My best friends child is a BRAT!!
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
January 22, 2007 11:59pm CST
She whines and complains and cries to manipulate the adults around her constantly. I heard her even doing the whining thing with her friends to get extra plays on the video game console after she lost a game. She is rude, selfish, self centered and extremely demanding. I don't allow her to manipulate me and so she tells me that she hates me and I always ruin everything. Which I am not around her often. My response to her is "I'm glad you hate me because I don't like you much either so maybe if you hate me so much you'll learn to stay out of my face!"
She is nine and I think the way that she behaves is deplorable. Her mother has been worn down by her previous 5 children and thus she is very indulgent with this one. It is my mission in life whenver she is around to
a. call her "The loud bratty one."
b. give in to her demands not one whit
c. When I ask her to do something and explain my reasoning when she doesn't I simply ignore her as if she doesn't exist.
Do you think I am being to rough with her? Or overstepping my boundaries as a family friend? What would you do?
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4 responses
@dreamingmyth (594)
• United States
23 Jan 07
thats a really tough situation to be in! your friends daughter needs someone who gives her boundaries! if at all possible id try talking to your friend about this and have her look at the bigger picture (how will her daughter function as an adult with that kind of attitude).. and hopefully she will start making some changes and get her daughter back on the right track! either way it goes i wish you the best of luck in this situation!
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@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Depends. Is this child acting up in her home your yours?
If it's her home, you have no obligation to even listen to her demands, so ignoring her is fine.
If it's your home she's acting up in, then you're right on the money. My cousin's little girls beat the hell out of her and she allows it. Those girls adore me, but they don't act up at Aunt Shannon's. I straight up tell them, "You might scream and hit Mommy at home, but Aunt Shannon has rules. If you like coming to my home, you respect your Mommy and don't fuss and scream."
Sounds like if you keep playing this brat, she'll end up respecting you in the longrun and possibly even loving you as the authority figure who cared enough to not let her run wild. Stranger things have happened.
@nw1911guy (1131)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Sounds grade A 100% good to me. I can't stand that behavior. Personally I think she needs some discipline besides.
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
23 Jan 07
parents who allow their children to act like that make me sick! they are just setting up the child to grow up into a royal b*tch or a a**hole!
eventually she will mouth off to someone who wont stand for it and she will get her butt kicked. though that might actually be a good thing!
you should definatly talk to your friend. tell her that you love and respect her, but her child is "the kid that everyone hates" no parent wants their child to be that right?
hopefully that will "get thru" to her and something will change.
i do not think your being to rough with her...someone has to say No sometime! i would have flat out told her mom that she was creating a monster and she needs to do something now, before its too late!
