battle between parents

India
October 5, 2006 10:58am CST
do u think that a child is affected when their parents fight??
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• United States
5 Oct 06
YES!!!!! It is a proven fact that childern are affected, plus I know from 1st hand experience.
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@magikrose (5425)
• United States
22 Oct 06
I agree I also know from 1st hand experience. I hated it when my parents faught. They divorced then I was 12 and things were much better.
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@Ramafoko (140)
• South Africa
23 Oct 06
i also Agree i have the experience , and hated my dad for doing taht. He is now trying to rich out but it is not easy for me.
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@ArsonCuff (3121)
• United States
23 Oct 06
yes of course it does affect them...
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@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
yes in some way or the other they are, my parents did.My mom would leave and I would sit there and cry and worry would she come back, it let to depression and as a teen i had to watch her go through that and see her put knives to her chest ect. she od one time on something and me and some freinds took her to the er when i was a teenager,had license though i think but still it was up to us . She still has those days but i think its the realtionship she is in. Maybe i am stronger b.c of it dont know, I know i wont never put my children through that . If I leave they go with me, i dont arguee back with my hubby I just let it go.
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• India
5 Oct 06
very sad....so u were affected
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@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
5 Oct 06
yes thanks
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• United States
23 Oct 06
Mindy, Yes, that is very said, the way you were affected. Many children are affected that way. Sometimes when marriages go bad, and end in divorce, the child believes it is his or her fault. When the child becomes an adult, he/she is still affected. A lot of these children grow to suffer from life-long bouts of depression, and low self-esteem.
• India
5 Oct 06
yes the kids are affected by this to a great extend
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• India
6 Oct 06
yes right, children are like flowers..if parents will fight between them then how can they will be happy.
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• India
22 Oct 06
point Of view ... Exactly, you are on the right path.
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• United States
24 Oct 06
Children are greatly affected by parents' arguing. It isn't emotionally healthy, research tells us that. Also, children learn to pit parents against each other when they fight constantly. You shouldn't argue in front of children. Present a united front and argue quietly in the bedroom or somewhere else outside the range of little ears later.
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
5 Oct 06
Children are affected dearly by the fighting. My son can still remember arguments his dad and I had 9 years ago. It affects them emotionally and sometimes can scar them for life. Its very hard to not argue in front of kids but most of it should be done behind closed doors and as quietly as possible. I know you say you cant argue quietly but if you try maybe it will become funny and your fight will be over. Will distract you. lol
• United States
23 Oct 06
yes children are affected very much. My children are grown and their Dad and I were married for 26 years before I decided to get a divorce. The thing that hurt the most was them asking me why didn't I do something about it when they were young so it could have helped them too. I am very sorry I did not do it sooner.
• United States
24 Oct 06
Sometimes we think we are doing things for the right reasons but in the end we arent. Even though your kids are grown hopefully they will understand why you stayed so long.
• India
5 Oct 06
i guess so
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• India
25 Oct 06
i agree with u.child suffers a lot.
@rosebug23 (1909)
• Australia
24 Oct 06
I dont think children should be exposed to really bad arguments or constant fights and bickering. But i do think children should be allowed to see parents having small arguments and differences of opinion as they need to know that life is not perfect and parents disagree after all when they marry and have an argument they wiil think their parents never argued so maybe their is something wrong with our marriage
@erielle (1281)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Of course he is. Why wouldn't he be? I am still affected when my relatives fight.
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@kikiss (431)
• Australia
23 Oct 06
i think yess, the child lost the comfort zone and stability which they used to receive from parents
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@clownfish (3278)
• United States
23 Oct 06
Some people would also argue that it's abusive to the child to fight in front of him/her.
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• India
23 Oct 06
yes..this contributes to the bad manneerisms of the child!
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@reader (709)
• India
23 Oct 06
ss the child is affected
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• India
23 Oct 06
yes ofcourse ... i have my own scare in my heart.... it is really a important one you know ..my parents fight a lot during my childhood ... i started hating my father...and i wont speak to him freely...till now i didnt ...u know i havent utter a word with him for about 1 year nearly...in india people wont divorce soon.....if done then women are not safe enough and will face many problem form the society...in india it is like that....and now i have reached a stage where i have no feeling for the worries... i have new relation ... my cousin sister... now i am happy a lot .... so people even if you fight please dont fight infront of your children it really affects mentally... as i was... some may even go mad... it is in your hands...
• United States
23 Oct 06
Parents that fight need to take into consideration how their fighting will affect their children. Two adults living in one household are bound to have differences of opinions and there is a civil way to have disagreements that will teach our children the proper way to handle such incidents. I mean children are not going to go through life and not have differences of opinions with their partners so we as adults should show them that it is okay to have differences but there are proper channels in solving those differences. When it comes to drop down screaming fights, yes this does affect children in a negative way and parents need to take this into consideration when raising children. Children are our future and it is our responsibilities as adults to make sure they grow up in an environment where they are fed. clothed(their physical needs are met) and most of all know that they are loved unconditionally)(emotional needs are met)
• United States
23 Oct 06
yes i do.. it's really hard on your child if you are devorced
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@orionsmomma (1081)
• United States
23 Oct 06
of coarse
@vbembot (750)
• Philippines
23 Oct 06
yes of course very much. so i advice parents not to fight infront of the kids or let your kids feel that you are not in good terms.
• India
23 Oct 06
yes
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• United States
23 Oct 06
If there doing it in front of them or loud enough that they can hear you!!
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• United States
23 Oct 06
yes it does have some affect on the children. sometimes good and sometimes bad. parents have to watch everything they do in front of the children because kids mimic what they see in their elders. they dont know any better and think its ok because they saw their parents do it. when a parent learns to not fight in front of their children and instead discuss with the other in a calm and reasonable tone, they will teach their child to discuss thinks without the yelling. i dont think its good to hide all disagreements or discussions from their kids because then a kid will get a false impression that their parents NEVER argue or fight.
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@catchsharad (1328)
• India
24 Oct 06
Yes obviously. If the child has a favorite parent, he/she will start hating the other parent. This hatred will keep growing and will prove to be disaster for the family at some point of time.
• Australia
24 Oct 06
Yeah beacuse they are just divided..so it affects their life badly