Why do we fall in love so fast so soon

United States
January 18, 2007 9:53am CST
I was thinking to myself and would like to know....why is it that we fall in love so fast with people we really don't know...why does or minds do that...and how do you deal with that....is there an off button that you can push...tell me what you think...
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@vyaasrad (568)
• India
18 Jan 07
because we are ready to reproduce
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• United States
18 Jan 07
that's crazy....but funny....
• India
21 Jan 07
I think when we see someone who is beautiful or have something good about him/her we start liking them or get attracted towards them. We start thinking that this might be love and it is not so. Its just a good feel or attraction and love is an altogether different thing. Love is not just an attraction but its a pure and divine feeling. So, i think we dont fall in love fast but we get attracted fast.
• United States
22 Jan 07
good point...most people love with the eyes rather then taking the time to get to know the person first...what looks good on the cover may not look good once you open the book...
• United States
21 Jan 07
I think too often people are in a hurry to have someone to share their lives with that they think they fool themselves into believing they are in love. If they slow down and get to know who they are with, they may often find that they are not the right person for them to spend the rest of their lives with.
• United States
22 Jan 07
I agree...when you are lonely for a while the first person that you connect with you feel u love them...when you don't......
• United States
18 Jan 07
I think you answered the question when you asked "why does our minds do that." People tend to listen to what they think faster than they listen to how they feel. Sometimes the mind plays games on us, tricking us to believe that what we see is what we want...and so we fall in love without getting to know the person. And when that happens...it's easier to fall out of love because you realize that you didn't love them to begin with. Falling in love is a process...it takes time, and that is what we don't do; we don't take our time. No there isn't an "off" button so to speak, but one can learn to follow their heart and take it one step at a time. I think that the one determinant of truly being in love is knowing that it is more than what you see that matters the most; that this person completes you in ways you thought impossible.
• United States
18 Jan 07
very good points and i most definately agree with you....falling in love does take time...p think we look with the eye first and then we think with the heart last....sort of thinking with the wrong end....
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@missyd79 (3442)
• United States
18 Jan 07
i think i fall in love with the idea of being in love first before i actually love the person. I know i did that with my current boyfriend until like one day a couple months ago i just looked at him and got all teary eyed thinking about how much i loved him as a person and could not imagine my life without him.
• United States
18 Jan 07
that can sometimes be the case.....falling in love with the idea of being in love....
• India
18 Jan 07
we don't fall in love. it just happens..............
• United States
18 Jan 07
sometimes we do fall in love....but it's not a real type of love...
• India
18 Jan 07
It Happens when we are searching for a partner we require someone to fill that place suddenly we find one and we are very much inclined towards that person
• United States
18 Jan 07
more times then once i have done that..when my realtionship when my child's father was going bad...I tried to find something else to fill the void.....
@mysiraylon (1106)
• United States
18 Jan 07
The number one being triggered as far as I know is the feeling of infatuation you have. I can not tell whether there is a distinct button to deactivate that feeling. But it is good though, meaning you really do appreciate things around you.
• United States
18 Jan 07
exactly...infactuation is a crazy thing...one minute you think you are in love the next you know you are not...
• United States
18 Jan 07
I think we fall so fast because, if we like the little bit of information we know about a person, we tend to fill in the stuff we don't know with positive things as well, making the person seem more desirable than they might really be. Which is probably why many realtionships end after a short while, because one or both people are disappointed when their expectations are not lived up to. I think if we take things slow and are sure to view the person on only what we actaully know of them, we won't fall so hard for people who are "wrong" for us.
• United States
18 Jan 07
I agree with you...great comment...it is crazy how our minds work when it comes to just looking a person over on the outside rather then getting to know them on the inside...
@jayparikh (153)
• India
18 Jan 07
the thing is that we get attracted to some people and we feel that we love them we keep on thinking about such persons all the time. and i guess there is no off button to that..it can be stopped only with time
• United States
18 Jan 07
but do we fall in love for the wrong reason...are we only falling in love with the way one looks or is it instinct.
• United States
21 Jan 07
I'm sure when you say falling in love so fast so soon that the feeling is mutual with the guy... so if it is, you just go with the flow... I'm sure you will know if there are bumps or stops.