Bed wetting

@rainbow (6763)
January 22, 2007 9:48am CST
How do I help my little boy, he's 7 and still in nappys every night. I'm taking him to the Dr this teatime as I have tried everything I can think of but I really have had enough of washing Pj's bedding and scrubbing matresses every day. How do you feel about giving kids medication to stop them bed wetting? I have held off as long as I can but I want to buy new matressess and put his younger brother in there with him.
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• United States
22 Jan 07
I really don't have a problem with the bed wetting thing. My daughter is 4 years old and hasn't been wetting the bed for over a year now. My exhusband has called an needed advice a few times. His future stepson is about 7 years old and is still wetting the bed. He even wets his pants if he doesnt' want to get up from a video game that he's playing. He said that he made the boy wear a diaper to school and he has to wear one to bed too, b/c he still wets the bed. I dont' believe in things like that. (thank god weren't nolonger married). Anyways... at times i have heard in some cases that a child may have a small blatter. I would try not giving your child anything to drink after dinner. That way his blatter won't be soo full when he goes to bed. Make sure he does go potty before bedtime. The first week... try getting up like at 1:00 in the morning... and taking your child potty again... even if he's asleep. That way his blatter will then be empty again when you put him to bed. It seemed to help with me. I wish you luck!!!
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
Thank-you for your ideas, I used to get Bong up in the night but he just doesn't seem to wake himself up at all and I feel really guilty doing it to him because he doesn't sleep enough. I think that could be the problem, he's so tired when he goes to sleep that he cannot wake up to go toilet. I have tried star chars but it is just upsetting as he never gets any. I may start waking him again and see if it works this time, thanks again.
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
27 Mar 07
My 5 yo has also got signs of ADHD as his 12 yo sis does. The five yo wet the bed up until this year and even now has the odd accident. I think a lot of his problem was that he was on the go 100% during the day and when he eventually went to sleep, he slept like a log so would just sleep through the sensation of wanting to go to the toilet. I have heard of alarm systems that wake the child at the hint of a wet bed but that is sort of a bit late in my opinion. I eventually did bribe my little one. I let him sleep with me occaisionally (his Dad was not with us at the time) but he could only stay in my bed if he didn't wet it. Do you know that was the start of our dry nights! It was more important for hjim to sleep with me so he made sure he went to the toilet before bed time and didn't drink about two hours before bed etc. Now he wets the bed only when he is really exhausted or feeling sick. Definately an improvement. Oh and he couldn't have an electric blanket till he stopped wetting the bed so that was good incentive too. Good luck as always...
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@rainbow (6763)
27 Mar 07
Hi Missy! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this too. You seem to have just about sorted it out, so well done! The school nurse has ordered me 2 bed liners that are like giant padded things, one to wash one to wear. Her latest idea is to cut out drinks an hour and a half before bed, put the nappy on at the last minute or not at all and wake him 4 hours later to go toilet, not just lift him but actually wake him. If he is already wet move it forwards by half hour the next night, if not move it backwards half hour. The idea is to see what time he is wetting and then adjust waking to that kind of time. Theory goes he will get used to waking up around the time he needs to go. So far I haven't managed to get a dry nappy, regardless, just a stressed litle boy at midnight,lol.
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
2 Apr 07
I think that is the best advice so far as long as there isn't some physical reason for him wetting during the night like diabetes etc. My 5yo got to the stage when I caught him checking if he had a nappy on one night before he wet! So I made a big deal about no more nappies! bit He even used to get up and grasb a bath towel to put on top of the sheet if he was wet some nights then go back to sleep because he knew I would get upset some nights! Thank goodness most of those nights are gone! (hope I didn't speak too soon)
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@rainbow (6763)
2 Apr 07
I hope you are right and most of your bad nights are over. I'm waking him 3 hours affter bed now and he hates it as I have to wake him properly, he's still wet by morning agin anyway but if I get the first one sorted maybe I van try to train the 2nd, lol. Can't wait for the bed savers to arrive. Thanks for your support, we'll see how he goes, will let you know if I have a breakthrough.
• Australia
28 Jan 07
My 12yo son is Autistic and was very slow at toilet training. Looking back now, that was the easy bit!! Bed wetting was a nightmare because he would do it more than once everynight. I would stop the drinks at certain times, praised him and tried the bed wetting alarm. All failed miserably. I mentioned it to the dr on his next visit and reluctantly accepted a prescription for a medication. With the repeats on the script there was a 12 month supply. On the first night using the medication, there was NO wet bed. The first night in 7 years. I gave him the medication every night for 12 nights with excellent results of NO wet beds at all. I thought I would try a night without the medication and still, there was NO wet bed. He never took the medication again and still to this day, he has 100% dry nights. I went back to the dr to discuss the medication and he was also impressed. The dr said that he just needed that bit of influence to get his body into a routine and it worked. Im not saying that medication is the answer and we did try everything else. It WAS a last resort that we tried the medication.
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@rainbow (6763)
28 Jan 07
That's brilliant, this is what I was hoping would happen with Bong. Your son just needed to get into the habit and I'm hoping that is how it will work for us. My problem now is getting him to wee before he goes to school so I can get it sent to the lab for checking, 3 mornings I've tried and although everything else is wet, he now won't wee, typical, lol. I've been holding out on trying medication as the equasium was a nightmare, but I've put his little brother on the bottom bunk now and have to deal with this so I can get them new, smell free matresses, it's not fair on Roo (3) who is dry nearly ever night. Bong has Autism ADHD and suspectd dyspraxia - we should find out in March for sure hopefully not but the tick list is not looking good, he's ok tho'.
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• Australia
28 Jan 07
I used to always worry about the smell and if others could smell it. I found that buying the cheap $2 plastic table cloths were the best mattress protectors and were easily disposable if need be. It was such a relief to buy a new mattress for him and not have that horrible stench in the house anymore. Just getting back to taking a sample of urine to the doctor, maybe just keep your son home in the morning till he does a pee and maybe offer a little reward for him. I hope that it goes well for you at the doctors.
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@blueskies (1186)
• United States
22 Jan 07
My son has been using DDAVP nasal spray for the past 3 yrs to control his bedwetting. It works great, is easy to use, and has no side effects. It has really helped to make him feel better about himself. He is 12 and he felt so bad that he wet the bed. He used to sleep on the floor because he didn't want to wake us up to change his bed :(
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I should add--my son has mild autism, so he doesn't feel the sensation of having to pee strongly enough to wake him up at night. Most kids would probably be able to go off the medication before age 12.
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
I am so glad that the nasal spray is working for your son and you have experienced no bad effects from it! I do feel so sorry for him sleeping on the floor to avoid disturbing you - what a sweetie! poor Bong just doesn't wake-up. Bong has autism and ADHD but when I mentioned this to his consultant she said he's not old enough to worry about this yet although I did wonder if there was a link. The Dr tested his urine tonight and I have to take a sample to send off in the morning, then they will refer it to the community pead and see what she says. I have always coped with the extra work and the nappies etc but I want the bedroom to be nicer so that Roo can go sleep in there, I feel a bit selfish but if medicine can get him into the habit of lasting all night of help him wake up then I'm going to have to give it a try. I'm beginnig to wonder about getting these buzzer things too, they seen to have come cheaper on the adverts on this mylot page, maybe put my next mylot pennies towards one! Thank-you ever so much for your support!
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@sherinek (3323)
• United States
16 Mar 07
How is your little one now. My daughter who's four is still wearing diapers in the night. If I dont put the diaper on she'll wet the bed by 11 pm or so. But if i put the diaper, she will never wet it until morning. This i think is just mental. I have heard not giving the child a lot of liquids after 6 pm also works. If you can take him to the toilet in the night for about 3 times at the beggining and reduce it to one time, also might work. It worked with my son. But with a girl its difficult cos they have to sit on the toilet and after that we have to wash them, then her sleep is gone and we also wont be able to sleep after that (LOL).
@rainbow (6763)
16 Mar 07
thanks Honey, I just realised its 2 months since I wrote this so its about time he gave in and let me have that urine sample, lol. The school nurse is coming monday morning to discuss the alarm syatem to see if that helps this time, we keep retrying different things but not good yet, lol. My 3 year old is nearly always dry now which I though might encourage him but it hasn't, we'll see what Di says on Moday, lol.
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@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
If your physician recommends medication at this point I would try it. My youngest sister was a bed-wetter until ten, and nothing up until that point helped her and our mother did try lots of different advice. My sister ended up just stopping on her own. She did suffer a lot of embarrassment and poor self esteem because of it. I think most bed-wetters do and it is really not their faults. In my sister's case it was suspected her bladder was not fully matured and she still as an adult has occasional bladder issues. I say if there is a medication that can help, I would be inclined to at least give it a try. All the best!!!
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
Your poor sister, Bong is just starting to realise because of course Roo is dry most nights now and say "er, smelly wee-wee nappy," etc in a morning, I thought it might jog him into ation so I let it pass because I'm getting a bit mean. He has to have a shower every morning and his bed changed, sometimes when I go to bed and in a morning so nothing I've tried has worked yet. The Dr is going to refer him to the community pead who will decide what is best to do, we had the school nurse but have not tried the buzzer system. He sleeps quite heavily although not for long enough, I'm hoping the medication could get him into a habit of waking or waiting but I'll have to see. I'm just fising in case someone has a brilliant idea that works that I haven't tried yet. Thanks for your support!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 07
No I am not against it if you have tried everything then you have to take this step so I hope the Doctor will help you
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
I've done star charts but he never got any, bless, blackmailed, lifted, left it if he's flooded when I go to bed which I felt really cruel about, denied drinks and hour before bed,avoided dairy products so ther's not much left. Just wondered if anyone had any fantastic and easy ideas that work before I give in and try medication. Thanks for your support!
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• United States
22 Jan 07
Well my lil brothers peed the bed till they where 10 years old you should just let it trickle and just put plastic on the bed or have him sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
You put that so nicely, lol. Maybe sleeping in a smelly room would combat any laziness, I hadn't thought of that thank-you.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
22 Jan 07
hi, well firstly cutting down on drinks after 6pm is a good start to stop him from wetting his bed, also get him to go to the toilet before bed, does he do it on purpose or accident because my cousin does that on purpouse and my aunty disciplines him alot for it. hope this helps!
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@rainbow (6763)
22 Jan 07
I have tried with the drinks thing but am unsure whether there is the occasional bit of laziness involved as well. We have only had 3 dry nights and he is 7, so although 80% of 7 year olds are dry there is still time apparently. Thanks for your suggestions, maybe I should keep an eye out for purposeful accidents, I never thought of that.
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