Hiding pain

@rmuxagirl (7568)
United States
October 5, 2006 8:24pm CST
How often do we try to hide our pain? We tend to not want friends and family to know that we're in pain. "Laughter can conceal a heavy heart; when the laughter ends, the grief remains." Proverbs 14:13 Although we try to mask pain or grief, it's always there and we always need to face it. That's why God gave us friends....to help us get through it all... So we gotta try to stop hiding behind laughter or anything else and open up....can it be that hard?
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• India
14 Oct 06
with a long smile
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@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
14 Oct 06
thats what i do too.
15 Oct 06
Brave smiles.
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• India
15 Oct 06
that is my nature
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15 Oct 06
And for those who don't have friends or family? Most people avoid the source of pain, it has to be tackled head on, otherwise you're never going to overcome yourself and instead be dragged under.
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@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
15 Oct 06
Tried, but when in pain we try to hide it from friends and family....we try not to let others know that we're hurting in any way.
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@missybal (4492)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Mostly I have to hide physical pain because of health problems. I don't want people to worry when they can't do anything to help me.
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• United States
13 Nov 06
I really don't tell everyone about my pain. However I may tell a close friend sometimes.
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@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
13 Nov 06
which is easier to talk about...Physical or emotional..
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
20 Dec 06
having true friends would make that possible and easy. people always try to hide their pains and problems coz of distrust and sad experiences of non-acceptance in the past. once one finds a person he/she can trust and open up to without being blamed and judged, then it's a blessing. chancing upon someone who would accept us as we are and love us just the same is indeed a treasure.
@hsvgrl86 (194)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
i always hide my pain, its something i have done my whole life, i try to show some of my pain to my partner but i can't and he know it.
@meeoww (1174)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I don't feel relief from crying. It just makes my eyes puffy. Being upset/angry, or just emotional, just takes alot of energy out of me, energy that is better directed elsewhere. My problems are very miniscule when I pause to consider the hardships that others face, so for the most part, I just keep the stiff upper lip and move on like a good little trooper. I choose my battles carefully, and if I need to then sometimes I'll confide in usually no more than 1 or 2 close friends.
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@pendragon (3354)
• United States
19 Dec 06
Well, I know I'm quite oversensitive, so I try to weigh out the cause of the pain before reacting to it.Sometimes you can hear something completely incorrectly and it shouldnt hurt you at all, so if I'm confused, i'll ask before I let something offend me.Otherwise i cry on a reeze if I KNOW something is painful,lol.I'll hide major pain sometimes, depending on the subject.
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@cisco1 (540)
• United States
19 Dec 06
i hide my pain with silence. i dont open my feelings. if im down i will listen to music to ease it.
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• United States
19 Dec 06
Giving in to pain and letting it run its course is very hard. Nobody wants to feel pain. Nobody wants to grieve. It is better to face the pain, deal with it. It makes us stronger. Laughter and joy will come again.
• United States
13 Nov 06
Most humans don't want others to see how vunarble (probably spelled that wrong) we are. I personally am a suffer in silence type of person. I would rether keep it to myself then worry someone else with it. Thats just me though. Good discussion by the way.
• India
11 Nov 06
if the reason for the pain is really hard for our friends/family to hear....then jus divert the topic from it n make them happy without saying that...
• India
2 Apr 07
Its really very hard to hide your pain from your loved ones but its good for them only if you hide it, because they can't see you in pain. If then know that you are in pain or you have tensions then they will also get tense so its better not to tell them. I also try myself not to tell my pains to anyone.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I deal with pain every day, both physical and emotional. Over the years I have become quite good at hiding it. Sometimes I can even hide it from myself temporarily. Unfortunately it always comes back to haunt me.