Do you make your kids move out?

@vicky1 (240)
United States
January 21, 2007 10:35pm CST
Do you think after a certain age they should move out? My son is 24 and some people can't believe he is still at home. But it doesn't bother us. He helps out around the house and he doesn't have a problem with our rules. He doesn't smoke or drink. So I said he can stay as long as he needs to.
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@sanell (2114)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I agree I think that basically if your kids need your help to get started in life, then I say help them. As long as they follow your rules, or are working towards eventually going on their own. I know that for me, I stayed with my dad after I was finished with college, he let me stay with him for awhile while I was working and saving up money so I could get into an apt or perhaps move in with my now husband which is ultimately what had happened. I was going to attempt to move in with a friend of mine, but she ended up getting married the year before I was out so that was a no go. I had no where else to go so my dad let me stay, I was with him for about 9 months and then moved in with my now husband and we got married 8 months later. Anyway I would allow my kids to move in with me until they needed to but I would encourage them to do what they could to help themselves get on their own....eventually
@vicky1 (240)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I understand what you are saying. I am like if he doesn't have a problem with our rules and he helps out around the house it doesn't bother us if he stays. But he knows our house our rules. My dad comes and stays with us two weeks every month and when my son is home he make sure he eats takes him where he wants to go.
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@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
22 Jan 07
no. my son moved out on his own. I wish he would have stayed longer. I really do miss having him around. he is 28 now and has been on his own for sometime now. enjoy it while you have your son at home. he sounds like a nice young man.
@vicky1 (240)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Thank you. We do enjoy him being at home with us.
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@nhingneng (131)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
when my kids reach that certain age its fine with me staying at our house. but it would be much better if he can be independent on his own.
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@blueskies (1186)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I see nothing wrong with kids staying with their parents until they are financially stable enough to move out. As long as they are respectful of the parents, and visa versa, I think it's beneficial for everyone. It's not easy to find a job that pays well enough to have your own place these days.
@vicky1 (240)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Thats what I thought. I know around here rent is so high and then paying the other bills on top of that. It makes it so hard. And moving in with a couple of people don't always work out.
• Andorra
22 Jan 07
I have a cousin that has 25 years and he still lives with his parents. I don't necessarly think it's a bad thing, however I believe those kind of people are ussually afraid to move on.
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@vicky1 (240)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Sergio what are those kind of people? My son has friends and goes places and does things. He is by no means attached to us at all. As a matter of fact he doesn't evan go any where with us.
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