Things I learned when I became a mom...

@yamiboo (466)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 11:22am CST
1. Christmas is really for the kids to enjoy 2. That I would actually be able to give up my job and my shopping cravings 3. That a trip to the mall becomes a trip for the kids rather than mine 4. That everything I do, no matter what, it's for the kids 5. Birthday parties and baptismals are very special occasions 6. Children's clothings cost the same as adult's clothings 7. There are educational cartoons 8. It is normal to have your kid's voice as your cellphone ringtone 9. That babies really smell oh, so good 10. That too much sugar is bad 11. That my world will revolve around the kids 12. Being a breastfeeding mom who is "on-call" the whole day, that I won't even have time to watch a movie 13. That sunlight is good 14. That I'd have lesser time to fix myself up 15. That the world is a beautiful place to live in 16. That it's fun to attend children's birthday parties 17. That I won't be in charge of my time anymore This is it for now.. What things have you learned when you became a mom?
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@mdilan (803)
• United States
19 Jan 07
To thank God even more!
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
simple and but it means a lot
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
of course :)
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
19 Jan 07
1. The best kisses are the one's you didn't ask for 2. Having a warm little body in bed with you is kind of sweet. 3. Halloween is a really fun holiday 4. Christmas is very majical 5. Sledding for hours is alot of fun 6. Nothing beats snuggling on the couch watching curious George. 7. You CAN eat penut butter sandwhiches 3 times a day
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• Philippines
22 Jan 07
you're so right! don't we deserve a medal at all? just joking! i don't need a medal. a hug and a kiss and whispered i love yous are all i need.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
1. ..that it's a 24 hour job, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. 2. ..that you become a pediatrician, dietician, doctor and nurse role in 1. 3. ..that Barney, after all, is more than a violet dinosaur. 4. ..that you spend 1 whole day shopping with friends, ending up you bought not a single thing for yourself but all for your kids. 5. ..that you realized the hardship your mom got in when you are born and learn to appreciate her more. 6. ..that you are a patient, loving, caring person to its extreme sense. 7. ..that you careless of yourself and give more to them.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
This is a great post i said it once and i will gladly say it over and over again. I never have time for me but without my children i would never feel complete again . Thay are worth every second spent!
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Actually, I learned one thing right before I gave birth to my daughter that I remembered, did and have now passed that along to her now that she is a Mom herself. And that is: Find some time to do your own thing. Make for yourself the time to go out and watch a movie or shop or do a hobby or take a walk, whatever it is - just don't ever give up your time or forego your life entirely for your kids. So, I did that. When my daughter was only about 2 months old, my husband babysat and I went to see a movie all by myself. It was only a few hours, but it was worth it. And, then when my baby was about 3 months old, my husband took me out for a date. And, so on. I'm glad I did that because when it was time for my daughter to move out - as heart wrenching as that was to me have an empty nest, I had my own life as an artist, helping fellow artists and was able to create a better relationship with my daughter - that has since expanded. Those little journeys away from home are great. The dates I had with my husband were very fun and kept the romance alive.
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• Indonesia
19 Jan 07
Well from father pont of view, I can hare this: 1. Ready to wake up earlier to help my spouse changing diapers and play with my princess. 2. No more unneccessary goods (male magazine, DVD's, etc) 3. Learn to wach my language and attitude (baby are great copier) 4. Try to earn some more money for my princess needs on future. 5. My princess is my cure for my tiredness 6. My princess makes my spouse jealouse, since I kissed her more than to her.
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@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
It's so nice for a father like you to join in the discussion. I bet you are such a great father to your little princess and a great husband to your wife :)
• Canada
18 Jan 07
1. Its OK to have some dirty dishes in the sink 2. Clean means everything up off the floor, even if it's not all sorted into the right bins 3. Take whatever help is offered to you by friends and family - don't try to be supermom 3. Afternoon naps are a real treat 4. Finger paint feels great all squished between your fingers 5. Any kiss is a good kiss - even if its from a drooling mouth
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I'll do what you listed in item number 3, though sometimes, I don't get offered any help at all, except by my husband and mom, which I'll gladly accept hehe
@burieks (127)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
1. that they can take away my tiredness 2. that most of the stuff i buy from the grocery are kids stuff 3. that visits to the mall will always include going to baby section, and most of the time it's the first section i visit 4. that babies smell so good 5. that "poop" is good 6. that i can do multitasking, taking care of my baby while fixing our room or cleaning our house 7. that i can be a light sleeper, can wake up right away as soon as i hear my baby crying 8. that childrens party are really fun 9. that baby's clothes are sometimes more expensive than my clothes 10. that i don't have that much time for myself anymore 11. that i need to go home as soon as i'm off from work 12. that my mom is right. i understand now what she meant with what she said when i was still young.
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@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
1. That I can no longer watch DVDs.Becuase it is always occupied by them. 2. I have to eat food that they started to eat. 3. That I have to buy their needs first before us. 4. That I can no longer go to the mall without them. 5. that It's ok to have our house untidy sometimes. 6. I have to cook foods that they like not what i like. 7. that I've learned to manage my time because they're the priority.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
Yup, that's what's happening to me too :) I can totally relate to you.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I can totally relate w/ you...
@maxmathur (157)
• India
19 Jan 07
enjoy yourself m'lady enjoy yourself!!!!
@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 07
lol....thats all can say huh? its a surprise when u ladies can list out so many, im a guy, i totally admire and respect women all the way up to my heart. I know its not easy to be a mother as i see my mom having a hard time in bringing me up till today, and she definately learnt patient and affection, which she always shows to me. I feel touched, i wish i can repay her now =)
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@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
it's so nice to have guys join in this discussion :)
• United States
26 Jan 07
i totally know where you are coming from. when i had kids it wasn't about me anymore... it's always about them. don't get me wrong... i love doing things for my kids. but sometimes i wonder when i will have time for myself. but i guess all parents are that way. i even start seeing myself doing this... when my hubby gives me money... to do whatever i want to do with it... i aways end up speeding it on the kids...lol
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
I'm like you also. Sometimes I think and wonder like you if I will be able to have time for myself. We will, but not anytime soon, and not 100% of the time will be for us. Maybe when they start schooling and leave the house, then that's the time we can have a "myself" time, but without taking them off our minds too. We know that when we get home, we have to be mothers again :) I can say what we're going thru is really alright and enjoying. We have to cherish every moment with our kids and every moment that they need us, because not long from now, they won't be asking for our help too much anymore. :)
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
19 Jan 07
I've never been a mom, but I've learn from my mom that mother's heart is as great as ocean. The sacrifice is base on voluntariness but not on merit. However, I can imaginize that when a woman become mother, she will understand sympathize what her mom meant to her.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
Very true.. Thanks for your response.
@joshdale08 (2325)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
you're so right! i guess you only have one or two small children yet, huh? come back after a couple more or after a few more years and you'll learn that: 1. peace and quiet are non-existent anymore 2. gritting your teeth is a common thing to do 3. tv time is riot time (they fight over the remote) 4. study time is torture time for you (and so is bath time and toothbrush time and bedtime) 5. every time the phone rings, i's never for you anymore 6.your grocery budget for the family for one week isn't even enough for one afternoon with your sons' friends 7. during christmas, they don't wait for their gifts, they ask for them in advance 8. you're no longer in the picture when birthdays come coz they spen it in the mall with friends 9. your brests(intentionally misspelled) sag already 10. and you're still not in charge of your time, guess, you'll never be. but, having said all these, you'll also realize that: 1. you'll start to miss their hugs and kisses and thir i love yous 2. you'll miss sleeping with them beside you 3. you're buying almost adult size underwears already and ask yourself, where has time gone? 4. it won't be long now and they'll start bringing in a special friend to introduce to you..... (oh God, i'm not sure if i'm prepared for this....) while they're still young, let's just savor each moment, take each moment a step at a time. we will never be perfect parents but we'd have made our own contributions to their upbringing.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I'll take note of this. Thanks so much! I will savor every moment with them now. :)
@nic073 (70)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
omg!! you are so right about these. i've realized that once u have a kid whatever it is that you do its all based on your child and that you have to be responsible for your words and actions. i must agree that birthdays and baptisms are very special too and not some useless occassion. yes, sunlight is good but don't expose ur child for more than 15 mins. and the only light that is good is the one from 6-8 am.. :)
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
According to my baby's doctor, even 4-5pm is safe for babies :)
• India
19 Jan 07
yes i truely agree with you , being a mom is the toughest job that anyone can pursue... you forget those times you spend thinking about your priorities, because they occupy all your thoughts , your time , your love (even your hubby gets the back seat then), your emotions , etc... oh its like a routine when u start the morning by worring abt their naps , feedings , them dirting the walls ... but watever anyone says the pleasure and happiness we get by being a mom is undescribable and it sure is our treasure which i guess is easy to be told , read , etc but to feel it you need to be one! so cheers to all those moms ou there, keep up your work and lets give our kids the best childhoods they can get
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
:)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
When I gave birth to my son I learned how beautiful the gift of life is. I realized that I am special, too. And I realized that motherhood isn't at all that hard to live with. In fact, it is just beautiful. Seeing my son after a long day's work makes me forget my exhaustion and all the stress that I feel. Indeed, life is beautiful. And I learned that having a child is the best gift a woman can ever have.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I agree with you :)
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
However much they whine and cry and try to drive you insane... you will always love them. the biggest thing i've learned from neing a mom is unconditional love.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
yes, that's true.. unconditional love...
• India
19 Jan 07
i have a son for 3 months .. and all that u have mentions is very much true.. though i have not been able to give up shopping, but i have started o shop for my son and not for myself anymore... i can add a few more.. 1) i have started takiing a healthy diet..i eat food i did not like, just because its good for my son.. 2)my caree has take a back seat and i have stared working from home .. whihc i am very happy about..
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
well, basically, when i said i was able to give up shopping, it meant shopping for me, haha. I'm like you now, it seems like whenever we go to the mall, I try to find something for myself, but end up buying nothing for myself, and a lot for the kids, haha. It's good that you are happy about working from home :)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
i learned to be a mom...ive realized the sacrifices of my mom. i learn to appreciate the things my mom does for us. when i was a bit younger i was kinda annoyed about the philisophy of my mother. she always buys us clothes but she doesnt even care to buy herself one. but now i understand her...coz i am just like her...
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
:)
• United States
19 Jan 07
all of that is so true, I have also learned that a routine is not always followed, it is almost impossible to make a schedule for kids, make sure to keep not just an extra change of clothes for the baby on hand when going out, but one for yourself also, no matter how clean I try to keep things they will never stay spotless anymore, the kids will get sick with colds and such no matter how much hand sanitizer we use, even when we take vitamins, avoid sick people, stay in from the cold, it s inevitable they will get sick sometimes, oh there is so much that being a parent has taught me, I could go on all night
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
thanks for sharing :) I feel the same way you do :)
@MellieC (783)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Number 11 is the one that I've had to learn how to live with. That being a mommy means that Me time is something worth sacrificing in order for my son to have "mommy and me" time. This is a good list. Ps-I agree totally about the baby smell thing ;)
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
True true... "Mommy and me" time is very important. :)