Will you attend your ex bf / ex gf's wedding?

@chebin (286)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 11:32pm CST
Will you or will you not? Are you and your ex still friends? or no longer have communication with each other? There are some questions to be considered in answering the subject of this discussion I opened. I just want to know more how others would react if they were invited to their ex's wedding... When I got married 2 yrs ago, I didn't invite any of my ex's... One main reason is we no longer have communication w/ each other. If you were invited, will you attend? or perhaps still attend w/o being invited... :)
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@anil_762001 (1636)
• India
19 Jan 07
ya sure i will attend the ceremony if i am invited.
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@chebin (286)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
thanks for responding :)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
I'm the kind of person that doesn't like the feeling having enemies. Me and my ex are still friends. Though we don't see each other anymore, we still have communication. I'm already happy with my boyfriend and he's happy with his girlfriend. So if incase, he will invite me on thier wedding. For sure, Iris will be one of the names listed on their guest book. Once and for all, he became part of my life. We're best friends now =)
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
4 Feb 07
This happened to me. I didn'tr know what to do because I had just gotton over her and because of that I thought it mightr be alright to go. On the other hand I also thought it might bring back old feelings I had for her. I didn't go.
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@payatot (37)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
hmm.. it depends on what level of friendship me and my ex have. if we are friends prior to the relationship and remained friends after the break up then why the hell not? i'll bring my boyfriend though. so they wouldn't think i attended to object ahd also to save my face from all the jokes. but if the ex is not a friend anymore, which is the case, i won't go. even if i'm invited. it's just respect for the bride. =)
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@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I definitely would not attend an ex's wedding. One of my exes was really horrible to me and we had a very messy breakup, so we don't even talk anymore, so I definitely wouldn't go to his wedding, if he ever has one. I'm not close with my other ex anymore, so I think it would be awkward to go to his wedding too. I'm engaged right now, and I am definitely not inviting my ex boyfriends to the wedding, lol. I don't want any memories of past relationships around at my wedding!
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• United States
4 Feb 07
I am in the situation you discussed as the significant other. My husband "kissed" this girl and had a big crush on her years back. I do believe he loved her. He would never give up their friendship as we were married and i expressed my concern for such a relationship. Now she is getting married and she wants him to come. She even offered to pay his plane ticked out there. I felt so betrayed that he had this close a relationship with someone he used to care so much about. Even if it is not just an innocent friendship, I have to trust that he loves me and stays true to me. I honestly think when a marriage or serious relationship like ours develops, old flames should be just that...a thing of the past. But, anyhow....my opinion.
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
27 Jan 07
Yeah I would be very happy to although I don't think I would be invited somehow! I would be really happy if he met someone and they got on so well that they ended up married. But as far as I know, he hasn't met anyone so I doubt this will happen anytime soon. If you ever did love someone you would be happy if they are happy. Unless of course he dumped you for the one he is now marrying, but as soon as you forgave them then you would be pleased for them. My first serious boyfriend was being unfaithful to me and I was unhappy about it for quite a long time. Not anymore as I am happy myself.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Glad to know that you are happy right now :) also experienced having an unfaithful bf before and it really could change your view in entering another relationship. but ia have no regrets because i'm happily married now and our son who made our bond even stronger :) hope you find that happiness also :)
@tams85 (30)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
I have really good relationships with both my ex's, so I know I'd be invited to both weddings, and I would definately go barring some unforseen circumstance.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
Good for you! :) in my case, i no longer have any contact with them.
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
i don't make friends with my ex anymore.it is just my respect to my husband. i would not even attend his wedding.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
thanks for your response :) happy posting :)
• United States
25 Jan 07
No definitely not. What is the point of attending when majority of the guests might know you are the ex and it might upset the bride. Just send them a best wishes card, that will be enough.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
thanks for your response. that's a great suggestion :)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
My ex and I still communicate because we go to the same church, he's the son of our pastor! I also know his girlfriend now, we've known each other since childhood but we were never really friends. I know they're planning to get married soon and of course, I am invited. I might be the make-up artist too! How odd, eh? :) But I'm madly in love with my boyfriend now so I don't really mind. What's past is past.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
wow! aside from being invited, you're also the make-up artist?! you really must be in real good terms with your ex as well as his fiance to agree that you be the make-up artist! :)
@burieks (127)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
My ex bf and i are still friends and if ever he's going to invite me to his wedding, i think i will attend. we had a great past but that's past already and we moved on to our separate lives and remain friends, so if he's going to invite me, i might as well attend.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
that;s nice to know :) good for you! thanks for your response! happy posting :)
@Gmens91 (389)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I would attend to her wedding,but only if I was invited. I have no problems with that, since what was between us is now over. In fact, I would love to see her so happy and contented.
@gianena (256)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
You're definitely right. ;);) In the first place, why would you go if you weren't invited, right?!?!?!?
• United States
25 Jan 07
i dunno.. i have only one ex who got married.. we are not friend, and i dont want to attend his wedding..
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
10 Feb 07
thanks for responding :)
@rikpallav (1242)
• India
19 Jan 07
I would say I will never gonna attend it just really will freak me out...
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
some also feels the same way :) thanks for sharing :)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
why not? if he will include me in his entourage as his maid of honor =)
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
hmmm... let us know if he does ;) thanks for responding!
• India
21 Jan 07
yes i shall wen u ve nothing between u its no wrong indulging in the other one's happpier times n make merry praying 4 ur ex's better life
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
yes, if there's no bitterness left inside, it'll be easier seeing the ex walking down the aisle. thanks for sharing :)
@csenguler (243)
• United States
22 Jan 07
yea i think i will attend the wedding if i am invited. I mena come on let's be more realistic people, there is nothing more then respect. If your lover chose sombody else, then you need to respect his/her decision. and there is nothing to be hurt about. take care.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
thanks for sharing your opinion :)
@diablita (22)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
i am not going to attend, even if am invited simply because i don't believe in friendship after breaking up with someone you loved before, its very complicating and painful to move on and yet still seeing someone u used to loved as a friend. i would rather be stay where i am and make new friends, the x's who is part of my past will forever be an x, and i won't change that. and i also expect them to feel and believe that way towards me. there are so many people on earth to make friends with, so let the x's go, period.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
i see. thanks for sharing your thoughts with us :)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I wouldn't be invited, so no. We dont' get along very well, so it wouldn't be worth my time.
@chebin (286)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
oh i see. thanks for responding :)