust me...I will listen." And if they will ask me what will be the best thing do solve their problem...I'll just say.."You decide, that's you life and only you who can figure out what's the best thing to do. Just remember, it is never selfish to do what is just rather than doing what you or others think is right. At the end of the day..it is you who will bear all the consequences of your action."

I try to stay out of it. Especially when it is a couple I am friends with. I will just say something like,"Well, I hope you two work it out", or something to that effect. Nothing good ever comes out of giving advice to friends who are having problems with each other. Let them work it out. Now you can really be the insensitive B**ch, and not tell him a thing! He did not really want to know what his wife was feeling, he wanted someone to tell him he was right. He should have asked someone he thought would lie to him.lol

I try to give advice mainly cause that is what they were asking for. I think your case is more unique in the fact that he got mad at you. I wouldn't think most people would. You were just being honest so I wouldn't worry about it, he'll come around. You know the saying sometimes the truth hurts.

If someone comes to me and asks me for advice, I usually assume that the person wants an HONEST opinion. I always tell them how I would deal with the problem they are facing. The key is to do it in a gentle manner, and most of all, don't be judgemental. Try not to use phrases like "you should do this"...instead, say "I would do this". Definitely don't say things like "you shouldn't have done that".....instead, say "I would try a different approach". People don't like to feel as though they are being blamed for all the troubles they are going through, so it's best to shift the focus away from them, and speak hypothetically.

marital advice is a delicate issue. Do not advice anybody unless you know the whole stories and in details. Don't give advice that you might later regret that if I had known the whole story, I would have advice him or her differently. hold your lip tight, if he really needs your adivce, let him tell you the whole sotry of what is going on in his marriage

I have always given my opinion about people when i feel like it isn't going to bite me in the butt but when I know its going to help them its out on the table. I am known for the laying is out on the table type of person.

If they want the honest truth to the advice I tell them so. I won't just tell them what they want to hear. I would never want someone to do that to me. If they don't like what I tell them so be it. Next time they can ask someone else

Oh I try to tell them what might help. And many times, that is NOT what they really want. Most are wanting to be reassured it's not their fault and that is it. Over the years I have learned to let them pick before I speak. I will say do you want the truth or do you want appeasing? If they say truth, then they get it.

I think that it depends a lot on the person that is asking you for advice, and the situation. In some cases you can kind of tell that the perosn is just wanting positive reinforcement. I'm sorry though that your friend now thinks of you badly because of your advice :/ It sounds to me like you were just trying to be a true, helpful friend. I think that I usually try to give the bset advice that I can, but it's really tricky when I have a feeling that the other person might not like what I have to tell them. I really don't like being in that situation *laugh* So I might try to tell them as softly as I can, in that case.

Honestly, when it comes to peoples' relationships, I usually just stick with telling them about my personal experiences and how I dealt with similar situations. Most of the time, I choose not to involve myself in someone else's love life. I'm not saying that i wouldn't be there for them and listen. I just try not to tell them what they should do. My opinion shouldn't matter in their relationship anyway.

i try to weigh things first and then give my personal view of the situation.. i try not to criticize them or show that i disagree with them.. they want you to listen to them and have your views the same.. but it is not that you have the same view of the situation all the time.. in cases like that, i just listen to what they want will happen next.. and then, cite some advantages and disadvantages.. if they will insist with their opinion, ill just tell them "anyway, its still you who will decide, the final decision is yours.. im just giving my point of view.." and of course the line:"whatever will happen, im just here..."^^

i think saying what they want to hear is like telling them that its ok to be insensitive.. you should really tell them what you think about their problem and try to make some suggestions about fixing it.. but if they still refuse to listen then maybe they really have a problem -- attitude problem that is--..which also means that their mind wont accept any corrections..its like having no sense about asking for advice..^_^

Know we dont have to tell them the things which hurt him try to explain the same thing in different way .. do u know what im saying!!!

It's can both way to your solution. A listener need to be neutral in any sense of solving problems.Its will help you a lot to think on both side.Never Never listen to one site story. its my humble experience and i'm sharing towards your's.

I give advice based on my knowledge and personal experience. If people are offended by my advice, then that is their problem, not mine.

well i have many friends who ask me advice also and all i said to them is what i think is right and what i think i feel. I dont care if that means they are wrong or right. The important is i share them what i think is the right thing to do in that situation. it is hard to agree with the people you are giving advice so better be yourself.

Heya, for me it is somewhere in the middle. I try to tell them what I think will help and focus more on that but I also tell they in a way that i think they want to hear it and will respond to it better. Unfortunately when it comes to communicating with people, often what is actually being said is lost in the delivery. Not saying this is what happened to you of course, just that i try to allow for this when giving advice. Sorry that your friend took your advice so badly, maybe he is just in a bad space in his life at the moment. I hope you can resolve things if thats what you want to do of course. Tanika.

When someone asks my advice I usually start out saying "don't ask if you don't want to know". Then I tell them what I really think. I feel that if they want to hear something special then maybe they just need to talk to themselves. lol I don't sugar coat anything.

If you're a real friend you give them advice that you think will help them. . . and if they're a real friend, they will appreciate it.

whenever someone asks me for advice, i give them my honest opinion on what i think he or she should do to able to resolve the situation. sometimes they follow me sometimes they don't. sometimes also it's frustrating coz it's very clear on what they should do, they just don't want to do it. it's good to give advices but still it's their decision.