Child support

United States
January 19, 2007 2:42pm CST
I have been hiring lawyers these last 7 years for the arears my ex owes us. Three times just before a hearing he has committed himself to a hospital of some type. Once he said he tried to kill himself, (no luck), and twice for rehab, alchol-drugs related. He is found guilty for the areas but some how manages to hire a lawyer everytime to LOWER his payments. I am used like a bar tap, he is to pay $100 towards arears which doesnt cover the 8% interest. I hired another lawyer going on two years, gave him $2K and a list. There was a new arears never heard, the repoed of a car he was to pay for. I was requesting an increase in insurance, child support, and the arears. It took a while to locate him, as usual coudlnt find him, he didnt do as he was to notify the courts on his job or residence change. I find him, get him servered, he quits his job says he is to sick to work. He says he has C.O.P.D. I know the first stage is very much like asthma which I have. I do not know what stage of the 3 he has because we have yet to have court. This new judge (third) goes behind closed doors with my ex attorney and mine and says he wants to give him time to file for SS disability. He has been turned down several times I found out, yet the courts are not notified and the judge keeps giving him time. WE NEED MONEY and my lawyers fees are mounting. The ex is getting all this time yet nothing has been established he is sick. He looks, and acts healthy. I also feel I am being lied to by my lawyer but cant aford a new one and he knows this, he hasnt file what I keep asking for. I have put it in writing and sent him new medical bills from my sons to pass on. That has been weeks ago, of course I have not recieved a dime from my ex on them, but my lawyer hasnt responded. We have a hearing in Feb and I am told its to see if the ex has filed AGAIN. You can file for SS disability 100 times, doesnt mean you will get it. From what I found out he as hired a lawyer, yet I wasnt notified. 2 questions I know this lawyer is going to ask off the case, I want him to finish what he started. When does go to the judge, how can I have a say? and This lawyer says their are no laws for those saying they are to sick to work. This guys history says a lot, but this new judge wants to give him a chance, yet at the childrens expense. I live in Mississippi, arent their laws to make him work? Shouldnt we have had a hearing to determind he is sick? I'm afraid in this small town this lawyer has played this out and told my ex's lawyer in time he will be off the case I can barley pay our bills, I cant aford my asthma medicine, I cant aford another lawyer. And dont direct me to DHS, they will do nothing. By the way, not only did he quit his job, his truck got repossed, he DUI's prevent him to get another DL and he just doesnt give a dam.
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12 responses
@classy56 (2883)
• United States
20 Jan 07
you can go to the public libary an get the papers to file for your support your self an you wont have to pay for a lawyer an the cost is $10.00 to file it with the court house.you can repersent your self an tell the judge yourself what you want from the father an be sure to take a copy of what all he hasnt paid an when the last time he paided
• United States
22 Jan 07
I have already tried to represent myself. I did a really good job filing the paperwork, paying the fees to be told by two judges to hire a lawyer and the other refused to hear it.
@lvhughes (545)
• United States
20 Jan 07
if you live in Mississipi you are out of luck. i have had the same problem. but try putting kids on medicail and the state will take over child support problems although that doesnt get to much done but you will not have to pay court cost. i got lucky and pinned my ex with to much stuff on him so he finally signed the kids over to keep from paying i can do more by myself than having to fight him. i also live in a small town in mississippi. Good luck . i hope you nail him.
@schummi (925)
• India
20 Jan 07
i dont have much of an idea about these procedures but i really think that you should opt for some other lawyer becouse as you said that you are in this case since last 7years and you have goen nowhere.atleast for the sake of oyur children just go for some other lawyer
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@smacksman (6074)
20 Jan 07
You have been down the legal route and the men in black have bled you dry. Surprise! Now it is time to enlist the help of some friendly heavies and persuade him with a baseball bat to support you in a realistic manner. Avoiding responsibilities by appearing to be sick may then just make him really sick.
• United States
22 Jan 07
I have heard of ex girlfriends who have had him beaten and one ex husband running around with a bat looking for him. No such luck, he is still walking around abusing and manupliating women.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I am sorry you have to go through this, My mom just recently went through it too. I just wanna wish you luck
• India
20 Jan 07
Yes...!!! A very tough time indeed....!!!! I`ll add prayers too....!!!!
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
20 Jan 07
YOu need to stop hiring lawyers, and let it rest. Just be sure that the fellow doesn't get his visitation, make sure he can't find YOU. It used to be that when women went on welfare, sodail services would have the child support case on file. It didn't work much faster but it did mean you weren't paying for lawyers. I don't know where you are getting money for attorneys, but your paying them makes it seem that you could be using those funds to support your family, so the court is in no hurry to help you out.
• United States
22 Jan 07
The lawyers need to the their job. The judges need to show more concern for the children. The money is from income tax return, a small protion. Once the jerk is found guilty he is to pay my lawyer. DHS in Mississippi is a joke. The system is more concerned for the hispanic and black community.
@ladybear (128)
• Denmark
19 Jan 07
Boy what an a... There has to be some sort of law that will make him pay something. I can see if he isn't working they can't take it out og his paycheck, but if he is sick then he must get some sort of disability. Isn't there a law that can take some of that money for you so that he pays something? I know from my mom that it was taken out of my fathers paycheck because he didn't wan't to pay child support.
@not4me (1713)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Can't you get a district attorney? Paid-for lawyers scam people big-time.
@kmgupta (561)
• India
20 Jan 07
i could read fully but your problem is very grave
@Adderz (66)
20 Jan 07
I was once a lawyer
@snow2007 (170)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
That is sad really you know he is just stalling it and hoping you give up. I suggest you keep suing him and i hope you win.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I wish I could tell you what to do, or have any way to help. I hate guys that don't live up to their own children. Contact your state offices I know they have an actual state attorney that handles child support issues here, also women's rights groups can sometimes help. But if he has court ordered vistation do not get in the way of it. Courts view visitation and support as two seperate issues. You can be jailed or fined for violating a court order. That will not help your kids at all.