Would you Divorce your husband if he played video games EVERY day after work and

Unfortunately, the computer is his work...He works at home. The worst part is he plays an online Army game, which women also play. I know of two that he has on his team and he talks with. I know its a game, but its more like an affair now. Thanks for the good slap in the head reminder about divorce.....I guess I need to spend more time with the Lord instead of resenting my husband and staying on myLot when the kids go to sleep.

I differ from your opinion. Pray a lot but your husband needs you beside him. Stay with him near the computer room. Bring him coffee or tea and a lot of cuddles but do not escape from this reality by staying a lot of time praying. I mean pray do pray a lot but if you stay near your husband its a way of prayer. Prayer does not mean going to church or finding a quiet room only. We can offer our daily actions as a prayer. Your priority right now must be him. unmelt his cold heart.

sherinek, i agree whole heartedly with you.Divource would be overdoing it..isn't the point of marriage staying together and helping each other out with stuff like this?? Divource would be a cowardly action in this case...

I agree with you both. And I have tried it all too. Its awful. I almost feel like I am the single mother of a baby, and a teenager, instead of happily married to the father of my baby. I mean its terrible when you have to go down every morning and wake your husband up for work because he fell asleep on the couch with his computer. I am thinking that I am going to have to quit being so passive about the whole thing and lay it on the line. By the way, the email didnt work because his email is on the fritz. So he never got it. So, so much for that brilliant idea, lol

We do share similar interests, but not in video games. It's been going on since we fist got married, if its not the video games its someone or something else that occupies most of his time. I've asked him if anything is bothering him or if he's feeling okay, if there's anything I can do to help him out. Lately, this has been the worst and longest times of distance that I've ever experienced with him. Today, I just found out he's having difficulties with his work. That could be most of the reasons for distance, but I feel he should be able to share that with me and we can work together through it, not abandon me over it. I've tried all the womanly tricks you can think of to entice him off the computer. Once in awhile I get lucky, but that doesn't even work lately. Knowing that work could be the main problem...at least gives me hope that he can come out of it and the video games are just a stress reliever for him. You'd think something else could be a better stress reliever though....:) anyways.... Thanks for the discussion and true concern, it means alot.

I really don't think of divorce lightly at all. We've been married for 19 years now with similar situations still taking place. We can talk till we're both blue in the face and unless HE decides things will be different they don't change. So I basically live like a single parent, until he chooses to emotionally take part. I just start to wonder....how long does someone sanely stay in an emotionally abandoned relationship? It really hit me hard last night because my son was frustrated with his dad for not getting off the computer to talk with him and he frustratingly yelled at me saying "Why do you stay with him? How can you want to be around this? I can't stand it." All I could tell my son is because I love You and am trying to love your dad the best I can too. I found myself at that point really wondering why I do. Being a Christian and taking marriage seriously and being forever.....I feel guilty for even thinking this way. So I need to lean on the Lord a bit more and keep praying, that is what keeps me hanging in there. The reality is....we can't rely on people to make us feel valued, loved, or to make us happy....so to the Lord I go.

Don't get me wrong....I love my husband and desire him greatly. I know things happen for a reason and he may be dealling with something about himself too. Its just extremely difficult living through the moments that seem like you're of no value and nothing you do makes a difference. Thanks for this.

I know what you mean. The video games are definitely better than out somewhere that I wouldn't have a clue at where he is. Guess I need to just occupy myself better.

You're not a buttinsky....you're completely right about him needing to escape. That's why when we went to the desert it was a great way to be a family. I just found out today that things aren't going exactly how he planned with his latest client. I over heard his business call. That could be the greatest cause at this point in time for him. Keep us in prayer too. It's got to be his work that's bothering him...I just need the Lord to help me with my own emotions over it. Thanks for your advice...I appreciate it Darlene! :)

Of course that's not the only reason for thinking about a divorce as an option, but it may become the breaking straw if no change occurs.

you got it....you just get used to it. I don't want to give up on my husband and don't want my kids to see there are excuses as stupid as this for a divorce either.

I do believe he loves me and our children, because he has shown it so deeply and things have been wonderful for short periods of time. I don't have a problem with the video games either, but when it consumes his every waking hour, effects business or his work, affects our children, and now ultimately hurting my heart deeply, and that doesn't help him wake up...that's a big problem. All I can figure is something is greatly bothering him to allow this consuming behavior to continue for this long and since he won't confide in me to assist or pray with him about it the hopelessness feeling sets in. Divorce doesn't seem like the way at the moment...things could be greatly worse. We'll see how the Lord helps me through these emotions.