Depression - how do you feel about it?

@aradia (68)
United States
January 19, 2007 3:11pm CST
Depression runs in my family. I've been around it my entire life, so I have a somewhat unique perspective of it. I am wondering what other people think. People who've never experienced it...people who have. People who don't have knowledge of it think very differently than those of us who do. I'm curious to see how the other half thinks about this. For those of you who don't battle with depression, or have no experience with someone who does, how does it make you feel to see or interact with depressed people? Do you understand it? Do you look down on people who suffer from it? Do you try to ignore them because you are uncomfortable? What do you do when a family member comes to you and tells you he/she is depressed? For those of you who have suffered, how have people treated you? What advice do you have for those who are actively looking to better their situation, but don't know how? Does the outside world make you feel like a second-class citizen because of your depression? Do you keep it quiet, or do you talk to someone/people about your feelings?
11 people like this
43 responses
20 Jan 07
I have recently suffured from depression quite badly. None of my friends seem to understand, but saying that i always thought people with depression where just being grumpy but now i have had to deal with it myself it must be so hard for people who have suffured depression for a long time and daren't speak about it. Because depression makes you feel like an outsider. I think you should tell someone you trust as soon as you start to feel depressed and seek help i told my mum and i say a doctor and it really helped.
• Canada
20 Jan 07
Hi, I also suffer bigtime with clinical depression that I was born with(the chemical imbalance). Here are the answers to your questions: Q:How have people treated me? A:If people find out about it, some of them treat me like a freak, and some of them still stay the same as they were before they found out about it. However, if the ones that dont know i have the sickness see me sad and/or in a panicky state, some of them put me down, some pretend i am invisible, and some still treat me like a human no matter what. Q:What advice do i have for others? A:All i am able to say is that they should talk to a doctor about it, and find out if it is the chemical imbalance or a different kind. If its the chemical imbalance, there are different medications that can help. Q:Does the outside word make me feel like a second-class citizen because of my depression? A:I honestly could not say that about the "outside world" since I think that is too general. Q:Do I keep it quiet, or talk to someone about it? A:It all depends on who, where and why.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
24 Oct 10
I use to manage depression, listening musiq, playing violen and i like chocolates, and i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.
@cwilson26 (2737)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Depression also runs in my family, on my dads side. Not only that but also social anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I have been suffering from it for a long time. I do feel like an outsider around everyone else including my family. I hate feeling this way and I don't feel normal because of it. I have panic attacks when I'm around too many people so I don't leave the house that often. Many people probably think of me as a freak because of this but It is a chemical imbalance in my brain. I don't think like everyone else. I can't just go out there and do what other people do because of the way I am. My uncle on my dads side hasn't left his house in over 20 years. He suffers from agoraphobia and has never been on medication. I couldn't think of my life being like this forever and have been trying meds with no luck. I do get treated differently by people because of this. My own sister only calls me when she needs me to babysit because she knows I don't go anywhere because of my condition and all she cares about is having a babysitter when she wants to go out. I get looked down on by some of my aunts and uncles on my moms side because of my depression and anxiety. I do talk to a therapist and my doctor but nothing seems to be helping me. I just need the right medication and the right people to listen and I think I can get through this.
• New Zealand
20 Jan 07
I have depression. I have been treated in not so good ways, but there have been times where I have been treated nicely. Mostly people here are in denial that I am depressed. They say that I am fine and I just need to harden up and get on with my life. I am finding it difficult to follow that advice when I feel so messed up. But anyway I have had some family members call me crazy and a headcase. That really hurt my feelings a lot. But there are people who I can reach out to. Even though most of them are in other countries, the internet helps a lot with that. I have a really great boss at my work who tries to be as understanding as she possibly can and she is great to talk to when she has the time. The health professionals are what I have mixed feelings about because I find that they will never really understand me. Although they try to (and I appreciate that)...they never really get it, and I think that unless they have been through depression themselves... then they really won't be able to understand fully what is going on in my head. But I have had one counselor and she has been through it, so she understands a lot more than the psychologists and psychiatrists and the nurses and the GP. I am hoping to go back to her starting Feb 5th. Anyway, my advice to people who are looking to better your situation but don't know how, is to find some kind of support. Like friends, family, anybody you trust. Talk to them. If one doesn't get it, then go to someone else. I find my internet friends are the best. I pretty much have a hard time on explaining how I feel to anyone... even to myself at times. I find that there is a few people who I can tell all my feelings too... sometimes. But I find that writing in a journal helps me get some things out. And my poetry (although I haven't been able to do much poetry lately).
• United States
20 Jan 07
Depression runs in my family as well, I was diagnosed with it, but now I am doing better thanks to dieting and exercising. Another thing is giving and writing. That also makes me feel better.
@frndzb4 (131)
20 Jan 07
I think most of must hv experienced depression at some point of time .. there are different circumstances to feel depressed and its such a negative factor which effects a person's personality, thinking process, appetite, sleep, personal and social activities .. one loses the total confidence in oneself when he/she is under depression. whenever I went through with this phase .. I tried to come out of it by listening some motivating songs or by seeking some close friend's help .. I don't think people treat you otherwise when you are under depression.. I'm personally a very optimistic & motivating person. I always try to help those who I find are under depression.. by sharing their thoughts & motivating them.
• Malaysia
20 Jan 07
I do not have depression but i do have a friend who has experienced it and i know how serious it is when someone starts to have depression. It's kind of surprise when i knew that my friend was under depression until he had to seek help from a phsycologist. Why i say surprise is that he himself is a matured guy which causes everyone likes to seek advice from him and i do feel he can really give some good advice that can really help you on certain personal issues. But who knows he can cure people but he can't cure himself. From my friend's situation, i understand a fact that everyone has problem no matter how wise or how clever he is. Everyone needs someone to listen to them once in awhile. Thank God my friend was able to face his depression and willing to seek help from a phsycologist and i can see with the help of phsycologist, he's getting better and better. Sometimes is hard for people who is having depression to admit that he/she is having mental problem and needs to seek for doctor's help. For people who is having depression and not willing to seek for phsycologist help, please do not isolate yourself, try to talk to your friends, they may not able to help, but they are willing to listen to you which i believe that is very much helpful than keeping all your negative feelings by yourself. It's good to mix around with positive friends which can give your much more positve thinking.
• United States
20 Jan 07
depression is one of the most miss concepted disrespected topics in america today. many people, who i should mention has probably never delt with depression in their lifetime, think it is a state where you can easily just jump up and come out of; a phase if you will. however, people who think this way are not acknowleging the fact that this illness takes a process and is not going to take over night for depressed people to come out of. I believe that people should consider that depression is an illness that can easily spread to others from depressed people themselves. the only cure for it is love. love another person. embrace depressed people. just because they are not moving on your terms, that still gives you no right not to express yourself to someone who is depressed with love. So treat everyone with love and repect his or her situation and life will become a little easier for everyone.
@shatman (728)
20 Jan 07
i hate seeing people depressed so if they are i will try to talk to them, that is i i know them, becaus ei i didnt know them it would be uncomfortable. but it is a bad thing, somethin i have not personally suffered from and dont think i will because i always try to find positives
• United States
20 Jan 07
I definitely understand depression, I have been there time and time again for many different reasons, however I have also realized that I have control over my life and I am the only one who can make it better. If I am depressed about something and think about it more than 10 times a day, I know I have to do something about it. I talk to my husband often to vent my frustrations and let him know how I am feeling, just so that I don't confuse anyone. (he always thinks I am mad at him, or just sad, and doesn't know why). I figure out what is getting me down and find out ways to improve that situation... I don't always improve, but I do at least try and that makes me feel better about the position I am in, and helps me understand why I am there. Things such as money, I want a new car, but I can't afford a new car... why? Because I have debt, that I got in my past, that I need to pay off before I can afford a new car. That was just a simple answer, I know many people get depressed about more complex things, but yeah. I try to be there for anyone who is depressed and talk to them and lend them an ear/shoulder to cry on, however, if they do not want to better themselves and just enjoy people feeling sorry for them, then I have no problem telling them how pathetic they are. I know it isn't the best thing to say, or what anyone wants to hear, but it was told me to years ago, and really made me realize how much I was making an act out of it. I cannot stand when people make it everyone's business that they are depressed, and miserable, and yadda yadda. I understand some people don't know where to go, but it is a very private thing, and you should be doing something about it, not just get attention from people to help you fix your crave for it. I am not saying you personally, or anyone for that matter, there are some people that are just truly depressed. I suppose it depends on each person on an individual basis. When I was a freshman in HS I was diagnosed as Bi-Polar and told I needed to be on meds. Well, I took them for a month, and realized I was better than that. To this day I have never taken another single pill and I am fine. Sure, I get upset once in awhile, and I cry, and get depressed a little. But I do not need pills to control my mood swings anymore than the next person, and I can feel when my highs and lows are coming on and I just know how to control them now. I think too many times people depend on medicine instead of their own mind/body to help them control their urges to freak out over things and blame it on their depression or their symptoms. Once again though, that is all on an individual basis. I know some people really do need medicine to help them cope.
@alaguc (61)
• India
20 Jan 07
depression....i do not suffer from it....but it is i beleive a state of mind...that is brought on by circumstance and situation...it is not an easy thing to battle..but evryone can overcome it...the key lies in the mind u can make urself overcome this state if u have supreme control of ur mind....postivity helps....
@monx007 (162)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 07
we suffer depression because we just focus only on our problem. Try to see around your problem Pray to the God more often, and carry your burden to the God, and you will see deeply more than your problem and your life will be have a meaning again because i sometimes feel depress, but if i am not only focus on my problem and think around the problem, i can see clearly and find the solution to my problem
@mjalingo (169)
• Nigeria
20 Jan 07
I sympathize with you, I have never been depressed but really feel for you just keep on controlling your self it will come an end some day.
@biratm (162)
• Nepal
20 Jan 07
ya,sometime depression comes in my life too and it ruins my life it problemed me a lot in my teen age and finally i come to know that depression is a bad thing in our life so we should not be depressed of any thing then we can change our life and become successful man..........
• Greece
20 Jan 07
well, i too get into depression. but not just like dat. its either not doing to well in an exam, my girlfriend breaking up or a fight. i dont get depressed that easy. also how do you know its depression? it can also just be dat you're really lazy! because thats the same case with me! i look depressed sometime but im actually just bored and lazy!
• United States
20 Jan 07
You would think depression was written across your forehead when you suffer through it. People can seem to tell your depressed even if youre just lying there asleep. I wasnt treated any differently from my friends, but people who didnt know me wanted nothing to do with me. It seemed as though they would catch it if they stood close to me. I talked alot to my older sister because she knew how it was. There was one teacher at my high school whom I talked to also. She was there for me like no other. I got more depressed when I thought about how the depression kept me from a normal social life. I hated just going outside. The sunshine irritated me. I hated that something could be so bright and sunny and I just couldnt enjoy it. I really dont know what to say as advice except try to not really think about what others say or do to you. Get help and seek out a trusted adult or friend whom you can speak to. Hopefully one day you will be able to get past what youre going through. And I am always here to talk. Im a good listener Ive been told. Hope this helps someone.
• United States
20 Jan 07
I feel that it's normal to be depressed once in a while, but not all the time. I feel bad for those who are always depressed. I have heard of people who are depressed and don't know what about. Try to get busy, there's no sense in dwelling in depression. There are so many beautiful things around you. When someone is depressed I try to cheer them up by taking them out and doing things together.
• Pakistan
20 Jan 07
Yes you are absolutely right that those people who havent feel what depression they feel something different about then the one's who have felt it and they can never feel the same because of the experience. I have experience the actual depression. Yes, sometime maybe I was tensed due to some reasons but never been depressed in any matter. Most of the people who are depressed have the basic reason and that reason is love. Most of them are dperessed due to this reason as far as I have seen. Why do we see them down thats not something which makes anyone degrade and why would we even ignore if we care about them we will definitely try to make them out from that depression and I dont at all feel uncomfortable. If I think that there is not mistake of them in their problem then I will definitely help them out or else I will let them suffer.
@tapeshnlu (350)
• India
20 Jan 07
well depression is really bad thing it makes us uncapable of what we can do easily and during depression people make more enemies due to their irritated nature.