How to manage the angry temperament
January 19, 2007 1:23am CST
Some times I go angry and the situation is beyond my control. I feel very sorry after coming down. How one can remain cool? Do you have any permanent remedy?
19 Jan 07
Some simple steps you can try: Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut." Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply. Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation. If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior. When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems with anger that you want to work on, and ask about his or her approach to anger management. Make sure this isn't only a course of action designed to "put you in touch with your feelings and express them"—that may be precisely what your problem is. With counseling, psychologists say, a highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about 8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.
• United States
19 Jan 07
When I feel the anger taking me over I walk away from the situation. If I am sith someone I tell them that I need some quiet time to calm down. Then I go and either scream into my pillow or start beating it up. Other times I just try to think of something really funny and laugh. that is what works best for me. laughing just makes everything better. IF this is something that you are really concerned about then seek professional help. Their are support groups and anger management programs that can help you. Talk to your doctor and they should be able to point you in the right direction. I think realizing it is an issue is the first step so congrats to you for that. Good Luck.