Could you ever think any of your kids were ugly?

@carlaabt (3508)
United States
January 20, 2007 1:09am CST
I just read this post on another website from a woman who says her 6 month old is the ugliest baby she's ever seen. Have you ever thought any of your babies were ugly? Do you think it's possible for you to think that? I only have one child and I think he is the most handsome baby boy I've ever seen. I can't imagine giving birth to a child and thinking he or she was ugly. Any thoughts?
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18 responses
• Canada
23 Jan 07
I have heard people say their baby is ugly. I don't think it means they don't love them. But - babies are often out of proportion, and have oddly spaced eyes or something...I can see how some people woudlnt be able to get past that. I never thoguht either of my children were anything short of beautiful .. but I wouldn't judge someone who said their baby was ugly.
@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I agree with you that a lot of babies are out of proportion. But I still think they are cute. My son has a large head (off the growth charts, while weight hovers around 50th percentile and height is at 75th), but it never crossed my mind to think that it made him look ugly or anything. I've had complete strangers tell me that he's the cutest little boy they've seen. I just think it's sad when parents can't get over the fact that their baby isn't cute enough to be a model. I think it teaches the kids the wrong things.
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I have never seen an ungly baby. No matter who's it is. I cant imagine any parent thinking their child is ugly. That is just plain wrong. Like you, I thought my babies were the most beautiful babies in the world. They are grown now and I still think they are the most beautiful ladies ever! My Grandchildren are too...isnt that what parenting and grandparenting is all about
@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
6 Feb 07
I know I thought my children were the most beautiful little kids in the world.I cannot imagine someone thinking that way.I have heard some preople make commits about other babies being ugly but they cannot help it they are still cute.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
I can't imagine anyone who is a mother who gave birth would ever say her child was ugly. I know I'm not the prettiest thing in my opinion only, but my son turned out perfect and handsome. Maybe this person doesn't feel the love they need.
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I agree with you. A parent must be lacking something in their own life to feel the need to put their innocent child down. I know that there are some babies that aren't pretty, but there are still positive things about them. Parents should focus on the positive.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I cannot imagine thinking my baby was/is/could ever be anything but gorgeouse.. I know I have heard people say that their babies were ugly, and have to warn against telling them you think so, because it could really damage their self -esteem. I think that if you think your child is unattractive, do yourself and your child a favor and keep it to yourself. But I agree with you, my kids are gorgeous and i've never felt any other way about them.
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I agree with you about keeping it to yourself. Parents are the most influential people in a baby's life. If you tell a child he or she is ugly, of course they are going to feel taht way. It's not right to do that to someone that you are supposed to give unconditional love to.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
Even I see it that way, as a parent I will be the first one to avoid saying it so. But rather I'll encourage that child of mine to feel and look beautiful. Because if physical beauty was not given to that child of mine, for sure there is something to that child that exudes beauty.
@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I agree. As parents, we have to teach our children to act beautiful. But I think that physically speaking, there is always something beautiful about every baby anyway. Like when they smile or laugh.
@moomincat (321)
7 Feb 07
My firstborn son was the most beautiful child I had ever seen. Without showing off people in the street stopped me to say how gorgeous he was. Fourteen months later my daughter came along. Her hair grew out behind her ears and bald on top. Her fangs grew before her front teeth. When she cried a big red splosh appeared all around her nose. I loved her to bits without a doubt. My ugly duckling turned into one of the most vivacious beautiful women you would ever wish to meet.They say ugly babies turn into beautiful people. At the end of the day beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway.
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
I could never think that about my children, I have four children and they all beautiful to me.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
omg! that mom is off! my daughters are beautiful. when my 2nd was born, everyone kept telling me that they thought she'd look just like her sister (who was so pretty even right after she was born that hospital workers would come into see her) and when she didnt look like her, i felt a little disappointed. her eyes were more squinty looking and not as open as her sisters were, but she has such pretty blonde hair. Well, i felt guilty for thinking that maybe she wouldnt be as pretty. Well, now when i see her, i cant believe i'd ever think that! They are both beautiful and altho they look different, they each have their own look and i wouldnt have it any other way. I dont see how its possible for any mom to think that her baby is UGLY!!!!!
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@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I have 3 absolutely gorgeous daughters. I could not imagine ever looking at one of my children & thinking they were ugly. They are a part of me & that makes them beautiful in my eyes.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I honestly didn't think it was possible to think your own baby is not "cute" i mean i have heard of people later in life going ok my baby wasn't that cute when they look at old pictures but at the time they always thought there wasn't a cuter baby on the planet....i cant imagin that either maybe she is just not attacked to her baby some mom's just dont have the natural insincts the rest of us get...that is really weird
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@BlaKy2 (1477)
• Romania
23 Jan 07
There is no thing like ugly kids. All the kids are beautiful, nice and very playful. If you have a baby i am telling you that you will think that he is the most beautiful kid in the whole world.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
My first little girl was not a cute baby. I thought so and have been known to say so. However, now she is stunning so it is ok!
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• United States
23 Jan 07
My daughter wasn't very cute when she was born. She looked really strange actually. Now she is beautiful though.
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@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
What? A woman saying that her OWN baby is ugly? How could she say something like that? Unbelievable. I never thought my kids were ugly. NEVER. In fact, they're the most beautiful creatures on earth for me. I will never ever even think that they're ugly. They're my mini-me, so how could I say that? That person who said that probably wasn't ready to have a child or she feels that having that child was a burden to her. The nerve of her to say that about her OWN kids!
• United States
23 Jan 07
NO CHILD IS UGLY THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY AND IF SHE THINKS HER CHILD IS UGLY SHE HAS A PROBLEM BECAUSE SHE CONCIEVED THE BABY SO WHO DOES SHE THINK IT LOOKS LIKE DUHHH THATS THE MOST NONE SMART THING I EVERY HEARD SOMBODY SAY REALLY ITS KINDA WEIRD BECAUSE LIKE IF YOUR SON IS UGLY I AM NOT A MOTHER BUT I LOVE KIDS AND IM AM ONLY 15 I LOVE WATCHIN KIDS PLAY AND BABY SITTIN AND STUFF LIKE THAT BUT A CHILD IS NOT UGLY MAYBE THERE ATTITUDE MIGHT BE UGLY SOMTIMES BUT NEVA A CHILD
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• India
21 Jan 07
Child is never and cannot be ugly for its parent. Even if the child is ugly in the view of other people of the world but it is the best creation of GOD for its parents. Parent will always love their child.
• India
21 Jan 07
i have a son and i feel he is the most handsome. i have till date never heard of any parent saying that their child is ugly. i feel if we say our child is ugly then its not his mistake its our mistake and we are blaming ourselves. hey i feel if we discourage our child who will encourage and being a mother its the most crulest thing as nobody wants to be known as ugly. when i ask my mom after wearing a dress how is it looking and if she says not good i feel hurt. and for every mother her kid is beautiful.
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• Philippines
23 Jan 07
NO...NO... NO! i remember when someone told me that your baby is a better version of yours.