How would you help somebody depressed?

@maferick (1582)
Brazil
January 20, 2007 4:44pm CST
My older sister is in depression,how can i help her?
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@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
it really depends on if its a depression that she is feeling because of a situation or if its a more permanent thing. many people say they are depressed to describe them feeling down for a day or so or maybe a week but clinical depression is something that takes over their life and makes one feel like they are in some black abyss (which is how i felt) and is so hard to get out of. always be supportive of your sister and try and keep her a little active with things she might enjoy (though depression sufferers actually lose their interest often in things they used to find fun). if she is experiencing this, id suggest a visit to your doctor to talk about possible ways to help cope with this debilitating mental illness. maybe she also needs counselling. dont be afraid to have medications as the new medications help the brain use more of its own chemicals than in the past. and always keep in contact with the doctor to make sure you are on the right medication and dosage for you. its not easy watching a friend or loved one suffering from depression but there are ways to treat and deal with it nowadays, just dont be afraid to ask for the help and always be open and honest with your healthcare professional about everything. just know that many of us have or are suffering depression and have found ways to deal with it and live with it even if it includes taking medication or going to therapy. its hard to offer any other advice without knowing more about your sister's situation and the problems she may be facing or living with etc which is why i suggest going to a doctor as they are more experienced in this kind of situation. good luck and i hope she starts feeling better soon
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@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
she had a baby have 3 years,but she didnt had the depression after this,what is normal at mew moms..i think that it and lots of other problems came together now at her head and made her feel it now..thks for the help,she is already taking medication, :)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
sometimes that happens...even things from childhood that we think we have dealt with or happily ignored, rear their ugly head at once and plunge a person into the dark abyss of depression. i dont know how easy it is to get therapy or if you have free health clinics there that may offer counselling but i suggest she talks to a professional. other than that, spend time and go out and do some activities that you both enjoy or that she used to enjoy if she isnt at the moment..
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• Italy
20 Jan 07
make her laugh :) Tell her to remember that she is lucky and there are a lot of people on earth who are in a worse situtation, who suffer and die in poverty !
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@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
good asnwer:)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
a wonderful answer but never easy to actually believe when one has depression...and a sufferer can still laugh in company but it doesnt always stop the feelings hiding behind the smile
@Meowth (522)
• Romania
29 Jan 07
i agree u answer..nice answer..i think u help maferk
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
I agree with the post above. It is very important that you are supportive and do not take her feelings lightly. Depression is a very real and serious illness. As said already, if she has clinical depression she needs to see a doctor and maybe start therapy and/or medication. Also make sure she knows there is no shame in having depression. A person can not help it any more than getting diabetes.
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@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
yeah,she is already taking medications and we are everyday talking to her,taking her to make things too
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• Australia
21 Jan 07
sometimes as much as family talks and cares, we cant talk about these issues with them...therapy is better.
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21 Jan 07
hi maf. you can only do so much to help as it is down to the person themselves to open up at tell you what is getting them down. try and do things together that she used to really enjoy as sometimes this gets the person motivated again. tell her everybody loves her so much and somehow try and get to the root of the problem. good luck!
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@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
thks i will do it:)
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• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
Be there, don't judge her too much (I know this is very easy for us to do; because when someone is very close to us, we tend to judge or get carried away in judging them instead of being nice to them), try to praise her and boost her ego in a good way. Try also to keep her mind occupied with other things that would cheer her up (sort of diversing her mind). Hope she's getting much better by the day. Tell her to be more a bit patient and that all the family loves her.
@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
yeah,i'm trying to talk to her everday at least 2 times a day
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@NancyLobo (681)
• India
21 Jan 07
I think you must ask her what is making her depressed what problems she has,then I would help her out if I can in her situation, try to keep her happy as much as possible, Pray for her peace so that she will not be so depressed.
@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
she already told me,i explained 2 posts up..yeah try to make her happy is the best way,she is taking medication,but i dont want my sister with lots of remedies..
@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 07
Possibly in helped with in asked the holiday to tempa that was busy and the cool place. Or could we entertained him always, with music and any that made him liked. But besides this we then must while praying to ask for to the lord on recovery he. Because, according to me, the prayer was very simple words but the miracle to be felt by us produced by him. Because, the lord was the place where we ask for please all the sorts what was we were natural.
@maferick (1582)
• Brazil
21 Jan 07
yeah,music always helps:)
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I hope your sister is doing better. Making sure that knows you are there for her, and getting her professional help if needed are the most important things you can do for her. Best of luck to you and your sister.