excuse me!!??

I feel the exact same way that you do!! When I was working, it really torqued my hide how RUDE the other employees were...and they were older than me!! I am 27 and everyone there would get so huffy at me because I would say "sorry" if I was in a hurry and bumped into them, or I said "excuse me" when they were in my way, or if when I would ask for something with a "please". And with me being a manager, they almost looked at me like I was an alien...you really don't hear that type of stuff coming from a manager's mouth I guess. My biggest question was "WHY?". I usually work in the restaurant field and hardly anyone showed respect towards the other, like they felt that respect was earned. I am the type of person where I give the first ounce of respect, and as soon as you disrespect me you loose mine. And I apply that with whoever I meet...not just being a manager. But what hurts is when I am treated like I am being "fake" about it. When I say it, I mean it!! I understand that you need to respect your elders, but if they disrespect me, why should I? I am trying to instill in my children to always be polite. The funny thing about my oldest, who is 7, is that he might be a terror, but he will at least say thank you and please and will be polite. He may forget every once in a while, but I am right there to correct him. The sad thing is that with him being at school, I can't monitor him there and there are many times that he will come home and give me the "attitude" that the kids at school have...that's where I get hurt because I can see how other children his age are, and it is very sad. So I understand how it is up to us parents to instill that quality in our children every day because there is always someone there teaching them something else that is NOT right.

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We just moved to a "southern" state here in the US. I'm 34, and I've noticed as well, I get more respect/kindness/better treatment from young girls-teens and 20 somethings, then I do from older women-50+. I find the older women are just plain rude lol. I'll agree with you to a point about respecting your elders, but if they're rude or snotty, guess what? I'll give it right back to them. Respect is a 2 way street, and if I walk into an office or store, and after I say hello to the woman, and she's rude, she doesn't deserve my respect.

I completely agree. I am younger than you, but I have a hard time with my peers, they are very disrespectful. I don't understand it. My two year old doesn't get away with being rude, but 20 year olds do. It doesnt make much sense. I make my son say please and thankyou and we are currently working on exuse me and your welcome. I'm the head of the nursery at my church, and you would be surprised at how rude these children can be. Is it just not important anymore for children to learn how to be polite?

yes you are so very right, I could be at work and walking to the door, someone ahead of me instead of holding the door open, which i feel is just courtesy, they don't even bother, Or vice versa I hold the door open for them, no thank you...walk right in front of you and don't say excuse me...I don't know myself...Maybe the word "respect" is not as important to them as it is to us...Sometimes I even find myself saying "excuse me" for them..lol...I don't get it, where is the old school teachings from our grandparents and parents about respect for others...Some got it and some don't...

You are right - nowadays all the people say that only young people are rude and unpolite but that is not true! Well not fully true - they are moistly rude but they are not the only ones - the previous generation, the ones who now have like 25-30 years are also mostly rude and unpolite ;) But well if we can be polite then maybe we can make a difference so we should try even if we wont suceed in spreading a politess in the begining maybe something will change...

ok i excused you

I for one am very big on teaching my children these things. I agree with you and there just are not many anymore who do use these words. I work with all of my children constantly on this, it is very important in our house. My children make me happy with this subject though as I have many compliments from people always telling me how polite and nice my children are.

i know what u are talking about.in my previous work my coworkers were very rude..using swear words etc and also they NEVER used please and thank you..i guess there parents were too busy to teach them manners..

Isn't that funny. I am the youngest here at my work at 34.. Most of my co-workers have been here for 15 + years.. and it was so hard earning respect from them. I agree in respect your elders also.. But what about respect in the workplace.. Usually its us younger workers that bring in the new fresh ideas.. I think that scares alot of the older workers. I have been here for 6 years now and I am still earning respect. I have learned that even if they are rude to you- kill them with kindness-- usually makes them feel like jackasses and they come around. So keep it up.. Alot of us are your shoes.

I know exactly what you're saying, and it also makes me sad. Kids just are not being taught to respect their elders. A lot of kids, anyway. I believe that too many parents let videogames and television and other such things 'babysit' their children, in leiu of really parenting the kids themsleves. They don't even take an active interest in their kid's lives and try to shape their child's values and morals the way that they should.

I agree . I work in a Library at a University and some of our students are very rude and inconsiderate. The talk loudly and mess around and if you try to talk to them about it they generally abuse you. That said, some of the accademic staff are not much better.

excuse me !!is a world that you are soory for unusal work , about your mistake , your foult so i think excuse me is relation makemakeing ward that`s why mostly use this.

My parents raised me to have good manners, and my mom says she always gets compliments that my brother and i have good manners. I really like it when people are just polite, it just makes everything nicer. I too wish people would have better manners.

I know where you are coming from, and it is surprising sometimes just to see where people are coming from. I know that you do not have a BAD day 365 days a yr, and nothing is so Bad you need to be Rude and unconsiderate of others. I work with a man who is Rude, and prejudice and such who is in his 40s. I have heard he also has Health issues that are serious. But does this mean he needs to take it out on others, and not think about someone else as well?

i completely agree with you... i truly believe that the teenagers nowadays are getting more and more impolite towards elders... i think it is because of the trend and home education which is very important... parents nowadays have to work so hard to earn money for the family that they hardly have any time left to educate their children... not like in the past where the pressure is not so much for both parents to go out and earn money... at least the mum can still stay at home and educate the children...

In my world,there is also this kind of thing just like u.Some teenagers like some shows,which I think no meaningful.Everyone has different habits and I hope u can meet the people that has the same interest with u

yes i think so ,and it is the basic polite to say excuse me to others when we will trouble them.if without it ,i will get fed up too.

these things should start first at home. when they're not use to hearing such things like "excuse me", "please", or "thanks" they won't bother saying it. plus, they don't hear those words any more on tv shows, movies or radio stations. all they hear are "bad" words.

Good manners have to be taught at home and at school. the teachers and parents should make conscious effort to impart these qualities in their children.manners does matters.