Stop asking to be my friend !!!

@minxy67 (2710)
January 18, 2007 5:48pm CST
I am getting fed up with people requesting to be my friend when they have not even answered any of my discussions, If someone answers one of my discussions and I like discussions they have made, then I will accept them as friends. Otherwise stop asking it gets very annoying.
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17 responses
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
19 Jan 07
You know, I considered posting a discussion the other day saying exactly what you just did!!! I logged on the other morning and saw that I had 21 friend requests. And would you believe that only two of those people only answered ONE of my questions? And at first, I would approve a friend request when the person answered one discussion. But then...that would be all that person would respond to. What's the point? I respond to numerous discussions that my friends post! I have my friends on notify to ensure that I do not miss discussions. Why are people requesting to be friends when they don't really want to be friends??? So, I am with ya sister! I do not want anyone to request friends with me unless they show an interest in my discussions and I can respond to their discussions. :)
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I don't know if it has worked because I have already had a request, that just goes to prove my point. I have made this discussion and they have not even read this to say I WONT be adding friends who do not participate somehow in my discussions, oh well I will just have to keep on denying. LOL
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
18 Jan 07
i also have lots of invitations asking me to be their friend and i don't wanna be rude so, i try to accept them all. and i go back to them every now and then to try and read the discussions they've started and response to some interesting topics from their profile. it's better that way. it's nicer, too. that's why we have friends on our lists to make us connected,right?
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I do not want to be rude to people either, that is why I am posting this, to let them not not to waste their time, requesting me to be their friend, in real life (not on computer) you don't accept everyone as your friend and I think it is the same on mylot, I like to think that my friends are friends and not just ways of making money.(although it helps. lol.)
@misskatonic (3730)
• United States
18 Jan 07
That irks me, too. Most of them just do it so they can send you a private message to invite you to their site or promote something or some other stuff like that. I've become very, very picky about who I approve as my friend because of that.
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I had that happen so many times when I first joined, that is partly why I started deleting my friends list. Thank you for your response in my discussion. :)
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 07
hahahaha Minx I am glad they have decided to pick on you now and leave me alone lol well I like sharing with my Friends so I have referred them to you ( only joking) I know it can be a pain when they just won't accept deny
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
Hi gabs, I think it has got worse since the new rating thing. any friend of yours is welcome. ;) Since posting this I have had another request. LOL
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 07
Lol thanks Minxy and I do have some lovely Friends to you are one of them I hope they are leaving you alone now lol
@minxy67 (2710)
20 Jan 07
Oh thank you gabs, I wish more people realised that I am not the bad one... :)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I just want to say I found this discsussion very amusing. I am a member of a couple of online communities and I have a similiar problem. I get friend requests and if I accept them I get spammed. Sounds, like I can expect that to happen here as well. And I agree it is very annoying.
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
Thank you for taking the time to read and answer my discussion, I think starting this post might have cured by problem, so it was worth posting, at least people know that unless they participate in my discussions I won't bother adding them to my friends list, but all people that do join in my discussions and wish to me on my friends list, I will welcome them. :)
• Greece
20 Jan 07
you can delete them at any time right?
• United States
18 Jan 07
Why do you care who is your friend on here? Whenever I get a friend request, I always accept it. It's better to have more friends anyways!
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
Why is it better to have lots of friends? I would rather have friends that have something in common with me and can write and reply to discussions, than someone who has nothing in common with me and gives one word answers.
@rainbow (6763)
19 Jan 07
i have noticed this quite a lot lately, people ask to be my friend and I don't know who they are, or they have relied maybe to 1 or 2 discussions but as you know I don't post many. Then I reply to their discussions, get no response from them and do not get mine answered either. How can they call themselves my friend? Real friends are the nes who reply to discussions if they hve some knowledge of thesubject or something to say, not to just reply to anything. you are right it can be annoying.
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
It is quite funny and proves a point, because all the people that are on my friends list are the ones who agree with what I am saying, including you my dear friend. Thank you as always for taking the time to reply to my discussion. :)
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
19 Jan 07
ohhhhhh dear friend i know you are not being rude, and discussions like this one is just why we love you. I deny 9 out of 10 friends requests, because like you, i will not add anyone i feel i have nothing in common with, but whereas i deny without a second thought it seems to trouble you, i think thats becauseyou are a nice person stay lucky keep on posting
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
hi dear friend, I am glad you know that I am not being rude, the requests seems to have stopped ,for the time being anyway, LOL Thank you as always for taking the time to respond to my discussion. :)
@jammed (154)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Well they might be interested to know more about you. They may have liked your discussions and it's one way of showing appreciation.
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
If someone had participated in my discussions, I would add them, I am talking about people that have obviously randomly picked me and have never entered any of my discussions, and when I read their profiles, we have nothing at all in common. Thank you for your response. :)
@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Same here. It's one thing if we have posted in several discussions together or they have posted in mine or me in theres but otherwise how do they know we'd share similar tastes? I accepted a lot when I first joined, now I'm more picky. I really need to go through my list and see who I really respond to when they post a discussion. Some I just don't and I know it. Sometimes they make great discussions it's just not something I'm interested in. For example "American Idol", could care less about it and other things like that. I don't care and wouldn't bother responding because I have no basis to. When I get a request now I look through their profile at once they have made and ones they have responded to. I then go from there.
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@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way, it does get annoying, when I turned on the computer this morning, 3 more waiting to be added, I added one of them because they had interesting discussions which I can answer, the other 2 a waste of time.I always check their profile first, I don't just delete them. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my discussion. :)
@Jaytech (2251)
19 Jan 07
Will you be my friend? hehehe
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I would be your friend, as we have a few things in common. Thank you for your response. :)
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
Also you have answered one of my discussions, I am talking about people who have nothing in common with me and have not answered my discussion.
@Jaytech (2251)
20 Jan 07
I've answered so many discussions the last few days that I don't even remember which one it was d'oh, sorry
@dravid (1050)
• India
20 Jan 07
i really dont consider this dicussion worth.....i thouht their would be somthing good...but this was just too rude
@minxy67 (2710)
20 Jan 07
I disagree with you that this discussion is rude, the reason I am putting out this discussion, is because I am NOT rude, I think that people that want to join my friends list without anything in common with me is RUDE. Thank you for your response. :)
@dravid (1050)
• India
21 Jan 07
ok if u say so.but i really dont mind at all if people send me frinds request...i generally approve them all too....anyway its your matter
@sproutz (260)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
A tad anti-social? LOL I guess a post is a posty though. I don't see the big fuss, is it THAT hard to press DENY?
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I am not trying to be anti social, I am just trying to point out that if I have nothing in common with someone, why would I want to be their friend? Thank you for your reply. :)
@sproutz (260)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
Point taken. :) I would just see if they match you on ANY level, if so, add them. :) If not, deny. :) Some people add add add, like we're in highschool and this is a populairty contest.
• Greece
20 Jan 07
well i only think you are overreacting about this... sofia
@minxy67 (2710)
20 Jan 07
Hi sofia, I am just letting people know how I feel. Thank you for your response. :)
• India
19 Jan 07
why we should such question being a friend he will not miss such a friends.. who is thinking that "stop asking to be my friend!" they will obey as a good friend!
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
I have read your reply over and over again and I do not mean to be rude, but it does not make sense.
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Dear minxy, when reading this, people might think you are rude. But I know you must be fed up. Anyway, what you can do is, let them be friends, watch their way, then slowly delete them. That's what I do. I had nearly 100 but now I reduced it to 40. Good luck.
@minxy67 (2710)
19 Jan 07
Dear friend, you know that I am not being rude, I am just fed up with people that have nothing in common with me and have never even participated in any of my discussions wanting to be on my friends list, I have no problem adding people to my list if we share some some interests, but when nothing is shared , I do not see the point of adding them. Thank you as always for taking part in my discussion. :)
@072006 (1282)
• India
18 Jan 07
Hushhh...too much!!!!
@minxy67 (2710)
18 Jan 07
Did nobody tell you that this was a discussion site? Thank you for your response. :)