If you do't have anything nice to say to someone, don't say anything at all

My Mom always taught us this and I have tried to practice it all of my life. But I find it very hard ignore the loud and arrogant people (the ones who don't have anything nice to say) and sometimes I just feel the need to put them in their place.

I definitely agree that if you do not have something good to say to somebody, that is better to say nothing at all and avoid conflict and other problems by bad mouthing someone. Sometimes people upset me by the things they say or do around me but I feel it is better to not say anything at all then to confront them and make matters worse. Especially now a days, with society being much more violent than in the past. I think it is safer to keep our mouths zipped then to say something negative or harsh to someone.

I think i go by this motto, i usually am quite quiet, and dont say anything to anyone weather its good or bad! hehe is that a bad thing i dont know. but it sure is a way to not get noticed :) i like staying shy and quiet. you stay out of troubles that way!

Well, that is exactly what I do. I just don't say directly and frankly to a person whenever I see something nasty or unlikable about him. I just keep silent and everything would be fine than if I'd blurt it all out to him and we'll only be having a very heated dispute.

If I feel the need to criticize something someone does or says, I think carefully before I respond to them and if I read it back and it sounds harsh I'll directly say that I don't say things because I want to hurt them, only because I want to help them. Sometimes it's impossible to tell a person how to fix a problem without citicizing the action they are taking to make the problem. I just hope that by the end of the conversation they know my intentions are good. :)