Why love actually lost after marriage

India
January 21, 2007 6:25am CST
Why do u think love gets lost after marriage? Husband and wife who love each other before marriage starts fighting each other after marriage...what happen to the love that was in between them?
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@sheeeee (10)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
after marriage, couples would sometimes tend to forget how to enjoy each other's company. they tend to focus so much on building a relationship in a new level, avoiding mistakes, making money and stuff. what they don't realize is that they should not forget to do the simple old sweet things to each other, like the usual dating, or just cuddling, or just simply enjoying each other's company. i think most couples would go way too serious on making the marriage work, but sometimes they tend to forget to do the basics.
• India
9 Feb 07
yeah seriously it happens many times...we got busy in making money and forget to live life
@shooie (4986)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Just because a husband and a wife have a fight does not mean they love each other any less. When you have a girlfriend or boyfriend you have fights as well and it doesn't mean you love each other any less. My husband and I don't fight that much and we been married for 8 years. We never go to bed mad and if we have a fight in the car going to town we are holding hands when we get out of the car. No love lose we just choose to disagree sometimes.
• India
28 Jan 07
But just compare when u had a boyfriend then how many times did u fight wid him rather than now wid ur husband...
• Pakistan
23 Jan 07
That happens if u lose ur faith in ur partner! Start having issues with them, if the relationship remains in trust ,care,and friendship the love in the relationship nevr diminishes
• India
23 Jan 07
Before marriage u had full faith on ur love..then y u r losing faith from ur wife so easily
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
love will really work and endure if they have been tested by time. the more they spend tme knowing each other before marriage, the better the life goes when marriage comes. but if they knew each other but only in minimal time together and is not tested by all the trial and never encountered misfortunes during the time of courting, but as married, all the unwanted things happened, thus having the cause of misunderstanding and blaming. then the real colors show... the more the hope is shattered, because marriage wasnt the thing to do and the regrets come. hence when theres couple of time, as patience reach the maximum part of the relation into a blooming and rpening of love through time, then a genuine thought one will surely be ahead for both of you... most married couples who regret and always have a fight are relationship never tested in all pain and misery, a relationship never been into long running from year to years of knowing each other... in psychology, when a person gets married some disorder says its the end of their freedom, hence giving the wrong impression and wrong analogy of the sitatuation, so when seeing all the mistakes and imperfection of a partner the more a realization of false decision comes, the more regret dominates, thus all the arguments will be of a big thing and later will be ended soon... being married doesnt mean its the best thing in life.. love isnt proven by marriage.. it is proven of how much you both grew in time... of not too physical understanding but of within the depths of genuine rare love.. so its a sad and frustrating thing to see partners hurrying to marry despite the fact of just knowing each other in a short time and as the problems build in them they wanted their lives back and wished they were never in a chase to marry. take care ^_^
• India
21 Jan 07
i really like ur idea nice
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I plan to be in love long after my wedding day :) Hopefully forever! I think people lose love for each other b/c they focus too much on the problems in life! They start fighting over stupid little things like where to store a bowl or how to wash a window. If you talk with your future spouse before marriage, and make an agreement for how to handle disputes, you shouldn't fight so much once you are married. The only reason I can think that people fight is that they don't plan their marriage and just assume that once they are married everything will be fine. You have to communicate and plan before the wedding to keep from fighting after.