Do you have a FRIEND that never calls you??

United States
January 23, 2007 9:20pm CST
Do you have a friend that never calls you, you always seem to have to call them?? Is this truly a friendship? or is it one sided, what do you think?
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@marciascott (25554)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Yes i have this friend we have been friends for a long time. when her man is their she acts like she don't want to talk so I don't even call her. she wants to be bother when he's not around. so I stopped calling her. I just let her call me. I don't bother calling her.
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@marciascott (25554)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Is this a hint??? LOL.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
No hint, my friend, but I have had friend's like this too and always wondered if they were true friends or just one sided friends
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I used to have a friend that only called when she wanted something. To me, that wasn't a friend and I finally told her as very tactfully that could be done about her behavior. Well, we aren't friends anymore. Honestly though, I am glad. Because it was just causing more stress on my and my family. So, if the friend never calls you...I guess I would have to question why. Does that person only talk to you when you call because he or she does not have a tactful way of asking for you to not call anymore? It would make me question.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
Thank you for sharing, that is exactly I am referring to in friends, shame that we have to get hurt before we realize that they truly were not friends.
@JessieMae (345)
• United States
24 Jan 07
i have had in the past. i was always expected to call them, when they are the ones that had the free long distance on their phone plan. i tried not to call them often because i lived with my grandmother and i didn't want to run her phone bill up. normally when i did want to call them, i would call them collect and ask if they would call me back and yet they never would. i no longer speak to them because i have no reason to. they turned out to be backstabbers and couldn't keep anything to themselves. after i had my son, they were the only ones that were told outside of family and they ended up telling my biological father who we didn't want knowing.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
It is a shame that happened to you, I feel your pain, thank you for sharing
• United States
24 Jan 07
LOL, I'm that friend. Nothing personal, I just hate being on the phone...got better things to do, ya know?
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• United States
27 Jan 07
dunno what that messed up code is about...hmmm
• Australia
24 Jan 07
I do have some friends like that. I think it depends on whether they are like it to everyone or just you.
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• United States
1 Mar 07
I think that this is definitely a one sided friendship. Friendships are always about balance, laughter and sharing, and in today's technological world a large part of this sharing process is done, whether we like it or not, through devices such as telephones, be it local or cell-phones. I know that you posted this discussion about 1 month ago, but if you're still thinking about it, I would try not calling this so-called friend for a while. He or she will probably call after a few weeks if he or she is an actual friend and, if not, you'll know that he or she wasn't really your friend.
@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I wish that there was someone in the world who cared enough about me to pick up the phone and to give me a call. It would be wonderful to have a good friend to call me.
• United States
14 Feb 07
Speaking for myself, it can sometimes be tough to just pick up the phone & call someone. Maybe it's the shyness factor. Just because someone never calls doesn't mean that they are not a friend. It does take a bit of will for me to pick up the phone & call someone, but when that friend logs onto yahoo messenger or AIM, these friends & I go at it like old friends who haven't seen each other in years & catching up on a lot of things.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I think that if they never call then honestly they probably don't want to be called either. Some people just aren't "phone people" and they would rather just hang out and be friends in person but not spend so much time on the telephone.
@lisa101 (1363)
• United States
9 Feb 07
I have a friend that calls me everyday 2 or 3 times a day. I never have to call her because of this. But i have wandered if she feels like our friendship is one sided. I dont really feel like talking to my friends that much i feel just a call or 2 a week is good enough.
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Yes I have a few like this. No I don't think it is true friendship, I think it is convenience friendship. I always make a comment about not ever hearing from them. I know they are busy with their life, but hey so am I. I just don't let it bother me too much.
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
24 Jan 07
i am one of those people that hates calling people, not because i don't want to but because i feel like i am interrupting their lives. I know it sounds lame but that is how i feel.
@pusiket (1759)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
Yah...a lot...but I never call them as well. But when we got a chance to be together, nothing change. It seemed like yesterday.