Do love marraiges succeed?

@berry9 (590)
India
January 18, 2007 9:13am CST
The general belief in indian society is that love marraiges are the kind of disobidience and disrespect shown on parents.Most parents think,love marraiges dont normally succeed as children though above 20 are still not ready for a steady decision in life. They beleive love marraiges wont succeed because it is less practically thought. I disagree with this.We certainly know what is good for us.why wont they change their views? These days children see lot more than it used to be at their time.But this is a contraversial issue especially in India. What is your opinion?Doesnt most love marraiges succeed?
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@vinod4net (628)
• India
18 Jan 07
I feel they do succeed and i feel no matter whether its love marriage or arranged marriage, the maon point is the understanding between the patners, partnere need to have mutual understanding, self respect, devotion, cooperation and id they do care for themselves, then definitely the marriage will succeed
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• China
19 Jan 07
this is the basic rule for marriage! In my opinion, I'd prefer the Love marriage,then cherish each other is very important
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
19 Jan 07
what do you mean, i thought marriages are for love? where are you from in India that this is that way and this the parents do not want? i dont understand why they would not want you to have love. what do you mean?
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@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
in india parents most want arranged marraige
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• United States
19 Jan 07
I am from US, but dont they arrange the marriage after the children love each other? unless the parents are not concerned about that, then what do they base the marriage on other than social good? I mean you can have the both right? love and social class equality.
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@amgupta (274)
• India
18 Jan 07
i do not see any issue with that..many of my friends had done love marriages and it i snot like they just jumped into a relationship..they took there time and understood each other..and then decided to for it..i think that is the best way to do..and now they are having a very happy and married life..marriage is all about love, understanding and trust..weather it is love or arranged that does not matter much..
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@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
good.
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@nw1911guy (1134)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think love marriages work great as long as it's actually love and not lust that they confuse as being love. I know my grandmother was married for fifty years before my grandfather passed away. My friends parents have been married about 30 years, and my parents have been married for about 30 years. I would say that most that are actually based on love do survive.
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• India
19 Jan 07
It's better to got for Love Marriage. Because lovers can understand eachother before marriage, if their mentality's are different they can chose their own partner.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
alot of marriages end bcuz people rush into things these days, there all looking for love and are desperate to claim they have found it.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 07
I think love is the most important reason why people marry someone. The fate of those who get married will depend on how they would handle their relationship.
@thanzm (193)
• Qatar
19 Jan 07
I know 100s of arranged marriages gone wary, but they dont come in the news. Not because people are not affected by them, but because you get the support of others to cope up with such situations. A lot of my elder cousins and friends have found peace in their second marriages now. No, its not their fault alone. Thats not the topic anyways. Why do love marriages go bad and then theres a racket about them. The answer is simple, you need support to carry through any relationship. Either you and you lover should have it in yourselves in large quantities or the love should be permitted by elders or as the last resort you should have a lot of 'TRUE' friends who are ready to support you through your 'walk through fire'. The fire is not LOVE its LIFE.
@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
as said.love marraiges when there is a conflict,parents dont try to help but instead keep torturing and blaming children.at a very depressed stage when they need help,parents dont lend a helping hand.
@arvijhon (126)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
As long as you love your partner and you're happy with him then you're love marriages succeed!as time pass by, you have children coz children are the fruits of love...isn't it?
@asi1978 (76)
• Pakistan
19 Jan 07
yes my dear in Indian society love marriages can be succeed but only one condition that husband and wife should perform their responsibilities ever after with there depth of heart and trust.
@xyla_v (314)
• India
19 Jan 07
it entirely depends on the couple who got married.the love should continue even after the marriage;otherwise the disaster starts in their life and results in divorce...
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@hackman (178)
• India
19 Jan 07
yes sometimes but not always exmple romeio juiliet titanic but love stays upto last breath of life
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@damme34 (87)
• India
19 Jan 07
in most cases it hasnt
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• India
19 Jan 07
It depends, How people handles it on his way?
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@anup12 (4180)
• India
20 Jan 07
No that is a myth.It will succeed and it will not make any difference whetehr it is love or arrnaged marriage the only thing should be that love should be existing in that relationship
@berry9 (590)
• India
20 Jan 07
thing is not fair that parents treat a love marraige couple different.if one is having arranged marraige and the other is having love marraige between two sistets,parents show a lot of discrimination.it will not be fair.
@rash219 (808)
• United States
19 Jan 07
parents in india prefer arranged marriage siply bcoz it has been goin for centuries and for anything change in society it takes some time you cant expect ppl to jus say ok go marry anyone you like bcoz we are in the new age...there something called ethics and respect for culture...for eg. marriage with another cast or parnter following another religion to most parents is a NO NO...parents dont only say this for the benifits of the kids but also for the benifits of their grand-children....... but all in all the love is the glue in any relationship...if its arranged or not......
@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
To an extent my honey.Love marraiges can be a bridge to the land of no more caste diffrence.Isnt that worthy why should human beings differentiate themselves from a good partner just with caste?it is a very bad idea or i would say the worst reason on the face of earth.
@pix_trix (447)
• India
19 Jan 07
i believe that love marriage or arranged marriage- the chances of success in both are absolutely the same. because, success in a marriage does not depend on the fact that you have chosen your spouse yourself or yur parents have chosen one for you, it solely depends on the fact that how do you cooperate with him/her and how well the two people gel! So if two people have decided to spend their lives together, i feel nobody should stop them. they are adults, and if they are considered mature and sensible enough to choose cho will rule the country (we can vote at 18 yrs), then i feel choosing a life partner should be a difficult or immature decision!!
@pix_trix (447)
• India
19 Jan 07
i made a typing mistake. in the last line it is "then i feel choosing a life partner SHOULD NOT be a difficult or immature decision" sorry for the typo!!
@ashishsab (498)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
NO. I don't agree that most of the Love Marriages succeed. If you do a survey you will only a small percentage of love marriages which are success. Reason is most of the love marriages are the result of not a true love but an infatuation. Most of the times both buy and gal behave impractically. There certian shortcoming in every person so is with the guy and the gal but they overlook it before marriage but after marriage those shortcomings are the only reasons which one cannot stay with other. Parents with their experience try to explain but when in most of the cases children dont listen parents say OK go ahead with the wedding and finally children land themselves in trouble. I am not saying all but most of the cases are these only. If you see the crime records you will find huge number of crime is there where young couple married and land up themselves in trouble. Recently there is a case in Banglore where couple married against their family by ending relation with them around 8 years back. They have a 6 yrs. old daughter and the was not happy with the relation she left her huband can came to banglore but her husbang brutally killed her in front of their 6 yrs. old daughter stabbing 15 times. Again I am saying not all cases but most of the cases land themselves in trouble because they think impractically before marriage because most of them are either too much infatuated or are blind in love and dont see the practicalities of life and even if told by others they gave a damn to listen it.
• Canada
19 Jan 07
Just wanted to add that in India now a days parents dont stop children to go for a love marriage but yes they prefer to see the girl first and if they found something wrong they try to guide the child but if he/she doesnt wants to listen they dont stop them to get married. No parents can think bad for their children except some exceptions in the society.
@Gruzzle (294)
19 Jan 07
I guess in India (which your profile says you are from) a normal marriage is a marrigae that is arranged by the parents. I understand that in some cases the bride and groom may not have even met before the ceremony. In "the west", what you call "love marriages" are the norm. Where two people meet, fall in love and get married. I think that statistically, "love marriages" are more likely to end in divorce than arranged marriages, but that may not be a true indication of success as there would undoubtedly be far more family pressure to stay together in an arranged marriage.
@nw1911guy (1134)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I agree. I think that with arranged marriages there is a lot more family pressure to work it out. I also think that with love marriages, there is less regard for the opinions of the family.
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@imakella (669)
• United States
20 Jan 07
i think it will.... most of all depends on them..