What if your parents doesn't like your boyfriend?

@cheerldr (594)
Philippines
January 22, 2007 6:59am CST
This dillema has been bothering my friend since her parents found out that she already has a boyfriend. Her parents doesn't like her boyfriend so they didn't allow her to go out because they are suspecting that she's going to meet her boyfriend. My friend and her boyfriend lve each other so much but no matter how hard they try to explain it to her parents, they won't listen to her. What should she do?
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9 responses
• India
22 Jan 07
I think first her parent should meet the boy frist n see is he capble or not n than also if they does not agree than they should run away as after few moths parent automatically accept them both or after one child i m sure they will accept them because such case i have seen many with my freinds n in my relatives itself so no need to worry atlast need to run away
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@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
But the problem is, her parents refused to see they guy. They said that their words were final and she cannot change their decision.
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@xXmeganxX (4423)
22 Jan 07
when i first met my boyfriend, my family didn't like him and i lived with them, but i couldn't accept that because it is up to me who i choose so i just moved out and went to live with him, it was quite easy for me to do that, and now they just don't really talk to me because of it.
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@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Oh, so you chose your boyfriend over your parents? That's really a hard decision to make.
@hahn888 (93)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 07
Basically what we need to do in this problem is communications between the 2 parties. We have to listen from both of both parties. We have to understand what is the reason that the mother do not like her Bf. What improvement should the BF have to be able to get along together. We have to see that hows the mother reply, is it positive thing or negative. And, from the comments ofthe mother, we have to also introspect ourself to the boy. See whether what the mom said is agree with the BF attitude or his situation. Basically, when our mom dislike our partner, it is just that she think that the partner will not be a good one for us. Good mother always think about the future of her child. So, we must also understand her position. As in future we will also become parents and that would be the thing we might do later. Cheers
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24 Jan 07
hi cheerldr. tough one really. i think it is stupid for the parents to stop their daughter from seeing him because if she loves him that much, she will always find a way to get to him. on the other hand i suppose your friend does not want to upset her parents too much but it will only make her miserable not seeing him. love will always shine through in the end!
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• India
22 Jan 07
i want to u remember that parents know well what is good and bad and i think they would have listened bad about ur boy frnd. If ur confident is good make prove ur boyfrnd is good and she can has him as aboyfrnd
@mansha (6301)
• India
22 Jan 07
its a normal reaction, many parents want the best for their kid and do not trust their judgement as they feel that their lovely child is not yet mature enough. its just a matter of age gap and difference of opinion too. I also had this problem when we were dating then respecting myp arents wishes we decided to stay away from eachother for two years, the time left for me to complete my eduication and we really didn't meet or talk or wrote to each other during that period and after two years my now hubby wrote to my mother reminding her of hjer proise to let him see me if he could stay away from me during this time. She had to relent and actually she said to me that now she knows no one else could love me more than him. He came back for me and I waited for him too. We proved our commitment and sincierity to our parents then there was no hassel in out marriage too. I trhink you should tell your friend to make her parents understand her love too in anyway possible.
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@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
22 Jan 07
oh,i am very sorry to hear that.but in my opinion,if they really love each other very much,they must make great efforts for their loving and future.they should do better and let her parents understand their strong love,and i think their parents can be moved by them,bless them...
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22 Jan 07
She should continue seeing him anyway, if i didn't continue to see my boyfeiend cos of my parents, i would be real sad.. Why don't they like her having a boyfriend?? I thought my mom and dad wouldn't like my boyfriend cos he's like 5 years older than me, but theyre cool with it, he's just not allowed in my bedroom, which i find rasonable , :]
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Her parents thought that her boyfriend isn't just good enough for her. They liked her other suitors but not her boyfriend.
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23 Jan 07
that'd e insulting to the boyfriend, and probabley her aswel.. maybe if they got to know her boyfriend they might feel better..
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
she should try to ask her parents about it and then if she knows the reason explain it to them that she really loves this guy and i think the guy should give effort to talk to her parents, face the reactions of her parents, i think it is also a test to the guy if how he can fight his love to her, there's nothing wrong in trying.
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Yes, she tried setting up her parents with her boyfriend but it doesn't work. Her parents weren't willing to talk about her boyfriend and they refused to talk with his boyfriend. She doesn't want to let go of hery boyfriend but she loves her family, too.