Does she's acting like a baby?

Jelouse - I'm so jelouse!
@ILANEDRI (1922)
Israel
January 23, 2007 1:56am CST
I'm in love with some girl. I have noticed that she want's me too. We are very alike and have a lot in common. The problem is that she's acting like she has never had a boyfriend. I mean when I wanted to meat her, she brought her friend with. I mean don't you realise that I want to be with you ALONE?! Now we usually talk almost every day, but last week we didn't talk at all. She sent me a message two days ago, and said she has a new boyfriend. Now, I realised that she wanted me to be jelouse, which I am. I saw a picture of them kissing, and I totaly feel bad with myself. I have never had a long relationship because I didn't want to, but with this girl is diffrent. I love her so much!I know for sure that her relationship with her new boyfriend won't stay long. She just think that she loves him, and want me to be jelouse. I don't know... the way she said it that she has a new boyfriend. I was so obvious that she want me to be jelouse. I think I should move on. What do you say? Does her behavior is childish? What would you do when you are jelouse?
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@mary3267 (32)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Ok this girl is playing games with you and you need to move on. i understand that we have attractions for people sometimes that we can't explain but you need to ask yourself why you would want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Sometimes a woman might bring a friend on a date because she is maybe nervous to be alone with a guy she doesn't know, but this girl was kissing another guy. She is either a tramp or she is palaying games, either way you don't want her. I think once you let someone know that you are interested in them, then the rest is up to them. If they want to be with you then they will. I always hated people who play games with relationships, just say what it is that you are looking for and if the other person wants the same thing and you are attracted to each other then great. If they don't return the affection then let it go and move on.
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@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
I love your response. You said some true things I guess. Rated :)
@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
23 Jan 07
oh. that's not nice of her to do. she made you expect that you two are doing well together and then, she's now in a relationship with someone else. as for you, make her feel that you don't really care. that you're happy about her having a boyfriend (even if you're really not). i know she will be wondering why you act as if you aren't affected at all. after all, it's her lost. not yours. try to move on without her. she does not deserve your love at all. there are still lots of women you will meet in your life later on who can even make you happier.
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@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
Thanks for responding. Your response gave me some strenth. Am I need to play it "hard to get" now? Like I don't care that she's having a boyfriend? I know that there's a lot of women out there, but I don't know.. this one was very special for me. I hope i'll get over it soon.
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@catali0n (162)
• Niue
23 Jan 07
kill her :)))))
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• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
this is the question that you do not have to ask..a girl like her??oh no..come on..you have a wonderful life, don't make your life be misery with her..just leave her..thers many more flower at the garden. just make a god choice and you will find the flower of life. its important that you know which girl that suit with you. try and pray, thats the key of true love..
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@thanzm (193)
• Qatar
23 Jan 07
Ya thats something thats common with gurlz. All gurlz do the same, especially if u happen to be a guy with lot of other gurlz contacts or even a lot of other gurlfrnds. Most of the time the gurl jus wants to see if u really want her. If u want her even after she's in love with someone else, even if she kissed someone else you would still go after her. I xactly dont know wat they are checking for (Maybe if u r commited to al qaeda or something) but anyways theres only one short cut to this solution. U shud be happy for her. Yes, its difficult to see the gurl u love in the arms of another guy. I wud kill him, but that wudnt solve the problem. So if u cant be happy for her, simple just act like ur happy for her, act like ur love life depends on ur acting skills (I have xperience, it depends on ur act). Tell her that u want her to be happy with whomsoever shes happy with. Even if ur the bush and that guy is the Laden. Say these words with the right xpression and she'll come back to u, even if her marriage is fixed.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
Someone gave me this advice as well. I guess you have a poing. I think i'll do it. Thanks for reponding and helping me.
@svlana (96)
• Russian Federation
23 Jan 07
I am agree with Thanzm and can say you, it works (it was in my life, too, once I did the same mistake with my bf). I came back to a guy I loved.
23 Jan 07
yes, shes acting like a complete baby.. You don't need her if shes goin to act like that.. i dont even know any girl that would act like that, it wasn't fair on you what she done.. and she oviously wasn't thinking about your feelings in the relationship i think you should move on and forget about her, and you will find another girlfriend soon, who wont treat you like that.. so good luck !! :] XD
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
Thanks for the comment. I guess you are right. I just hope that I will find someone else soon.
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24 Jan 07
yea of course you will, it mightn't be reallly soon, but you will.. it took me ages to find the right person, but when you do , you'l know..
• Pakistan
24 Jan 07
I dont know the whole story what happend but she sending her picture kissing her new boyfriend to you that doesnt make sence... That is the most rude thing anyone can do. Her behaviour is childish but have you tried to talk to her why she is doing? Why she break up? Do you have any clue why she did that?
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
I don't think that asking her why she is doing this can help me. She probably think that i'm jelous, and I don't want to give her that feeling.
• United States
24 Jan 07
sounds to me like this girl that you like so much... doesn't like you as much as you are hoping. also i think that she's being very inmature. maybe it's best if you find someone else. i'm sure that you will find someone better... that acts more grown up...good luck
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
I hope that I will find some better girl, and completely forget about her. Thanks for responding :)
@alchemistrx (2571)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
She's not clear enough to make you his boyfriend.I have just like a situation like you but with a boyfriend.We are together but after few days. He have gotten another girlfriend. So what the heck as that. I just break it off with him because I was hurt.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
I'm sorry to hear that you had the same experience like I had.
@kristia (138)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
childish??hahaha but i know this is her way of telling you... "if you move too slow... you will loose me..." see?? i am a wman and i know how women think, childish as you may say.. but its very effective.. right???
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
Effective? What's so effective in this? She is now with a boy that she might not even know so good. For what ? Just because he maybe looks good? To make me jelous? I can't find any other explanation beside that.
@angelmae (351)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
Actually, if I were in your condition, I won't even think of getting back with her. But you love her, that's a fact that we can't change. If you're sure she's just playing, then play the same game. Tell her that you also have a new girlfriend. But don't involve a real girl. Coz you'll only be using her. Just pretend you have a girlfriend. Then when gets jealous and wants to get back with you, play it hard. That's one way for her to appreciate you. Don't show her that you can't live w/o her.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
No, I don't love to play this games, and specially not to lie. If I get a girlfriend, I will make sure that she will know about it. You can bet on that :)
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Ok first of all jeolousy is not a good characteristic for any one to have and you shouldn't let her have these feelings. To me jeolousy is a disease and a ruiner of all and any good! You should move on because if she loved you then she would not of hurt you in this way and is cruel and you shouldn't let it get to you. I say forgive and forget , no remorse and always look to the future and not the past. There is someone else out there for you that will treat you good and return your love and give you the affection that we all know you deserve. So don't dwell in the past just live and learn and try your best to get over it!
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
You right ! I shouldn't look at the past and I must move on with my life. I will search another love and completely forget about her.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
How long were you seeing her for?? Maybe she was bringing her friend along to avoid physical contact with you and was trying to give you a hint so as you would break it off with her.... Just let her be she may not be worth thge trouble go on with your life and meet a new girl..
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
Well we talked about a month before we met, and our first meating was with her friend too. I didn't had any problem with that, but in other meatings her friend came with her again. I just wanted to be her alone and to tell her I love her. I wasn't able to do it because of her friend.
@clownfish (3278)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Hi! Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that she treated you that way! A lot of young girls really don't have any concept of how someone else feels when they are mistreated. I think because of movies and TV there is a lot of "game playing" that goes on in relationships that shouldn't. She should have been respectful of you and of your feelings. It was wrong of her to go off with another guy without even telling you. If she is trying to make you jealous, then I think you should just move on. You are deserving of so much better! You will find a girl who will see how wonderful you are and love you for who you are - and she won't play games with your heart! ((hugs)) :-)
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
24 Jan 07
Thanks a lot for the lovely response. It warms my heart. It's so nice to see that there are people here that do care, like you. Love
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Well if it was the first time you met, it's only normal to bring along a friend. She doesn't have any idea as to the kind of person that you are in the first place. She must have had some reservations then. If she says that she's got a new boyfriend, go on with your life. She's not the woman for you, most probably. Otherwise she has treated you with some respect and not hurt you that way considering that you are new friends getting to know each other yet.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
It was not the first time we met. We met before and she brought a friend with. That was ok with me, but in the second meating when she knew that I want to see her alone, she brought her friend again. That pissed me off.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
You should move on.Don't hang on to something that is already over. Yes it's hard because you are in love with her. But she already sent you a picture kissing another guy. Give importance to yourself too.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
Thanks for responding. It will be hard to move on, but I'll be strong.
• Lagos, Nigeria
23 Jan 07
Just be cam. Do not give her the privilege of witnessing you pain. Call her , ask how she is doing but do not talk about what she said. Secondly make sure you are always cool and happy anytime she is within where you can see her. dress sharp and make sure she sees you. Call her one a day , do not talk about emotional things , just how is she faring that is all. at a stage if you do not show her a sence of loose , she will want to know whats making you happy. The next thing you know she will want to come back. I happened to me and this was my technic that worked.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
I will try your technic, but not now. It's way too early. But thanks for the advice :)
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Well it sounds like you really have feelings for this girl. I think she is acting crazy. Why would she treat you like that? She is just hurting everyone involved. However if you truly love this girl, you need to talk to her. Tell her how you feel...and ask her why she is doing what she is doing? If she is trying to make you jealous then she must have feelings for you too. I think that you need to find out what is going on first? However...then you must think that do you really want someone who is going to act this way? You have to go with your heart..and hopefully it will work out...
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
I wanted to tell her how I feel, but I don't to do it threw the computer. She live in other city, so if I want to see her, I need to invite her for a meating. She will probably won't agree because of her new boyfriend, so I'll just wait, and who know? I might find someone else in this time.
@tcm9669 (44)
• Malta
23 Jan 07
Well I would show her that I don't care if she has a boyfriend or not, instead try this strategy:- Find another Girlfriend yourself, tell that girl to meet and tell her to bring her boyfriend and you bring yours, when you meet just try to make that girl jealous by kissing your girlfriend in front of her, and telling your Girlfriend that you love her, show that girl that you are not jealous at all because that will make her feel in advantage and she will try to make you more jealous, so relax and cool. Show her that you are ok, even without her (even if deep down you are not)
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
It will be stupid to tell her to bring her boyfriend.
• United States
23 Jan 07
Yeah her doing that to you is just plain wrong. She is most definitely not worth it if she's going to stoop that low. Find someone that appreciates you.
@ILANEDRI (1922)
• Israel
23 Jan 07
I wish I could find someone fast, but I just love her. I hope that my feelings to her will be over soon.