Somebody from Mylot wants to meet me - What should I do?

Japan
January 17, 2007 12:16am CST
I've been chatting to a man online who I met on Mylot for a week or so now. He seems really nice and it turns out that he lives near where I am. Last night, he told me that he wants to meet me? What should I do? Do you think that I should meet him? He seems nice.. I told him that I'd wait for Mylot user responses before I told him my answer!! It's a democracy! kumiko xo
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@rick615 (413)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I am sure there are a lot of nice people here. Some are probaly not so nice. I think you should find out some personal information from him, like workplace, friends, etc - and check and see if he is for real. Then if you still want to, meet in a very public place and do not go anywhere else with him the first time. Take a friend with you if you want to be safe. If he won't agree to that, then I'd skip the meet. If you do not want someone right there, then ask a couple of friends to meet in a booth or seat next to where you meet this guy, so they can help if needed. Or just for support. Yes, I am cautious, but I have two daughters. If you do meet with him, have a good time!
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@opinder (421)
• India
17 Jan 07
I agree. Why not take a little more time? If he means no harm......he'll surely understand and wait.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
if your really i doubt of meeting him. always remember that everything takes time..
@brielevan (238)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 07
please follow your heart, my dear kumiko :) I think it's fine to meet new friend that you know on the net. Maybe you can find some public place for the meeting. And don't go alone. At least ask your friend to accompany you.
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@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
I agree to that, too. I dont think she might wait. Wait for what ??? If she waits that means that she will reach to think that he's a good mate for her, but not to push the matters. But what if HE IS NOT A SUCH GOOD MAN ?? Better is to meet him and to see if they are a good couple together. Not to waste anymore time.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
follow your woman's intuition...
• Thailand
17 Jan 07
I don't find anything wrong in meeting new friends. Be careful though, be sure that you have known him for quite somtime to trust him =). I may suggest that you meet in some public place, then maybe you could learn more about him. Its quite different making a conversation online than in person.
@123456_ (1053)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
oohh really?! i have no idea that this happens also here at mylot. on my opinion there's nothing wrong with that (except that i dont really buy that meet up after chatting setup.. that is if i am the girl involve). but if you feel like liking ang knowing him well go meet him but be sure that you've got your friends to back you up when you are with him. no offense on the guys side but really you have to be with somebody else when you meet him its because you are a girl, in fact as i see your pix you are a pretty one. its not that we don't trust the guy but you have to be cautious. by the way if you decided to meet him goodluck to both of you. keep me posted about this okay? im wishing you the best!
@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
often the ugly girls invoke reasons to not meet the others, and they reason that maybe "HE's not OK", not that they are as a crap .... LOL. Kumiko is a very sweet girl, a top lady, I am sure she will know what is good for her in any situation.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
i think kumiko is a phony... she tells titilating little discuusions just to get you guys all giddy...
• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't really know, because I Know nothing about this guys character. I met my girlfriend on line a while back and our relationship is great. I am really happy. Most people say it is a bad idea but i guess you can pretty much know when you are dealing with a creep. I see it like this if he ever made you feel like he was creepy, even remotely don't do it!! Otherwise follow your heart because when it comes down to it it's your life and whatever decision you make you have to live with it. Just be safe.
@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
One can know better the soul of a loved one when discussing with him than when seeing him, because they discuss together as two minds, not as two bodies -LOL . What is more safe is to see him immediately. Think at that as of meeting soemone else that she knew offline and invited her to drink a coffe together in a bar. What harm could be that for her ?? I really don't understand your "care" about being "safe" and other crap. Never is too late to step back if something goes wrong, don't you think? BTW, I think that she is enough smart to go meet him in public places, not in any shaddy place or night club, don't you think ?? Kumiko is a top lady, be sure of that !
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@tocika (970)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
If I would be in your situation,I will let some time to know him better.First of all you can talk more with that man on Messenger to see If is the kind of man that deserve to meet you.Maybe many are very imprudent and want to be with you,but you don't must to make an mistake. I believe that I can meet with that man If I know more about him. So,more than that I believe that you are the only that can decide and you must do what is better for you! I wish you luck! HAve a great day!
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@yorgaki (678)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
what to know more about that guy ? The lies that he could tell her online ? But even if he's sincere, they need overall some physical attraction, they must SEE each other !! The faster, the better for both of them !
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• India
18 Jan 07
Hi dear in my openion it will be too early to meet that guy. Coz u cant guess a man/woman in just seven days. you should give ur relationship some more time and then you can proceed for a meeting.
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@Gruzzle (294)
17 Jan 07
I can see why he might want to meet you as you are very pretty. I would suggest caution however, because the very nature of the internet allows us to disguise many details about ourselves. You have been speaking with him for some time so you will have to make your own judgement about whether he is honest. If you choose to met him then you should consider these suggestions for your own safety. 1 - Don't give him your address or telephone number before you have met. If he turns out OK then fine but if he is a crazy person it's better that he can't stalk you. 2 If you arange to meet make sure you meet in an open, public place. Do not arrange your first meet at his home. 3 Bring a friend along for your first meet, if things are going well your friend can leave and will know who you are with. Good Luck
• Pakistan
17 Jan 07
hi Suzuki how are u hey my car got the same brand Suzuki i think u should meet with him because u may find a great friend in him and if u feel that u should not meet him any more next time-then next time do not meet him but-try to meet with him in some open place like any resturant atleast u will be in the ppl regards :) Brockan
@SWAP007 (88)
• India
17 Jan 07
offc ourse u must meet him who know s he will be ur future mate.. why dont u give ur sekf a chance
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@arentcity (317)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 07
i dont know..are really sure you want to meet him? how long you've been knew him?remember the old paradoks "never talk to strangers".
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• India
17 Jan 07
hey,now you have to take decision on it.it depends on you whether to meet him or not.
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@ashiflett (1045)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I only have one suggestion, and that is: "use caution".
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@u2bibek (193)
• Nepal
17 Jan 07
hmm.. ther'z no risk to meet if u trust him and he trust u.. but yeah certainly who knows what a person is until they are close to each other n ya to get closer u shud meet him.. you have democracy that means u can decide ur things urself.. it depends on u whether to meet him or not.. but regarding just meeting It is okey for u will know him closely.
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• India
17 Jan 07
Yes.You should meet that man.But do not give your personal details about any of your accounts to him at first. Remember another thing that tell him to meet at NOT a lonely place.He may even turn out to be a theif.........So tell him to meet at a place where there are people near to you.
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@samraf (725)
• India
17 Jan 07
gv lil more time to ur relation .
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• China
17 Jan 07
It's OK if you want to see him. But just be careful, you'd better meet in public place, shopping center or some other places with high people flow. Good luck, maybe there will be a sweet romance.
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@agni610 (127)
• India
17 Jan 07
Go ahead buddy.meet him .wat is there in meeting a friend.go ahead.u have our support.who knows,he may be the chosen one for u(for marriage).
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@annieroos (1846)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Well personally if you only met him on here about 1 week ago i would probably be careful.. there is nothing wrong with following your heart but i would wait..I think one week is to short of a time.. just be carful and make sure if you do meet him.. meet in a well lit area and in public where lots of people are.. ok.. take care and be carful
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@lastwish (780)
• India
17 Jan 07
So y ur afraid to and meet him he is human too!!! Good luck
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