Friends

@CatEyes (2449)
United States
January 20, 2007 11:22pm CST
What would you do oif you were having a conversation with one of your friend about a complication that had happend with your sister inlaw (putting you down, calling you names, spreading rumors)and another female fried pipes in and says "hey stop talking like that, your just going get your self*** off. You need to stop now, right now." and just keeps going on and on and makes if very vocal so that every one now knows what you were talking about. I got my feeling her terribly and she does this to me all of the time. Am I over reacting. She says I do, and that I need to get over things. (like how my sister inlaws best friend slept with my husband and then called me a $$ut)
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Why don't you tell the rude girl, who obviously is NOT your friend, to mind her own business. Tell her that when you want her opinion, you will ask her, and if she gets loud and rude, simply tell her "shut up or f##K off" and walk away. You don't need friends who try to make you look like a bad person. that is not a friend that is someone trying to control your life.
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
21 Jan 07
As we speak, I am talking to my husband and he thinks I am being stupid. I don't know why he seems to think that I am overreacting over my friend. I realy do not think I was. I don't have the guts to say the things I want because of the reprecutions; IE me being aliantated by the friends and husband.
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• United States
21 Jan 07
your husband would alienate you because of this?! that is ridiculous! he should be sticking by your side NO MATTER WHAT?! certainly siding with your over friends! and the above post has got it right on! if they are acting like that, they are NOT friends, and you need to just cut them out of your life. you dont deserve being treated like that, and that shows that they have no respect for you or your feelings...and that is NOT a friend!
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@Darkwing (21590)
21 Jan 07
Well, I would agree with your friend in a way. You won't get any results by complaining to your friend about what your sister-in-law says or does about you. You need to take up the point with your sister-in-law. Your friend is probably fed up with having to find reason for something your sister-in-law did, or supposedly did, or said. Then, she gets to the end of her tether and starts to get very vocal, in an attempt to stop you, or drown you out. Only you can put an end to this misery, and if your husband sleeps around, he is as much to blame as anyone, so perhaps sit him down and talk to him as well. You need to get to the source and nip it in the bud, I'm afraid.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Well the thing is, I was talking to friend A who asked about it and wanted to know, then friend B got involved and said what she said. Maybe I did not make that clear. I usualy do not say anything around her becuase of she reacts (she does a lot of complaining about EVERYONE including ther person I was talking about. AND everyone shares the same opnion. What I do not understand is why she found it necs. to tell me what she did, especialy they way she did it. Any way, like you and others say its in the past, I just need to get over likevery thing else. No one takes me or my feeling into consideration vover there, so it's my fault for even going. Should have expected it.
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
24 Jan 07
What a mean woman. I can't believe she'd do that to you and her bestfriend slept with your husband. I think you have every right to talk bad about her, she deserves it big time. And If I were you, I'd make sure that she is put in her place if she ever says anything bad about you.
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