confused abt my love life......wat shud i do??

India
January 17, 2007 11:55pm CST
i'm in love with a girl from the past 4 yrs..we are classmates from 12th...and now in the same engineerin college...i hardly speak to her...and one fine day i proposed her...and her answer was "not interested in such things"....do u think thats an appropriate answer?? after lettin me down with that answer....we talked for sometime and durin that she told me that her parents dont agree for such things....does that mean she is interested in me and sayin that she is not interested coz of her parents?? and finally while leavin...tears were rollin in both of our eyes....i'm really confused now..... any suggestions....
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@snoopy12 (468)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
If you really love her. Wait for her. It might be the proper time now. Talk to her and ask her. Just dont rush things. If she has a problem with her family, then help her first by being her friend.
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• India
22 Jan 07
i dont understand wht problem she has...i want to talk to her bout it...but i dont know somethin is stopping me from doing that...i wil talk to her bout it as soon as possible...thanks for d response ya
@melody1011 (1665)
• India
18 Jan 07
You could always try and be just friends with her and get to know her as a person before you make her your girlfriend. This way you will learn about her likes and dislikes without the pressure of a relationship. The best relationship is one that has started out of friendship and has moved over to love. So be her friend and then when her parents are ready for her to have bfs you will be around (she will tell you) and then you can propose to her again. Soo be patient and be good.
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• India
18 Jan 07
u right i am faced this type of problem from past 4 year when i prpprose her she dinei me & leav me from then i have no contrac wiht her.for my suggetion firs u met withhim as firts time u met him i mean a strenger then make a frendship with her last u proprosed her.
@Judobird (88)
18 Jan 07
well if you hardly speak to her I am confused as to if you really know her well enough to be proposing such offers to the girl. However you must ask her about her feelings for you, not her feelings on the subject of marriage.
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@anuhya (58)
• India
18 Jan 07
Exactly right in ur idea..if u both excell in your carrere, then parents will automatically agree to your wish. After all they are here to see your good n bright future....all the best
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• Italy
18 Jan 07
i think same you
@bck_1409 (662)
• India
18 Jan 07
i too belive the same bcause without talking to some one hw can u understand him/her and fell in love n proposed to some one u dn't even knw properly
@vertex (803)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
It is also hard for her part because if she will choose you she will be having a hard time in communicating with his parents but if she really loves you then she could fight for you or maybe she is not prepared. Give here sometime and ask here again. But if she really love his parents maybe she will be following their opinion. Mark best response please
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• India
18 Jan 07
giving he time is not a good option in my prespective. that would only left her in a delema state. what we need here is a solution to this love problem.
• India
18 Jan 07
mark best response look my friend,if have to get that girl and stop that crying nonsence. really if u love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her then get down to some serious work. being emotional is nt harmful but first u have 2 clear somethings in mind. by the way u worte it appears that she is int in u,but tht is nt all. parents issue is there for every girl.so the first step u take is start talking 2 her. give er lot of happines. b her best friend in life. and tell her love is not all abt marriage ..its more than tht.now make her realise the imortance of spending time 2gether.. work it out. life gives very few takes.. just grab them. and plz b honest to ur gal. let me know what happens
• India
22 Jan 07
i want to be her best friend and also her love ya...but i dont know how to start talkin to her...as we are not friends...i jus want to leave it to time...TIME WIL DECIDE IT
• Pakistan
18 Jan 07
Buddy your story is same as mine one. I am also confused. I also loved a girl and she is my class mate and we also dont talk much with each other. I know her from 2 years and one day I proposed her because my friend came to know that she likes me and then my friend adviced me to propose her and so I did. Her reply was like ke I am not interested in these kind of things and my parents wont allow me to keep this relationship because they are very strict but again and again I am getting signs from her and now dont know what to do. Our farewell is near and I am expecting something from her. Dont know what but I am expecting something. About your case I am helpless because I am also helpless in my case.
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• India
18 Jan 07
there is love between u n her but u r out vit ur feelings n she had blocked her feelings because of her parents if u r love is strong than her parents love she ll be ur in a span of time...! all the best for ur love...!
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@sri2694 (17)
• India
18 Jan 07
she may be have the same feelings like you , but she may frightens of what lives ahead for her as well as she may afraid of her parents . So first you should stand on your own feet , then you can easily get the acceptance of her parents. If your's is true love then it will definetely ends in happy . So don't worry and concentrate on your studies to get a better future.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
She may have feelings for you but she may just be afraid that her family would find out who doesnt approve of her having a relationship. Her family might only be protecting her because she's still young & want her to finish studies first. If you love her, you can wait for her when she'll be ready for the commitment. Dont rush things you're still young. Enjoy the friendship.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
18 Jan 07
No that sounds strange did you ever take her out on a date as this seems strange that you proposed to her and this was her answer. Must be her parents are against you or it could be that they will not let her go out with anyone this sounds rather strange. I could only answer you more if I knew more about these circumstances.
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@moneymind (10524)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
why don't you give her time, or make some sort of understanding that upon reaching the time her parents will allow her to have a relationship with any one you will be still there waiting for her. in the mean time have a conversation or talk to her more often as to keeping he in touch with you more often. greetings. : )
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
just wait for the right time..Besides you can be friends
• India
18 Jan 07
dont get confused,dont fall in love.
• India
22 Jan 07
you will understand ma feelings once u fall in love..
• India
18 Jan 07
i think she loves u but due to her parents she is telling no n this could be understand by her tears dear.. a girl wen cries tells wat is their in her heart.. try 2 be good with her n share things with her n get to know y her parents dont want this.. i think the prob must be of caste only.. try 2 know things n also try 2 talk 2 her parents
• India
22 Jan 07
ya..even one of ma friends suggested the same...asked me to talk to her parents first...but i want her to love me and get into a relationship with me..and feel ma love....i dont want her to love me jus because her parents agreed to marry her to me...
@circuit (347)
• Pakistan
18 Jan 07
listen to what the heart says and do what the mind says... I always say that care about those who care bout you..... Do what you think is right!!
@rikroy (91)
• India
22 Jan 07
yup agreed ya...even i always say d same...care for those who care for u....than carin someone who doesnt even care for u....:)
@smartnrich (1067)
• Malaysia
22 Jan 07
In this world the happines not just fall in love with that girl.May be you could find someone better then her.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
That is so sad. If you love her so much you are willing to wait until such time that you can be together.
@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 07
i guess she also likes you, its just her parent decision make her afraid to accept you.on 1st she answer that maybe she didnt mean to be rude to you, maybe she was just nervous that you ask that questions so suddenly coz u said u hardly speak to her.well why dont try to be friend 1st, stop by several time to her house to meet the parents and see how they react to you.good luck.and dont give up on love
• India
19 Jan 07
hi i think the girl does have feelings for you. but she is bound by her family values. i would suggest to keep contact with her even after this debacle. be friends for some time....try to know her problems and make her feel that you are actually serious and flirting. when you are settled in life and her parents start looking for a match for her, you approach her parents through your parents. i am sure if you can convince your parents to ask her hand her parents wont deny. and then she too wouldnt say a no. yes i know this is a long time process but see the larger picture. if you want her for an entire life 2-3 years is not a lot of time.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Hey, if you're still young don't get yourself confused too much. I pretty understand that you loved the girl but maybe it's not yet the right time for both you to be together. Why not try making friends with her first? I think you have made the wrong move of proposing to her. You should at least tried befriending her and knowing her wants and interests. In this way, she might have been comfortable with you and who knows, might also have fall in love with you. Try not to get that much serious on the situation. Stay focused on your study, goals and ambitions. Maybe her parents are only worried that their daughter is still young to be involved in a relationship. Take your time and don't pressure yourself that much...