Are you as competitive as I am?

United States
January 23, 2007 1:37pm CST
I am so competitive about everything! I once had to "ground" myself from playing cards with my husband and his family for a time because I was getting so upset that I was losing that I was pretty sure that they were cheating to win. I've also stopped playing Candy Land with my 3 year old because she beats me all the time. Also two of my friends and me are trying to lose 30 lbs. by the first day of summer and my husband has to remind me to encourage my friends in their weight loss instead of making it a competition! But, knowing that we're all trying to do it pushes me to try very hard so they don't "beat" me. I know I'm ridiculous, but I can't help myself. Anyone else ultra-competitive?
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@medooley (1874)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I would not say that I am untra-competitive, there are certian things that I am really competitive in but they are limited to actually sporting events. I don't really get competitive over little things, I don't try to turn everything in to a competition. Oh yeah, screw your friends... You lose more weight than them and rub it in their face! Gee, I guess I am kinda competitive too.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I will certainly tell my friends that it's my goal to, "screw them, lose more weight then them and then to rub it in their faces" ... I'll let you know how that goes over!
• United States
5 Mar 07
You're kind of competitive when it comes to not getting your butt kicked over a stuffed dog ... or was it a bear?
@limosonia1 (1560)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I think I am just a sore loser so I always try not to lose. I see it now more than ever because I want my kids to have the competive edge. I stopped going to there practices because I always told them to work harder. Which thankfully my husband told me was not a good thing and put his foot down. He said we had to support them even if they weren't good at the sport. Which I totally agree I just lost my self in the competion. Oh well atleast I learned my lesson. I am only overly competive when it comes to sports though not playing board games with my family because I actually don't mind losing to my kids. I like the way thier faces light up when they win. Now my husband and me bowling. If we are on different teams is another story. I always want to win. LOL. But then again he is always trying to beat my team also.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
For awhile my husband and I always had to play cards on the same team because if one of us lost (namely, me) we would be upset. I've gotten much better about that though.
• United States
24 Jan 07
ROFL... I can't believe the KID didn't let you win at least once!!!! *wink* I'm truly not an overly competitive person. I'm a perfectionist, which can sometimes lead to being competitive but in general I'm not very competitive, I'm just the best I can be.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I know, I think she gets her competitiveness from me ... because if it was the other way around I wouldn't let her win either! :)
@wasim989 (2303)
• India
24 Jan 07
I used to be competitive when I was a kid but not any more now I like to be competitive in real things like job, money etc.
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@KHyuga (1700)
• Singapore
24 Jan 07
Usually when a person is really competitive, he or she is competitive in whatever he or she does, not just certain areas.
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@XxAngelxX (2833)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
I am also a very competitive person, but not to the extent you are. I grew up with a father who was incredibly competitive. My mother will tell people my sister and I knew how to cheat by the time we were 5, but it was cheating to lose, not win. He would get very upset if he lost at something so we learned early on that it was just easier to let him win. I would hate for someone to "let" me win. I want to win because I played the game properly or because I did the best, or whatever. But I also realize we need to have fun and it's no fun for everyone else if I'm cranky because I lost. Therefore, I make it a huge point to just have a good time, do my best, and if I win, that's great. If not, better luck next time :)
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I think that is a good point ... do your best but don't make other people miserable, that is a philosophy that I would like to adopt.
@kristia (138)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
competitive? yah i can say that but as i read your discussin.. i can see that you are afraid to loose... i can sense you want to be on top...but really, it's pride that's causing you to act in such way. i agree with your husband, don;t make everything a copetition... though we are living in a competitive world, it is also nice to relax sometimes. in a competion , there's always a winner and a loser. we just need to accept it.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
No, I'm not afraid to lose ... I lose all the time! But, I also think that winning is more enjoyable! I think that competition is healthy, though I really need to work on playing games with my children more. We've started playing Dominoes and that seems to be a lot of fun for everyone.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I used to be extremely competitive. I would push myself in the military to be the best. I was the best in basic training walking out with more ribbons than anyone else in my graduating class. I walked out of tech training with the highest honors. I always strived to be the best. Even my partner and I still argue about who got the better testing score on the entry for the military! LOL But I have been able to let go some...for my kids sake. I don't mind playing games with them and they win. Heck, I often even let them win! But when my partner is involved and he laughs, forget it! I am completely competitive with him! I refuse to play any video game with him because he always wins and laughs when I point out that is why I don't like playing. He will argue with me that it is just a game. And I will argue that nobody likes to loose all the time. So, I don't play video games. LOL I do things that he is no good at. LOL Then, there is no competition because he will not even try. ha ha But yes, I am VERY competitive! But I find ways to try to avoid it.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
I hate doing things that I don't even have a chance at winning! That's why I won't play chess with my husband, I just don't think that many steps ahead! I used to play Risk with him and he would win every time. I finally beat him and haven't played with him since! LOL. With video games we have to play games where we're on the same team or I can't play. I think if there's something worth being competitive at it would be your military training. My husband was in the National Guard for 8 years and he was a very good solider. I think if anyone needs to strive for excellence it's someone in the military. My husband complained that there were always guys who didn't pull their weight or care about the training they received. Now that unit is in Iraq and I'm sure there's a handful of them wishing they would have paid more attention when they were stateside.
@bsabers (668)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I am a very competitive person as I love participating in athletics. Being in athletics it has helped me to become competitive with everything that I do. Some people will frown upon those who are always competitive, but at least the competitive people will be giving it their all with anything that they do.
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@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
I am conpetitive to say the least. I try not to be but I don't enjoy myself if I am not putting in 100% and sometimes that leads to being a tadd competitive. Just don't get in my way. Well I was just kidding about not getting in my way. I don't get physical, just competitive. Not exactly sure where that comes from but I think it has to do with growing up and having nothing that was my own. I had to fight for anything I wanted and that I am sure was the beginning. Being competitive has helped me advance and learn stuff I would never have learned otherwise. I also only have a grade nine education and found I had to work a lot harder than those with better education. I like being competitive but it does cause some hurt feelings once in awhile.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I use to be the same way and I had to overcome that because being like that makes things no fun and then you start getting mad for no reason and then nobody even wants to deal with you because of it.
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@arkana (48)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
i too, think im very competitive. Trying to win all challenges, it brings so much joy in oneself when achieving what you want. You feel on top of everbody else. But in my opinion competitive person like me have a bit problem in attitude. We hate to lose, we hate to call soreloser, we somehow forgot the sportmanship manner in our challenges. Yet, after re-thinking, its not a bad to lose from others. There is always better than us and better than them that we can defeat. Its just a cycle method. And losing is a good experience to learn what mistakes we've done to correct it in future, Live well.
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@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
24 Jan 07
I used to be a competitive student at maths and scholarship examination to U.S, Japan, and Australia, but I have never won it. Because they were doing unfair things to the local people. The ones who lived in the capital, they could win those easily. I said to myself I would never applied again.
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@not4me (1713)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I'm only competitive in the work place and only if I really have to be. When I was an air traffic controller I felt like I had to be extra competitive to outwit and outsmart the men as many were former military controllers with huge egos and attitude. I wanted to be better than them and being competitive helped me do so. Also my boss at another job had challenged me to become a pilot and go through ground school with him. He knew of my background in aviation and he was just an aviation buff. He bet he could do better than me, probably because he is a boy or at least partially why. I agreed and after I killed him on the first two tests he found a reason to drop out of school. At that point I was even top of my class but after he dropped out it took a lot of the pressure away and I didn't do as well so I was only in the top quarter of my class and I scored an 89 on the final. As far as regular friendships I've never felt the urge to compete with anyone. I like my life as stress-free and as balanced as possible. Plus I don't tend to hang out with competitive people because it seems like an ego issue and it's not a trait I tend to like in people. IMO friends in my life should be non-judgmental and caring and just real. :)
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• Canada
24 Jan 07
I have NEVER been competitive. I've seen it cause way too much trouble, and for what? What good do we achieve from winning all the time? I'd rather be challenged, and learn from the times I win as well as from the times I don't win.
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@KHyuga (1700)
• Singapore
24 Jan 07
I'm not as competitive as you, but I'm more competitive than you! If I lose, I don't just give up. I will practise or train until I can beat the person who beat me. That gives me the most satisfaction.
24 Jan 07
I have completely resigned myself from competetive pursuits as it was beginning to get in the way of my relationships. Even simple card games became a big no-no as I'd be driven to win at all costs. I'd go from being a sweet-natured girl to a demon if I was getting my backside handed to me, lol. These days I stick to Texas Hold'em Poker, as I know I can always 'win' at that and single player games, like solitaire or RPGs. There has been one cure though, MMORPGs. I've found that having to depend on others for help subdues that competitive streak in me. After all, no one wants to get yelled at for wiping a whole group because you felt you had to prove yourself by taking on a whole mob yourself... ¬.¬
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@avs189 (1030)
• India
24 Jan 07
Very rare to find such individuals now days but i would say that is the spirit that makes u going and is hall mark of true individual ...who can acheive the best in his life and can overcome any difficulties rather than getting bogged down and being mentally depressed abt worries....
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@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
24 Jan 07
Lol no I am not like that but I find it funny when People are like this I hope you will win the loosing weight as this is bound to give you the Inspiration to loose it
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
I am the same way in some points. i always want to strive to be better and to do better. I always try to beat a record or goal. In school i was the worst though if someone did something good i always tried to do it better!
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@hariharbhat (1314)
• India
24 Jan 07
There is nothing ridiculous as such because from the day of birth the man/woman is born competitive. When the child is not given milk in time, you can see the ability to compete in that child to get what it desired.It is common to see the children to be competitive in each and every aspect of life. As we grow up we are opened to the facts that in life every where we can not be competitive. There are areas where we should learn to compromise and live. Hence to live in groups both competitive and compromising nature are very important. That is life.
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