Financial Stability In A Family

United States
January 23, 2007 9:44am CST
My husband and I run a support group for newly weds. We are still newly weds ourselves and that's why people open up so much to us. We had a couple come to us and ask how to budget now being married having more bills and still have fun. We planned a financial budget for them and also told them free ways to enjoy your time together. They came back to us 4 months later ready to kill each other. The husband stuck to the budget and lived by it never broke a rule, but the wife did not follow it exactly well. Now they are asking us how to make amends with each other they feel that now that they had their first fight they lost the "Flame" and "desire". We talked to them and they woreked everything out. Now 3 months later they are both unhappy again, now because he got a second job to have more money and the wife feels he doesn't like to spend time with her and the reality is he got the job so they'd have more money to go out... but instead she argues with him and he never wants to take her out. What do you think is really wrong with their relationship? Does she think he's a cheater? My husband and I came to the conclusion there is an underlying problem that they are not telling us about! What do you think it could be?
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Well sounds like he is really working the second job to get away from a nagging wife. My husband was married once before and well he did the same thing. He joined the volunteer fire department and some other things just to be gone. There comes a time when a husband and a wife needs to sit down and talk things through them selves without outside help. Open communication is developed that way.
@cpamanda (693)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Wow, that sounds tough. Maybe next time they come to talk, you put it on the table and ask them what else is going on. Without knowing the two individuals it is hard to make a thought about why they are acting this way. Sounds tough though. Maybe they were not ready to get married and want out?