How do you cope with special needs children
January 23, 2007 5:44pm CST
I have two special needs children and I have a found a story that I read everyday helps me to cope and deal with every day but how do you deal with the everyday issues. I love my children and seeing there faces is worth every moment but that doesnt make it easy. Here is the story that I read to get encouragement every morning: The Special Mother Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit. This year thousands of mothers will give birth to a special needs baby. Did you ever wonder how mothers of special needs babies are choosen? Somehow, I visualize God hovering over the Earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger. "Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron saint, Matthew. "Forest, Marjorie, daughter. Patron Saint, Cecelia. "Rutledge, Carrie, twins. Patron Saint... give her Gerald, He's used to profanity. Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles "give her a special needs baby" The angel is curious. Why this one, God. She is so happy. "Exactly," smiles god. "Could I give a special needs baby a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel." "But does she have patience?" asks the angel. "I dont want her to have too much patience, or she will drown in a sea of self pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears odd, she'll handle it. "I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence that are so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make it live in her world and that is not going to be easy." "But, Lord, I dont think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?" God nods. "If she cant seperate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes here is a women whom I will bless with a child who comes in a less than perfect way. She doesnt realize it yet, but she is to be envied." "She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child sas 'Mommy' for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my work." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see - ignorance, cruelty, prejudice - and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life becuase she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side." "And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel in mid air. God Smiles, "A mirror will sufice."
• United States
24 Jan 07
thank you for posting this, this is truly touching and has brought tears to my eyes, for the first time today I ave cried good tears and not tears of sorrow and worry. Thank you, in less than one day you have helped me so much, you are truly an angel sent here to earth to bless the lives of other with your presence and words.
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think that this is the sweetest story that I have ever known. My so is always very sick and is slow in alot of subjects, and my sister have cerebel parsy, so you know that I had to show her this. Thank You so much for posting this because when someone sees something like this it makes them feel better about themselve and know that god has not forgotton about them.
9 Feb 07
This is a good story thanks fro sharing it. I think it can be understood very well by those who have a special needs child in their family. It's hard at first, but you'll love your children from the very start, no matter what the disability is.