what would you do if you found out that your partner has been cheating on you?

United States
January 19, 2007 2:40pm CST
would you stay with your partner or would you leave your partner?
7 responses
@shambuca (2560)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I would want to give him one more chance but I don't think I could- I would always be thinking about him with the other woman, it would hurt too much.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
yah, it would bother me too.
• Canada
19 Jan 07
I would leave him. I have an obsessive personality and knowing that he betrayed me like that would drive me nuts. I wouldn't be able to live like that, plus I'd always be paranoid.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
wow.. God bless you.
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
19 Jan 07
I would ask for the reason and give them one more chance
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• United States
19 Jan 07
awwwwwwwwww, you must be inlove huh?
• United States
19 Jan 07
well I have very clear vision on this topic. see everyone does have a heart n so does I or my hubby.If you have such qualities that you can make others ur's then why not ur better half. you just have to try. If even after all that still the other half cheats on you and you came to know about it. then I think I should get to have a talk with him very calmly without making mess n if he wants to leave me he can do it for sure. I won't let any one come between us. trying for that surly since 3 yr's when I got married or rather i say happily married. CHEERS!!
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Ok I'm going to open myself up here... After about 2 years of marriage and 1 child, my husband did cheat on me with a girl that was underage. The only reason that I found out was because she turned him in (even though she did most of the flirting and stuff to get him to do it - you cn tell that by reading the police report). My husband ended up having to get a lawyer, go to court, pay restitution, do community service, and spend sometime in jail. It was very hard on me. Thankfully our daughter was only a year old at the time. I chose to stand by him and make our marriage work. We committed ourselves to each other and to God. We prayed together, we talked together, we cried together. That was all 3 years and another child ago and we are going stong as a couple and as a family.
• United States
19 Jan 07
This is a tough question. I would like to say I would leave no questions asked. But if put tin the position I think I would want to know what had went wrong, where we lost our love for one another. I am deeply in love with my husband and if he told me he had cheated on me and he felt terrible. Blah blah blah he wants to work it out I think I would try it. If I found out he was cheating on me then I would be much less likely to try to work on things. Either way you look at it there is little hope that the relationship would survive something like that but I would have to give it one last chance to prove to myself that I gave it all I had and it still didn't work.
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I have to disagree that there is little hope of a relationship working after someone cheats. I had it happen to me (see my post below). You can make it work. It takes a lot of hard work on both of the people involved. But it can be done. I have a very hard time letting go of things and I still have moments that it comes to mind, but I just have to refocus my thoughts and remember that we chose to move past that and work together as a couple.
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• United States
20 Jan 07
I think that is fabulous that you guys made it work. I know it must be hard from time to time. It does definately take a lot of hard work from both sides. I just meant that I don't think many people could make it work and there for thier is little hope.
@raveena (1356)
• India
19 Jan 07
I would ask my husband what he would have done if he found me cheating on him? After that I would pack my bags and leave as I am very posessive about the people whom I love.