circumcision

@jessmtiu (251)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 9:24pm CST
I just want to ask your opinion regarding the best time to have my baby boy circumcised? My husband and I decided not to have him circumcised at birth so that he can choose by himself when he wants to have it done. It's a sign of growing up according to my husband. What do you think?
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@Galena (9123)
17 Mar 07
it's a form of body modification. unless he has a medical problem, such as an over-tight foreskin, then of course it should be left until they decide ot have it done, or not. most people wouldn't peirce their childs eyebrow or belly button or tongue, until they were old enough to choose to have it done, and that closes up if you take it out. this form of body modification is more permanent. when it comes down to it, more permanent even than a tattoo, and you wouldn't choose to have your child tattooed. when they are old enough to understand all of the implications, and what it involves, and the fact it is permanent, basically, when they are old enough to want it done and understand the risks then they are old enough to choose what to do with their body. basically if you think they're too young to choose to have a body peircing (and I'm talking facial, bars, body etc, not just ears) then they are too young to have a part of their anatomy that serves to protect a sensitive part of their body removed forever.
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@brihanna (381)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I totally agree with you. My son is just over a year. I choose not to have him circumsiced for that exact reason. I never took the liberty to pierce my daughters ears either. They came into the world in a particular way, and I believe that the creator knew what he was doing. To change or alter that I do consider mutilation (even piercinng a newborns ears) It is not a choice for the parent to make. My husband suprisingly agreed with me, evenn though he is circumsiced. I have had the pleasure of being with both circumsised and uncircumsised men, and I would perfer un.
@Galena (9123)
23 Mar 07
I agree about ear peircing too. for some reason a lot of people do think it's okay to peirce babies. I just think it brings a lot of new risks to them, and they're too young to get anything from it.
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
my husband has the same view... so we opted not to have him circumcised yet... he says it has to be our son's choice... let him undergo the rite of passage if he chooses that path...hehe
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Circumcision is becoming less common now-days. It used the be the "norm" and it no longer is. It is now often seen as unnecessary pain and/or mutlilation. It is still done quite often for religious reasons but it is no longer the cultural "norm" in the United States. Congratulations on deciding not to circumcise your son!
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• Australia
16 Mar 07
I'm all for this comment & agree 100%! I believe it is unnecessary to have a little boy circumsised (unless you do it for religious reasons which is different) - there are no health worries as long as the parents teach the child to clean properly. I would suggest you just let it go & let him decide whether or not he even wants it done as it's apparently very painful to be done. Also, it's kind of his body so shouldn't it be his choice if he wants his genitals to be cut?! It's very uncommon these days in Australia too :) Good luck!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Mar 07
It's not uncommon in the US, it is very common here. I don't know where you pulled that one from. And Doctors do still state that more then just infections can accure without it done. It's not unnecessary pain or mutilation. My son didn't even cry.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 07
my son was circumcised when he was 10 months old due to recurring urinary tract infection. it was a traumatic experience for me as a first time mom because he had to undergo a series of tests for his kidneys, bladder, etc, before he was finally diagnosed with phimosis. if not for this problem, i wouldn't have him circumcised at that tender age, but rather, when he would be around 7 or 8 years old.
• Singapore
8 Feb 07
but the foreskin is not retractable till the boy is like 6 or so. aint all babies go through phimosis then?
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I heard they wont circumcise children at 6 or 7 years old of age. It needs to be done either as an infant or an adult.
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• Philippines
25 Jan 07
yeah your husband is right. when my brother was about 5 years old my mom told that he will undergo circumcision. when they got to the doctor. my brother sudenly cry cause he dont want. then the doctor ask if may brother wanted he said no. so the doctor told my mother to wait until my brother wanted to be circumsise. after a year, when my brother was already 6, he told my mother that he wanted to be circumcise. and that it.
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@MrNiceGuy (4148)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Your brother knew what circumcision was and weighed the pros and cons at age 6? Thats pretty absurd.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Mar 07
If you don't get it done as an infant I think you should just wait until you are at least 18 to make the choice to have it done. I think he should of had it done at birth, but that wasn't the case I guess. But a 6 year old? That is crazy. I would of just left it alone. I had my son done as an infant. He was 5 wks. I just don't think a 6 year old can make that choice.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
My son who is now three, was circumcised at birth. I did not choose this because of any religious beliefs but entirely because of health issues. I have heard numerous times that baby boys need to be circumcised at birth to prevent infection. Now my job as a parent is to keep my children healthy and happy, I can't imagine how happy my son could be at say age 5 or older with a serious infection that called for a circumcision at that age. I'd rather just have it done when he has no idea what's going on and when he's too young to remember anything. There is really no need for that extra skin, it doesn't have any kind of potential use it wont benefit him in any way. Actually, he's more likely to benefit from it being removed that it being left how it is. Besides when he's older I think he may be too scared to make a decision due to the pain it will cause and may wonder why you did not take care of it when you could have.... I would rather take care of it now rather then just wait and see if any kind of infection starts...just my opinion but it's a much cleaner way for a young man to live his life. Doctors have proven that boys who are circumcised have less bacteria and health issues down there due to the lack of skin where potential infection and germs can hide. Good luck.
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@Galena (9123)
18 Mar 07
I didn't say they wouldn't still want it. I said a fully grown adult may not want a circumcision because it makes the glans less sensitive.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I had my son circumsized when he was a month old. We chose to have it done because it is more painful as an older child or adult to have done. It was a choice that we made because we did not want him to grow up and get made fun of or feel uncomfortable because he was not circumsized. More and more people are choosing not to have this done and I just think that its a choice that you have to make according to how you as a parent feel about the issue. We did it because my husband is circumsized and felt that he as an adult would want to be and so we made that decision for our son also.
@raheel07 (485)
• Pakistan
17 Mar 07
It is better if done at birth. Circumcision is about hygiene issues and the earlier it is better. Secondly you don't want if him to remember and suffer the pain for even a day so it is better to do it at birth.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I heard that it is so much harder when a male gets circumcised as an adult. It's so much easier to get it done as a infant. Now a days they do give the babies something for pain. It's nothing like how it use to be. My son had his done when he was around 4-5 weeks old and he did awesome! He healed really well and we had no problems. I would say if you havn't had it done yet and he is out of the infant stage. I would ask for a doctors opinion about it. I only know of people getting it done as a infant or a grown man.
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• Philippines
7 Feb 07
My husband was adamant in his decision not to have our baby boy circumcised at birth. He wants to have it done before his teenage-hood; something about our son's right of passage :) More than that, he's afraid that if our baby is circumcised at birth, he may not be "properly" and "completely" circumcised.
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@Multanee (268)
• Pakistan
29 Jan 07
you can post pone it on your on reasons.but the best time for this is at the birth,usualy at the 7th day after birth.cause this minor operation is easier on a baby than it is on an older boy. its up to you.
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@selina0625 (1383)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
From were I came from, circumicision is being done when the boy is seven years old. It's like a coming to manhood tradition in our country. I don't know any boy that i know who didn't go thru with this tradition. When a boy is not yet circumcised they are usually teased at by other boys. So there's really no way but to have it done.
@xXmeganxX (4423)
29 Jan 07
hi there, it would be alot better if you got the child circumsised at the birth, therefore he wouldn't remember the pain, i said i would get my baby's ears peirced at birth but i never because i feel bad for her and the pain but i have to get them done anytime now and oh no she's nearly 2, the screams will haunt me because i hate to see a child in pain but my mum got mine done when i was 2 but i still don't remember it, it's like now i wouldn't get mine peirced being 19 because i hate needles and pain, lol! :O)
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• United States
30 Mar 07
Actually circumcision dates way back in Abraham's time (Old Testament). It is an agreement between him & God, a sign to be kept for generations to come--was just reading up on that last night! Those times they did it on the 8th day since the baby's born. When I have my baby boy, I'd do the same thing, but of course, we gotta come into an agreement (my husband & I).   ;o)
@nettmu (396)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
for me as a Christian circumcision is mandatory to all men and of course for hygienic purposes. most of the guys here in Philippines were circumcised before they reach their high schools. i think he's not cute anymore if you circumcised your baby after his birth...lol