What do you think? I think it's sad..

United States
January 18, 2007 2:32pm CST
Well, here's the story. I was in a bowling alley with my family the other day, which is connected to a bar. There was another family bowling, 2 adults, and a kid. The 2 adults were drinking and fighting. The little girl, who was no more then 5 or 6, got a strike. She came up and said "Mommy, daddy, look! I got a strike!" The both yelled at her saying "Shut up, get away!" because the parents were arguing. I almost went straight up to the father, and was going to tell him off. I think that it's wrong to do that to a kid. It's parents like those, that warp kids minds, and which makes the world what it is today. (Bad) What do you all think?
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
18 Jan 07
oh that is very sad, kids need approval and encouragement, I don't think some parents realize what their actions can do to a chils even small things.
• United States
19 Jan 07
I agree with you completely! A child with no support and encouragement grows up to have no confidence.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
I couldn't agree with you anymore. As a little kid, I used to always look up to my parents and do what they did. Thankfully, they raised me well.
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@nw1911guy (1131)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Yeah I absolutely agree! Sometimes I think it's parents that need licenses.
• United States
19 Jan 07
How terrible. I'm glad it upset you that much because it shows you care. It's a shame that some people can't have children and if they did they would treat them like precious jewels. Then people who are lucky enough to have two wonderful children treat them like they are an inconvenience.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Things like that, however sad, cannot be stopped. Its awful that children have to face the hate of adults when they require love to grow. Parents need to understand its not all about them.
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@missybal (4490)
• United States
19 Jan 07
That is terrible, they should be more excited for their children they are setting a terrible example. I would have had a talk with them. It is wrong for any parent to argue out in public in front of their children. It can have a lasting negative effect on them and is setting a terrible example for their future. They will think it is normal to argue in public and ignore your child. They will grow up neglected and may do the same to their own children. People like that make me sick. They shouldn't be parents if they don't wish to show an interest in their child.
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Awww all she wanted was to tell them the exciting news. They should have been bowling with her and not drinking so much. As much as I would have wanted to say something I dont think I would have either.
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@pendragon (3350)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I used to be that kid, who was always looking for the small acknowledgements at the wrong place and time. It sucks!It would've been cool to see my dad told off by someone, anyone.I would have tried to go home with you,lol.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
18 Jan 07
That's terrible. How awful for that little girl. It's very often that children like that whose parents don't pay attention to them often end up getting into trouble as they try to seek the attention they crave.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
Yeah, exactly. :D (is trying to bump topic up to top of list) :D
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@wahmoftwo (1296)
• United States
19 Jan 07
That is so sad. So many children go unappreciated. It usually doesn't do any good to say anything to the parents though. It just makes them more angry and then the child has had to witness even more of a scene. You should have said (very loudly of course) "great job sweet heart, that was awesome" at least then someone would have noticed she did something great and maybe it would have shook up the parents.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I can not agree with you more. Those parents need a good brain duster across the back of their heads! That child is not the reason for their arguing...it is their own pig headedness! The child should not have to endure their arguing and feel as if she has to fight for their attention. It is just sad how some parents do not think about the kids instead of themselves!
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@rsmith512 (1561)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think that it is very sad. I hate people that even do that to anyone. It's crule and hurts soo much to the person that you are doing it to. I know when a little child does something right, or does something great, you should make a very BIG deal about it. Not tell them to shut up, and get away. I bet that little girls heart was crushed. I would be upset watching that. Poor little girl. :( And your right, that might be what makes the world what it is today. But, sometimes they want to excel more than their parents did, so they turn out better than ever expected!!! :DD
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
19 Jan 07
That is bad - she just wanted some attention and a "congratulation" and they just blew her off. The sad thing is that if they can act like this in public, thenhow do they act at home, when noone is around?
• United States
19 Jan 07
No one else has anything to add?
• United States
20 Jan 07
*Bumps topic up to top of list*
• United States
26 Jan 07
Bummp!!
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Wow. That is absolutely amazing, and is just another fine example of what society is coming to. It is just one more example of bad parenting, and I feel so sorry for that little girl. I mean, not only was she so excited that she got a strike and she got shut down by her family when they should have been supporting and cheering for her, but they also should not have yelled at her in that way under any circumstance. No matter how upset they were and how much they were arguing, they could have taken a moment to be happy for her achievement.
• United States
19 Jan 07
Exactly! We need more people like you here on mylot, that actually shares something of interest.
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Oh my goodness. It just makes me want to cry. My son, CJ who is 8 has Autism and he can't hold a bowling ball correctly yet because he doesn't know how to support his wrist, even though I try to help him. He uses bumpers and has gotten several strikes before. Even when he only knocks a few down I(we) make a big deal about it and he's so proud. What gets me is, these parents could care less about their child; only that they're able to drink and cuss each other out. I would have had to hold myself back from going up to them but all they would have said was, "mind your own business"...So what can you do, basically nothing.
• United States
20 Jan 07
Wow, I really feel for you. I'll pray for CJ.
• United States
18 Jan 07
That is sad. They shouldn't even been drinking let alone fight in a public place. Those kids are too young to be bowling by themselves. Kids should never be left alone. And language like that should be not be used with children.
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@snow2007 (170)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Yup i think that is wrong but even more wrong in a public place. I would of went up to the father and told him off because hes warping his child's mind. When she grows up i see her acting like that because she was brought up bad. Bad parents these days.
• United States
20 Jan 07
Exactly. Doesn't it make you think that if you see that kind of thing in public, that there's even worse stuff in private?
• United States
20 Jan 07
you're right; it is sad that people act like this, especially towards their child. they obviously wanted to give her a fun outing, but they arent mature enough to act like responsible parents. first of all, fighting in front of their child wasnt right. what does it teach our children? secondly, im sure they planned on getting in their car, with their child, after drinking and driving home. what does that show? they obviously didnt care enough about their child to be good parents. i probably would have gone up to the little girl myself and told her how great her strike was. and then i'd have told the parents they should remember why they were obviously at the bowling alley with their child. but im blunt like that.
@shiboleth (270)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
I think that is a terrible example to set for their children. They are definitely bad parents. It is very sad when people behave like that.
• Portugal
19 Jan 07
I think that those parents donĀ“t diserve to be parents,they could never put their child in the middle of fights and their child has no fault that they are arguing.Those parents only give bad examples how to create a child.
• United States
19 Jan 07
That is a sad thing to see. Why did they bother taking the child bowling if they were going to sit there drinking and arguing? Bowling should be a fun family outing. That poor child probably has to deal with her parents drinking and fighting on a regular basis and doesn't know any other way of life.
• India
20 Jan 07
yes its sad indeed, this is the sort of behavior that may be detrimental to kids mental health and may cause him to be upset, as a kid asways needs love and affection from his parents
@feeding11 (222)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I don't agree to the behavior of the parents and maybe you should have said something to them. Sad for the little girl. If you would have said something it would have been embarassing enough for them to realize what they were doing. Drinking and taking your family out doesn't mix. And don't think it speaks highly of the parenting skills or sorry lack of theirs.