Do you think rewarding kids for good grades is a good idea?

United States
January 17, 2007 2:47pm CST
I was wondering what others thought about giving rewards for good grades. What do you think about the idea and if you have done this, what types of rewards have you given? Were you ever rewarded as a child or teen?
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I don't give specific rewards per A or B. But if the report card looks good as a whole (no C's or maybe bring several grades up from last report card) I will take him to Chuck E Cheese. They give free tokens for good report cards. I think its a standard 15 tokens, but not sure. That's what we always get.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I didn't realize they did that and will have to look into it next time grades come out
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@srhelmer (6930)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
17 Jan 07
I haven't decided if I should do that or not. On one hand, it will encourage my daughter to get good grades. On the other hand, she should realize that doing a good job is expected and not always rewarded.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I think you did a great job of summarizing the two main points that people often debate about with this-thanks! I think both ideas make a lot of sense
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I never did it but my mom and step dad did for me. It really made me buckle down and get better grades because I knew if I did I would get the money. We got $5 for A's and $2 for B's. Sometimes I made alot of money. I went from a c averager student to a straight A student. I wanted to do it for my kids but they would have broke me. All my girls were straight A and B students.
@Rahleah (187)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I do, but let me clarify that. When our kids brought home good report cards (which they always did), we had a little family "celebration" by going to a local family style restaurant and letting the kids order banana splits for dinner instead of "normal" food. It isn't like we paid them money for grades or put a big emphasis on A's over B's or A's and B's over C's or something. We just were casually like, "Yeeha! Yay! Good report cards. Let's celebrate." It was a fun, no pressure thing that we did, more like just to mark the passage of a grading period and their attention to their studies than to set criteria for a particular grade average. When they reached high school that tradition kind of faded away. One of them would bring it up jokingly every once in a while, and I'd be like, "OH! Do you want a banana split? You can have one!" But they just smiled and remembered the family dinner aspect of it. I don't like things that tie grade performance to a monetary reward or to a punishment. Just not my parenting preference.
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@shawnasie (390)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I believe it is a great idea. I also feel rewarding good behavior is good. I do not however feel that the rewards should be material all of the timt though. Positive remarks and attention are the best rewards most of the time. I feel material rewards should be given for doing good stuff consistently. My children are young; 4, 2, and almost 5 months; therefore, I can't really reward them in any way other than positive attention and reinforcement. I really didn't get rewards for good grades as a child. The only grades that got me attention were B's or lower. My mom felt I should always get A's and if I didn't I wasn't trying hard enough. I do not recommend doing what she did without commending the child when they do good. HTH
• Nigeria
17 Jan 07
yes i do believe that kids should be rewarded for good grades that will enable them work harder
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
yes, i do that before, but im disappointed when my child grade is become low, so i tell him that to study harder and he will not receive any reward from us if this will happen again...
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Parenting experts recommend giving rewards to kids not only when they do good in school but also for good deeds done, may it be helping in the household chores, doing small errands or simply being obedient to mom & dad. It will help them boosts self-esteem & make them strive more to do well in whatever they want to do in life. Rewards may not necessarily be material things. Even just a pat in the back & a praise for every small nice deeds done will make them feel appreciated & loved.
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think rewarding your child for good grades and good behavior is great. Rewards can be many things-- I dont think I would say a certain grade but maybe if you try your best-- I do this with my child; she is 10. She sturggles with school. She loves to go for the social aspect.. but the learning is another story.. So I tell her if she does her best and does all of her homework its ok not to bring home straight A's.... When she tries her hardest- I reward her with a day at the movies or a trip shopping.. Or when she finishes her homework without getting all frustrated and jerky-- I reward her with playing an extra board game that night- or reading longer... I have never rewarded with money.. not at this age level. I do not think I will even as she gets older.. I was never rewarded as a child for good grades with money either--- Just fun things..
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think it is a great idea. I think kids should get some sort of reward for it. wether it be a special treat or something. It depends on the age of the child too. ice cream only works for certain ages. then cash is always good too.
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@bigedshult1 (1613)
• United States
18 Jan 07
you shoud give rewards for good grades I think some thing like .50 for (B) and 1.oo for (A) is a good way to reward them and if they bring a F to an A make it some tihng speles for them you like it when you work exter hard and are reward for it don't you the same gose for them don't over do it
• United States
18 Jan 07
We reward our children no matter what if we know they really tried. My oldest two are honor students, but the younger one is average. We usually take them to the movies or something just to say good job.
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@BlaKy2 (1475)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
Yes. You can stimulate them to learn by rewarding them for good grades.
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@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
17 Jan 07
well it is a good idea. i think children when rewarded will do more and result to better grades. when they know they will expect something, then it will be good for them.
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• United States
17 Jan 07
I think that it is a good idea because it gets the kids motivated to do good in school if they know that they are going to get something for there good grades. We give our kids money for there grades. The higher the grades the more money they get.
• United States
23 Jan 07
In all honesty I don't really think it's a great idea and haven't done it with mine. I think they need to realize that getting good grades is a reward in itself and will benefit them in their lifetime. I think rewarding them for it shows them that they're going to go through life being rewarded for ever good deed and job. Reality check will make them soon realize that you do well for YOU, to make your own life better and succeed. I don't think it's detrimental when they're rewarded by any means, just not my style.
@mdilan (803)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Well, of course I believe that giving rewards for good grades ae an ecxellent way to motivate kids in school. I just finished my BA in education, and I wassadto hear some students telling me in my internship that their parents would get verymad if they brought home bad grades. That is negative reinforcement. I strongly suggest to parents of school kids to offer their children rewards. They will appreciate it it doesn't matter how small they are.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Yes, it motivated them to do better and better the next time.
@chumm525 (169)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
good day, for me giving a reward for having agood grades is a great idea, because it can motivates a child to improved their selves and in can be one of motivation technique that can help a child to study well to have a good grades, but there should be a limitation in it because it can led into a spoiled brats. i know someone done that before she always give her son a reward for being the #1 in the whole grade level in their school and even the most expensive things that her son wants she is giving to him, even it is not that so important to have, until now she is doing it and now her son is a brat, what he wants he'll get and even his mom cant afford he will tell her that he has a good grade and he is the # 1 inn the whole grade level in their school.
• United States
23 Jan 07
I was never rewarded for anything really. I got an occasional ice cream after a doctor appt. But I was never rewarded for good grades. On occasion, we do reward our daughters with a night out for dinner, ice cream, chuckie cheese or what ever. It's our way of saying good job. As far as giving them money, we've put quite a bit of money in their bank acct. thus the reason we don't give money for chores. We want our kids to listen and learn manners. In our opinion, they are spoiled enough, and offering them money to do chores or for grades is just ludacris. Now when they get older, that is different.
• United States
18 Jan 07
The point of getting good grades in school is to get into a good college to get more good grades to get a good job and make lots of money. Why not start teaching the kids in grade school that good grades equal money? I never got paid for my grades, I was expected to get As and Bs. Nor did I pay my children for their grades, but I have been known to offer rewards to the grandkids when their grades are slipping. This is like that old argument, should you give your kids an allowance in exchange for doing their chores. Some people say yes, it teaches them the value of money. Others say no, children should learn they have responsibilities and must contribute to their families. Be it allowances or grades, I think parents have to decide for themselves what is best for their children.