moving on...

@ako_me (60)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 1:59pm CST
can you guys give me tips on how to move on?i'm just fresh from a broke up and i still love him...
9 responses
@jolope (988)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
are you a filipino??looks like eh..^_^ its like this.. if you love someone..you should set them free..and if they returns..set them ON FIRE!!!^_^ loving after a break up is normal..but if your break up is because of another girl..then stay away from him..it will pass..time heals as they say it..keeping youself busy is a nice one but keeping yourself happy is the best one.. once i've heard.."no one can complete me, I COMPLETE MYSELF" -thanks to ate angeline for that*kisses*- i've gone through several break ups but look at my picture..its smiling..its because i have better things to do than to waste my time crying.. its good to cry but crying for something that feels bad is not good for you.. the best advice i could give you is to pray..PRAY TO THE LORD..PRAY FOR COMFORT, CONTENTMENT, and HAPPINESS..then you'll be so much better..^_^ i hope you'll feel good sooner..
@ako_me (60)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
hi there!thanks...no the break up was about our indifferences, no 3rd party involved. i'm moving on... thanks to guys like you who gave advice even to a stranger like me. by the way, yes i am a filipino...
@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I'm sorry about your break-up; I know how painful and difficult it can be. We have all been there. Don't be afraid of your feelings- feeling sad, depressed, down, and angry are all common. Don't try to deny your feelings. Hopefully you have a close friend or family member that you can talk with and who will help you through this difficult time. Keep yourself busy. Don't allow yourself too much time to sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Go our with friends and enjoy yourself. A lot of people get into self-improvement activities after a breakup, like starting an exercise program or a diet- they get that "I'll show him/her what they're missing" attitude. This can actually be beneficial to you, as long as you're not doing it to hold on to the hope of getting back with the person. Try not to jump right into another relationship on the rebound. This usually doesn't work. No one can replace what you lost, so why put anyone in that position. Wait until you are confident in yourself and are over this relationship before starting another. Good Luck! Remember, things will get better in time. Better things are waiting for you!
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@ako_me (60)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
thank you so much...yeah i try to be as busy as i can. i avoid being idle because the pain just sink in if i'm not doing anything. i rally hope i can move on as soon as possible. thanks again, it's really appreciated...
@scrawl (374)
• India
19 Jan 07
What you doin tonite ???
@ako_me (60)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
why dyou wanna know?
@scrawl (374)
• India
20 Jan 07
You gotta move on.... don't take the defensive or even worse, the offensive approach... The question was intended to inform you in a way to socialise more... in the proper sense.. talk it out.. have some fun.. and don't feel guily in whatever you do... Whatever said and done, the scars would remain there for a long time... and it is how you replace each thought with somethin else, that counts.. So let's party tonite eh..... babe ! Take care x
@ako_me (60)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
thanks! that's wahat i'm doing...actually i just got home, its almost 4 in the am, i spend a lot of time with my friends and they're helping me a lot!
• India
19 Jan 07
Just try to remember all the bad things he had done with you..whenever you remember him..just think that he cheated on you..slowly slowly you ll move on
@ako_me (60)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
yeah i believe that would help, because if i remember the good memories, it just pains me more.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
i have been in that same situation as you are right now. when me and my ex-gf broke up it was really hard for me. we are about to get married. after our break-up in only 1 weeks time she has already replace me in her heart and mind. after that i drank a lot, go to girlie bars, gamble on casinos, do risky things that normally i would never do. there is only one thing that save me from total destruction is my faith. i found God again in my most depressing time. and now looking back i saw my foolishness. lucky for me that i found my wife. yes, i'm happily married now. if he is really The One. Then fate will find a way to bring him back. If not, he is never really yours in the first place. Go out with friend, or better yet pray. It really helps.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Hm.. thats kind hurt. To forget Is to deceive your self that you have already forgotten him is the worst thing to do. To forget to be not hurt is some reason to be done so that you could not bare the pain within you whole life is a good option. But at least try to fix the miss understanding is is best of them all. So cheer up and just cool down if you are really meant to be happy with each other then the wounds of your relationship will heal.
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
i'm so sorry for your breakup. i know its hard to move on, but i think that it really will help that you keep yourself busy at all times. don't be left out all alone because these are the moments that all you can think about is your ex. visit your friends, do some shopping, spend time at the saloon, other things that you find relaxing, just do it. it really helps when you're with the company of other people that you also love to hangout with, you can talk to them or just talk about something else which will divert your thinking into something. eventually, you also have to let go of your emotions and your loses. it's a tough situation that you are in right now, but do remember that we are the masters of our own life that's why we shouldn't be a slave of the feelings that we are dealing with right now. i hope that next time around, you'd be feeling better. good luck.
@oshoke (57)
• Nigeria
19 Jan 07
The best thing to do is trying to forget that both of you had something together, and think about the future, 1. Hanging out with friend will make you forget about him.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Hi, I've had a great deal of heartaches myself.To get over the pain the best thing to do is to pray. It really feels good after pouring out your heart in prayer. Focus on the things you used to do which you really enjoy before he came into your life. Join group activities which could make you more productive. Engage in social gatherings to make new friends. Remove anything that would remind you of him.