What else is new - men and women can't agree on cheating! *laugh*

@shywolf (4522)
United States
January 19, 2007 8:48pm CST
According to a study done in "Women'a Health" & "Men's Health" magazines: 45 percent of men think that talking to one's ex-girlfriend on a regular basis is cheating, whilst only 27 percent of women agree with that definition. 45 percent of men also think that getting a friendly massage from a friend of the opposite gender is cheating, but only 35 percent of women thought the same way. Only 32 percent of men admit that they have been cheated on, while 45 percent of the women surveyed said that they had been cheated on in a relationship. Funnily enough, 36 percent of the women surveyed admitted to having cheated. Only 16 percent of the men admitted to having cheated on a partner. This just does not ring true to me, does it to you? I can't imagine that women really cheat more! ^_^ Finally, fifty percent of men believe cheating has ruined at least one past relationship but only 27 percent of women will make that claim. That also surprises me a lot.. cheating would definitely ruin a relationship for me, methinks. What do you think about all of the above? What are your views on cheating in general? Feel free to give any thoughts that you may have.
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@sunshinecup (7881)
20 Jan 07
Ex-girl friends and massages are a no no and yes in my opinion are very clearly cheating. I wouldn’t put up with neither one from my husband. He can tell the ex to move on and if he needs a massage, he has me.
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@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
Lots of my ex's are good friends of mine - and my husband is good friends with all of his. I'm glad neither of us thinks of it as "cheating" - it seems weird to me to view it that way. I wouldn't be willing to give up a friend for a partner.
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@xkaraix (596)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
I don't know. The stats don't seem to add up! Although I don't believe talking to an ex is cheating its just not very appropriate or courteous to your current partner. And does the massage include clothes? :P The stats seem skewed, I'd assume more men cheated than women, maybe women are more honest about it
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@Chapman15 (1503)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I'm not a cheater, well I haven't been since Junior year in High School, and it is a mistake I won't make agian! I've been on both sides of the coin and neither feels good! It's hard to talk to a person you cheated on and it's hard to believe a person whoe cheated on you! I'm not sure what the numbers mean, but I'd say that it just changes from person to person, so there really is no formula! Yes, it ruins relationships fast!
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• United States
13 Mar 07
hmm that is interesting. its probably because people are afraid of admitting the truth about them cheating... they may have answered untruthfully in case they suspected their partner was really asking in disguise as a survey. I think is just depends what people view as cheating as well... they survey is to vague as what did the people think when they were asked if they had cheated before, had they said they thought talking to an ex was cheating? it's too vague to be acurate.
• United States
13 Mar 07
Men and women definately do have different takes on life. I to do not believe the one about women cheating more than men. I know a lot of men who do it and just believe what the woman knows won't hurt her. Oh, if only I had a nickel for everytime I heard that phrase!
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I think that whoever took this survey got the percentages backwards. I would think that women would have far more a problem of thier boyfriend talking with his ex girlfriend than men would. All the other percentages look backward also. This implies that more woman cheat than men but that more men think the simple things are cheating than women. No! Not true. Backwards.
@limitup (325)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Those numbers are interesting. They suggest to me that women seem to be more forgiving about what constitutes cheating. I agree that it seems women are telling more of the truth in their surveys. I am shocked though, that 36% of women admitted to cheating. That is a very large number considering their definition of cheating is more liberal. I realize these numbers aren't scientific, but it's shocking to me all the same. My general view on cheating is that if you even suspect your partner is capable of cheating, then you should seriously consider if they are worth your time. If you seriously suspect they are cheating and they are not, they are likely playing games. In my opinion, talking repeatedly to an ex or getting massages are games and are emotional weaknesses disguised as "friendships". I would never do this to anybody I was with. Our society's accepted dating norms disturbs me. I guess I'm just too old school. If any of you know of any beautiful and interesting women who don't even consider playing these immature games, please send them my way! Ha ha. Good topic.
@Catkin (480)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I think certain people in the study are not telling the truth. _ In my opinion, talking to an ex (and hanging out) regularly is not cheating, as long as that's what it is limited to. I'm still friends with two former crushes, one of whom I sort of dated for a few weeks (it's a long story, suffice to say we were both too shy!), the other, who realized she was straight. As for massages, as long as they don't progress any further, they're alright. Although, I do know certain people who have a weakness for massages... I suspect that men cheat more, and thus are more alert regarding what they think we see as cheating. Maybe they're trying to make up for it, heh. Anyway, cheating is not okay in my book; the only way I could see it working is if it was not secretive, but was more along the lines of sharing that a partner is okay with.
• United States
20 Jan 07
Cheating is one of the hardest things in the world to agree on lol. You would be hard pressed to find two people of the same gender let alone different gender who could 100% agree or at least 90% agree on what cheating is. Its almost to the point where you shouldnt talk to anyone other than your mate lol then you will be safe.
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
20 Jan 07
That does not sound right to me either. I always thought that men cheated more than women. Maybe they just lied about it because they had not got caught yet. LOL
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
Well I don't really believe much on statistics and numbers. What I believe though is that cheating is relative,much like the quantum theory of physics or time and space^_^ One would tolerate cheating as much as one would like to cheat himself.^_^ And, If you or your partner doesn't find out,if nobody gets caught,then it doesn't exist! ^_^
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
20 Jan 07
well i guess my boyfriend does not fall in that first 45 percent about talking to ex girlfriend's because his ex still calls him and even tried to break us up. i have never cheated on any of my boyfriends and i do not talk to my ex's except for my baby's father, but that is cause i have too.