I feel pain in my heart when I get hurt? Is it common?

@ajithlal (14569)
India
January 22, 2007 7:20am CST
Sometimes we get hurt by the words or deeds by others. It generate a temendous pain in the heart and mind. Sometimes we feel that all the world is bad or we are bad and get into very sad and feel like all the pain is on us. Sometimes we ask why is it all me or why is happening to me. Sometimes we feel very lonely and very weak. Sometimes we feel very helpless. I think most of us goes through this stage sometimes in our life. Have you ever been hurt so badly? Have you ever felt very weak and helpless? What do you do when you feel the pain in your eyes? How do you remove the hurt you get and come out of it? Why do people hurt us? Why do we hurt people with the words or deeds? Why do we say sometimes things we do not really mean?
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8 responses
@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
I used to be a lot more sensitive to that kind of thing. I've had to grow a really thick skin, because otherwise I'd spend all my time feeling bad. And in all honesty, I don't think people do a lot of stuff on purpose. I think it's not really always about me.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
3 Mar 07
I also agree that most people do things on purpose. Sometimes people act according to their mood than doing things with thinking.
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
4 Mar 07
There was a time when I used to get hurt and feel exactly the way you are saying. Now I have moved beyond that and risen above all such feelings by positive thinking. Now I create my own environment around me, there is not a single soul that can hurt me. You know thinking is creative, send positive thoughts around and you will receive the same. If you want everything pleasant around you then think like that and you will observe that things start happening as you want. so be positive and live positively.
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@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
4 Mar 07
I beleive in 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'. I really try not to hurt peoples feelings, as it is so unnecessary and there is enough hatred and violence in the world as it is. When we feel hurt because of what someone has said to us, it is best to think about it for a while, think why they said that, and then try and let it go. Sometimes easier said than done. But try not to let it get you down too much. All the best.
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@mchlgryn (106)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Dont take it badly. Take it as a challenge! Be a possibilatarian. Anyone can says you "suck", who cares as long as your doing the right thing and your not hurting anybody, you accomplished something already. "Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit." - Napoleon Hill
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
23 Jan 07
It is easy to say, but how do to remove the actual pain. How do you get out when one get hurt? Sometimes it takes lots and lots of time to get out it.
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
22 Jan 07
If I say somethimg when I'm mad I mean every word. sometimes people can be so rude. and so to get it off my chance, I half to get right back on them.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
22 Jan 07
Yes I also happened to situation in which I felt that some people are rude. I try to withdraw from the situation because most times if I say something more then I will start to feel guilty and need more time to heal than normal.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 07
I think it is part of Life and this is lovely worded well done We say things and don't really mean them and regret later but we get over the Hurt eventually When I have been hurt I withdraw for a while I go very quiet and I try to mend my heart and eventually it does mend after some time but it takes time amnd sometimes a long time Thank you for this lovely discussion
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
22 Jan 07
Most times I tries to keep quiet when I get hurt and withdraw myself. The real problem is it takes lots and lots of time ot heal.
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
16 Mar 07
This is completely natural ajithlal. Even I feel the same when I am in pain. (Gosh it rhymed!) Anyway, you have a lot of questions. Yes, everybody, someday or the other, might feel pain in their lives. I had it in a number of times. One thing I'll tell you, you cannot erase it just like that. Time is the best medicine in my view. Time heals the worst wounds in heart and mind. But there is a hitch, even the pain lessens with time, the scar is always their. Your question, why do people hurt us, is impossible to answer. People will hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally, all the time, I think because, nobody will act according to our wish all the time. So we get hurt! Sometimes others get hurt with our words or deeds cos we dont think twice of what we do or say. So, be careful and think twice or more than that before taking action, when others are involved. Take care and have a great day.
• India
4 Mar 07
hi ajith! nice to hear u and it seems to be you aare very kind to others-sometimes i too feel like that,as a brother is a doctor ,he says that it is extra stimulus caused one impulse cross the particular limit! so nothing to worry,o.k! no life is without pain friend! take care!