why men cheat when they are already have true love?

@mikhail7 (176)
Philippines
January 22, 2007 12:49pm CST
I don't know how they ever felt the same feeling for the other? How can they invest emotions for another woman when they already have somebody beside them? What is going on with them? If you really love somebody so much, can you even bear the thought of being with somebody else? It's really confusing and I don't want to be in that situation either. WAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!
13 responses
• United States
22 Jan 07
The man or woman who cheats on their boyfriend,girlfriend or whoever doesn't love that person to begin with anyway. I don't believe in cheating. It is not right for any reason. To me, it's nasty. If someone I was with ever cheated on me and tried telling me it was a one time thing and for me to forgive them, I would let them know it's over. If the person can't satisfy their partner, why be together. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
They really should evaluate themselves first if they want a past-time relationship or a long-lasting one. A fling or get binded? If they don't want to settle down, they don't have to get married. And how can they say I LOVE YOU when they don't really mean it?
• United States
28 Jan 07
I agree that I love you is very powerful and shouldn't be used lightly. Some people just don't think before they speak. Some people just say it so they can get the trust from others. People need to wake up and not use those words for their gain. I wouldn't do that.
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
it is because that kind of man is selfish. They dont consider the feelings of others that they hurt. That kind of people dont really know how to love and who to love. They still on searching and very selfish to keep the relationship while having another relationship. Just playing safe if one is gone its still other one left. i really hate cheaters.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I really don't understand it. And I don't want to understand it by experiencing it. HELL NO!!!
@xelissa (777)
• New Zealand
30 Jan 07
Some men, not all of them get what they want, then move to whats next on their list
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
Yes that's what we called a hunter. A chauvinist response earlier.
@angelco (347)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
well for me, men cheat because they are not contented with their love one maybe he's looking for something that is lack with their relationship...however, if you really love that girl you will accept her whatever she is and i think if you will cheat your girl its not true love :)
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
It's sometimes true because it takes two to tango. It maybe the other's fault why the other feels incomplete.
@tinkutr (382)
• India
30 Jan 07
Not so happens. Cheatng people always cheats. And good remains good. Find Good among the mixed. If you fails it is your mistake that you got cheated.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
Now that's kinda hard to do, don't you think? There are a lot of good liars out there. But you got a point there. You gotta be wise in choosing the one.
• India
29 Jan 07
Few days back I participated in a discussion with similar nature. And I have a strong view regarding cheating by men, I firmly believe MEN are pathetic animal and by nature a wanderer and its damn disgusting too. So we men dont have any excuse to justify it.
@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
I totally agree with that. I hope before they commit to a person, they should analyze themselves first if they are ready to stick to one only, PERMANENTLY. And if they want to just play around, they shouldn't have going around saying I LOVE YOUs to a potential prey.
@sayuri001 (130)
• Japan
28 Jan 07
the same question often crossed my mind everytime i hear stories of cheating. I think it's because it is "human nature" to cheat, it's true that humans are born to make mistakes but i don't think that would be valid enough to be excused in the fact of cheating especially when you really love somebody.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
When you really really love somebody, you can't just do it that easily. You should consider her feelings if she finds out. No secret can be kept forever. Now that's dangerous. Believe me.
• Pakistan
22 Jan 07
those kind of men are usually called flirty and notonly men do these kind of things. I have seen many of the women doing these kinds of stuffs and man are suffering and are thirsty for having their lover's love.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Now that's another story. Its very unusual for a woman to commit adultery. It's not likely for a woman to do such a thing. In my opinion, a woman maybe in search for affection or just for revenge, if she does such preposterous actions.
@vdhill (65)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Actually, men cheat (if you want to call it cheating) because they are hunters. It's about the conquest, not the deception. They will hold on to their wives, but don't expect men to play fair. If he sees another woman he desires, the hunt is on. Once he succeeds in capturing her, he enjoys her body and moves on to the next prey. It's all about the game. When a man gets caught cheating and says to his woman, "I didn't mean to hurt you", he's telling the truth.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Is that what we really have in our biochemistry? Men being a hunter? Well that's a lame chauvinistic excuse for womanizing. Women are people who have feelings that get hurt too. Again, let me say it again. What if the table turns? We become the prey and the women play with our feelings.
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
Sorry for sounding crude but they are thinking with the wrong head. And to me if it is true love that would not happen otherwise.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Real mature men don't cheat. I really despise men who are promiscuous and insensitive with their partners feelings. What if the table turns, how would they feel, right?
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Men cheats because they are not contented to the "one they really love," and if they do cheat they don't know what love means. If you start loving someone, you must have a ready mind. Ready to love and ready to get lost.
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@mikhail7 (176)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
Just like what I mentioned above. They're not contented on what they have. They don't meet half way. I don't wanna be a saint or anything, I just wanna share to you when me and my wife were just starting, we weren't quite sure about ourselves. But when our parents are trying to tear us apart, we felt a strong bond and even don't know if it's love that kept us together. We just knew that we have to be together and we even dared to forget our parents. Melrosepink, I just love what you said. "READY TO LOVE AND READY TO GET LOST". Thanks!
• United States
21 Feb 07
ya its correct men cheat when they are already have true love but women also cheat men when they are already have true love. both are the same.there is know difference between the men and women. some people are not satisfied with their love.they can't with their soulmate.that's the problem is their i think.what i am saying is true love is not there with any one.........is any one is not satisfied with my answer reply me..........
• United States
22 Jan 07
I wish I knew the answer to that one. I was living with a guy & I thought we had something. He met someone online & then met with her, & decided to spend New Years weekend with her, & lies about a party that I am not 'allowed' to go to with him. He comes home New Years night & sent me an email the next morning that he is engaged & I need to find a new place to live! I wish I knew what to do as well! She is apprently a sunday school teacher & had a halo around her when they met, & hesays she is his angel to save him...I didn't know he needed saving from me, as I am a good person! Heis lying to her & has been all a long, even though he says he is a 'born again Christian', so I am not sure how long that will last either, but they will be married, & it will be harder. To find a man who won't cheat is seemingly impossible!
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