IWell, I'm finding it harder to be a gentelman every day...I need advice

United States
January 17, 2007 11:26am CST
I'm having a hard time not snubbing many strangers, especially women, in society. I belive in chivalry, but to take advantage of a curteous stranger is simply wrong. I constantly hold doors, give up my spot in the line at the grocery store, and sometimes even paying for small things at the gas station for people who are fumbling through their pockets for correct change. Why do I never get thank-yous? I honestly don't WANT them, but one every now and then would feel pretty good. Maybe it's my image? I tend to dress differently/alternatively, but I don't think my appearance should define the motive of my action. I honestly want to just start snubbing people like they do unto me, because some people I do these things to are "multiple offenders", and I feel like I'm taken advantage of. Any recommendations as to changing my actions?
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@katty0004 (387)
• United States
17 Jan 07
Thank you for being raised in right way a gentleman . Theirs not to many of there out there anymore
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• United States
17 Jan 07
Heh well thank-you for being appreciative. I just do what I feel is right, and sometimes it's hard to keep my values because I constantly feel let-down!
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
17 Jan 07
don't change your action we need more people in today's society like you. I always say thank you when someone holds a door for me or helps out a little bit even if i am in a hurry or in a bad mood.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
Thanks for the support. I suppose I just want to know if anyone can relate to my dilemma. Sure there are FAR worse things in the world, but I think social diseases such as rudeness goes far too ignored. I'll keep fighting the good fight!
• United States
24 Jan 07
People are the same all over the world, and it is getting worse. There seems to be a lack of respect, manners, and way too much judgeing. Please stay as sweet as you are, and don't change because of the selfish people that you meet. There still are some nice people out there. Don't join the bad ones and act like them. Force yourself to smile when a person passes by, it's catching. Good luck dear.
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@sbbcackk (99)
• Ecuador
17 Jan 07
th advise I'd give you, is to start bing more selective... you say there are "multiple offenders". I take it these are people you know don't appreciate your actions. Cut them off. But maintain your generous and polite attitude towards strangers and people that you know do appreciate it
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@SplitZip (1490)
• Portugal
17 Jan 07
"I honestly don't WANT them" LIAR! :@ Most people crave recognition. So don't lie. Otherwise, you wouldn't be posting this. Now, let me see if I get what you're saying: you help others, pay for their stuff and don't get a thank you? I can see someone not thanking you if you hold the door, some doorways are quite busy! But in the other, more "personal" situations, a thank you is in order. So stop doing this. Help out people who help others out. Some people are just not worth helping and they don't really care about anyone else either. Stop being a doormat is my only advice. Take it from someone who's been there :p
• United States
17 Jan 07
most people...doesn't include all. I would just like insight as to how people can be so unappreciative. All I'm saying is that now and then I think it would help me maintain a better acceptance of not changing my actions because of the constant negativity. But please don't assume you know where I'm coming from automatically, as I hate being called a liar.
• United States
26 Jan 07
well, I can't blame you for feeling the way you do. But you sound like a very sweet person, and I would not let this ignorant people to change the real you. You are what makes you beautiful, and we need more people like you in the world. I am married, and have two children. Seldom does my hubby open the car door for me anymore. Seldom. I say keep doing what you are doing. You never know, it may pay off some day. I think it is beautiful.