how far you could forgive others ?

Indonesia
January 18, 2007 9:52am CST
Im sure that most people ever experienced hard times to forgive the others. It's hard to forgive those who're raped you / your loved ones. and it might be even harder to forgive killer that killed your closest friend / loved ones. Im a christian, im taught to forgive others ... But ... must i forgive every acts that broke my heart into pieces ? i still figure it hard to forgive those who are destroying my hope, crushing my life, hurting people that i love, and breaking my heart into pieces. How far you could forgive others ? things that cannot be tolerate, and possibly it still haunts you till now, do you mind to share ? if you're not christians, then does your religion tells you what to do, dealing with others fault on you (im courious about other religions way to handle that matter) ? eye for an eye ? or just simply forgive every acts that hurting you no matter how hurt that could be ? -only those who are willing to jump too far will know how far they could jump- does that unknown quote apply on forgiving ? ...
4 responses
• Australia
22 Jan 07
Well..bible did say to forgive and forget.. 77x7 each days.. I dont think I have ever had a day when someone hurt me 77x7 in one day.. so yeah I guess I will forgive them. I know that it is very hard, it is human to not want to forgive.. to want revenge.. however.. is it worth it? Think about it.. when you dont forgive someone.. you keep your anger inside of you.. who would be at the disadvantage?YOU! do you know why? Because that person that you hate.. the raper.. killer.. whoever it is.. they dont know that you hate them.. they go on with their lives..(even in jail).. but they dont have to stop living and keep on remembering like you do. While if you dont forgive.. you keep on remembering.. the heartaches.. that eats you up.. It is you who carry the burden.. not that person who you hate.. so.. to help yourself.. let go of the anger.. forgive them.. "God please forgive me as I forgive those who have trespass me".. if we dont forgive.. God cant forgive us.. I would go as far as I could.. and will keep on trying to forgive.. no matter how hurt I might be.
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• Indonesia
22 Jan 07
=) ... your comment sounds so idealist and very similiar with mine. great comments, hope there's other people seeing and affected by your point of view here.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
18 Jan 07
The act of forgiving is not as easy as saying "I forgive you". Because when we forgive we are actually telling the person, Ok, I'm not going to hold this matter against you anymore, I will look at it as if it never happened." Who could do this just like that, impossible but to say I forgive you, is the first step. The model of forgiveness is always the way God has forgiven us. He doesn't hold our sins against us anymore when we ask for forgiveness. For us humans, forgiveness is a long process and if we are willing to jump too far, then we will know how far we could jump. We are creatures of emotions, and the pain may stay for awhile even though we have forgiven the person. But as the trite expression says, there is no wound that time can not heal.
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• Indonesia
18 Jan 07
it's easy to say, hard to practice & implement it especially when the pain does very painfull ... will you forgive a father that sexually abuse his child (you) ? will you forgive a mother that killed her own babies ? will you forgive those murderer that raped and killed your 4 years old daughter & publish in on the internet ? will you forgive those who took everything away from you including your most presciouse things and your loved ones ? ...will you forgive your wife that slept with another guy ? will you forgive your most trustworthy friends for backstabbing you ? ... i hope that's true that there is no wound that time can non heal ...
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
I can forgive. I can always forgive. I do not know why, I never hold grudge since I hear the word of GOd and I can forgive just anyone. God knows what pain inside me that Ive been feeling. It is God promises that our pain that we feel now is uncomparable to the glory that He will give us. He is really happy when we can forgive someone nad really hate if he saw someone make us angry. But He is relieved when we can be silent and be patient without making the situation worse. I really learn to do that these days. Today, at church. I sang in the choir, I saw a wrong lyric on the projector power point, the editor was not there and I want to change it. I was changing it and he barge in and said "What are you doing!!??, Dont edit anything in there, dont touch it" Ok, I was really angry inside, the worst thing is that last year, it was my job as the powerpoint editor but I change as I become the coordinator for sport. But I have won today as I was not angry and I can stay calm. Im sure God will give us just rewards for all of those. The thing is, if you hate someone, and that someone does not feel anything, the one that feel the pain is you, not them. so why should you hold grudge?
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
God bless you ... im not holding my grudge, i rarely angry. I just want to see others opinion dealing with their anger management =) tried to pull the trigger for some discussion. Hope that you're not facing any difficult situations for forgiving. Hopes that your live a happy and beautiful life =)
• India
18 Jan 07
I have been through lot of situations, were i didnt knew what should i do, I feel that if you do something wrong you will get the punishment, because i belive in god, there is a saying in our religion that Bhawan Ke Ghar me Dher hai Andher nahi, The guilt will get the punishment.
• Indonesia
18 Jan 07
who will punish those who are guilty ? God ? or other people ? vengeance ? or cops and judge ?