Eating Crow

@GardenGerty (87578)
Marion, Kansas
January 20, 2007 7:26pm CST
I guess it is time for me to say, "I made a mistake" I came on and ranted about how people from now on were going to have to have certain numbers or I would not put them on my friends' list. I regret the hard and fast number statements. I do not regret the fact that that post was to warn those who are less experienced that there are people who will ask to be your friend and will then try to glean personal and financial information from you. To those I have denied as friends, simply based on numbers, I apologize.I still stand by the idea of thoroughly checking someone's profile out, though.
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@Eskimo (2329)
29 Jan 07
Who you agree to have on your list is personal to you, however I don't think you can put any numbers on what they look at. Not everyone on MyLot has a great deal of spare time, and if your time is limited (like mine can be), then sometimes its a choice between which friends you can respond to. I have a number of friends(most of whom asked me if I would like to be friends) who have not responded to any of my discussions. There is one of my friends who can post 20 or more discussions on the one day, I usually only have time to respond to about 5-10 daily, so I cannot keep up, and there are also other friends discussions to also look at. I have to choose what I respond to, others must have to as well. I also noticed that you marked the first person to respond as your best answer round about the day that you posted your discussion. Do you not think you should wait at least a week (or more) before chosing your best response?
@GardenGerty (87578)
• Marion, Kansas
29 Jan 07
Ha ha, that is probably the only time I have ever done so, but he seemed to understand what I was getting at. I am usually the other way and wait way to long to choose the best response. Thanks for noticing.
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@Eskimo (2329)
29 Jan 07
Who needs friends anyway, especially if they are not going to look at any of your discussions. I look at a mixture fo my friends, and also others which I have as 'mental Friends' who have had several discussions which I can respond to, but either haven't looked at any of mine, or only a few. What I dont not want or need are people who ask to be friends but haven't even bothered to look at any that I have produced.
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@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I accept all friends. I am working on having 1000 before the end of the year. I do not check profiles, because it does not matter to me. I use the friends for my own purposes. I know all of them will not be here forever and I also know some may want to sell me stuff. Those I can ignore easily. I have found when I have a lot of friends they respond to my discussions and so I return the favor. I was doing discussions for all my friends everyday one discussion per friend. Now I have too many to do that. So, I make it a point to check each new discussion daily and respond to those that repsonded to mine. This builds a great working friend circle. The more friends I have the more responses I get and the more topics there are for me to choose from.
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@GardenGerty (87578)
• Marion, Kansas
29 Jan 07
Good content! Good ideas!
@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Who can blame you. With all the scammers out there, we have to protect ourselves. I check out profiles before I add someone as a friend. I look at the discussions they've started and replied to. I check to see if they comment on responses and if they rate best response. If it looks like the person may be shady in the least bit. I wait and re-evaluate a few days or a week later. If I find one of my "friends" cheating,scamming, spamming or whatever, I delete them in hot New York Minute. I don't know if there is a right or wrong way, but we all have to do what we have to do.
@GardenGerty (87578)
• Marion, Kansas
29 Jan 07
Well thought out. I did some housecleaning yesterday. Still have plenty of friends.
@estherlou (5026)
• United States
29 Jan 07
It doesn't matter how you decide to pick your "friends". That's just a word for people we decide to chat with here. I pick and choose...do they have interests similar to mine? Do they like the same kind of music that I do, or do they like stuff I've never even heard of? I mostly allow most who ask to be my friend, unless their discussion topics are all a little off-color or very personal...I don't like those.
@oarnamav (2708)
• India
28 Jan 07
Do you know that you need a black board to write on to it with a white chalk? You need to have a background a contrast one, to high light the wanted object in front of it. Goodness of persons needs a datum/base of bad people to measure their level. Ignore the unwanted, welcome the wanted, & keep yourselves cool and happy.
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@ashjoe76 (1459)
• India
27 Jan 07
I do check the profile throughly these days befor choosing a friend. Earlier, I did not do this and had some people as friends with whom I didn't have anything common.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I agree 100%, Gerty. You have to be very careful who you accept as friends. I do the same, research their profile, look at their interests and check to see if I've responded to one of their discussions. Then, and only then, regardless of the numbers, will I decide.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
You are forgiven Gardengerty I do believe that so far I have not had any problems with you or visa versa either, I love reading your responses and also responding to your discussions as well, but what you are saying about glean personal and financial information I have never had this problem with any members on mylot so far. and therefore I don't blame you about checking anybodies profile that is your right.
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@puma_nz (1002)
• New Zealand
21 Jan 07
Good on you GardenGerty and you have every right to do that :) Im pretty much the same as you now.
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@soldenski (2504)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I check everyone's profile(now, I did not in the begining) before I add them to my friend's. If I don't have any interest in common, or their discussion's do not interest me, then I don't add them. I just delete a bunch of my friend's for that same reason. Good topic.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
You don't have to aplogize for your principals and how you want to do it. I made a statement kinda like yours today. I don't need a lot of people in my friend list if we really are not friends, or they do not contribute to anything. Just keep doing your own thing dear, more power to you.