Spanking? Ok or not?

United States
January 25, 2007 2:17am CST
What are your feelings on spanking your children? If you do, why? If you don't.. what do you do instead that works? If you have an older child and have spanked - do you think it was the right choice? If your child is older and you never spanked them, how did it work out? I'd love to hear other opinions on this subject. I live in California and there is a politician trying to get spankings banned in this state.
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@aneer72 (179)
• India
25 Jan 07
I don't believe in spanking kids. All kids need to be naughty as doctor's say. Spanking may be needed once in a while but a lot of patence will always help in grooming kids.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
Thanks for sharing!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
27 Oct 07
I grew up in a time when a spanking was normal. There for a while even schools gave you swats (I don't agree with that). However, when we became foster parents we learned that there are other methods. We used corner time, sentences and taking away privleges. They do work but you have to be firm and stand by the punishment. !!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• United States
28 Jun 07
I think there is a particular age when spanking is almost neccessary for children. Everyone jumps up and says, "NO! Think of their self-esteem! How it emotionally hurts them! The damage you're doing!" BAH. Cry me river for all the 80 pound 6 year olds out there screaming for another Xbox and more candy while he's seeing a children's counselor because his feelings were hurt on the playground and Mommy and Daddy can't see eye to eye on how much TV time he gets. I say you should've started smacking little Junior's botty at 2 or 3 years old.... There's an age children go through when you CAN'T reason with them. Sometimes "Time out" doesn't work for little Suzie. All children understand that that little swat on their butt means, "No." I'm not talking about full-on whipping of children when they do't clean their room once. I'm just talking about not treating them like rational reasonable adults at the age of 3. Their not adults yet. They're not going to respond to that all the time.
@mac1946 (1602)
• Calgary, Alberta
3 May 07
I believe that when the rules are broken,if the offence warrants it,spankings would be used,but mainly as a last resort. I was spanked as a child,and I own my own business and Loved my parents very much,and was pretty glad they did use corperal punishment when needed. These ones that feel that vocal responces are the only way to disipline,only create the delinquints we have today,I am sorry if this hurts some).I am not saying that beating children is right either,a good spanking on the butt is all that is needed,abuse causing physical harm should be reported to the authorities,but spanking should not be outlawed by the government at all. thank you for the discussion. Blessed Be.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
4 May 07
I also do not like spanking my children and If I have to scold them...I use stronger words to intimadate them.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
4 May 07
I use spanking as a last resort. In our household the children normally get one of two punishments on a regular basis. The first would be sent to the corner. They are normally in there by what their age is. The second is being sent to their room. We usually use this punishment when they are annoying another sibling. This seperates the children for a little while.
@angelco (345)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
its not good to spank your children because they might be traumatized...they might grow as a radical person he may also think maybe you as a parent don't love him anymore ...it is better to discipline your children verbally tell them what are their mistakes and correct it...im very thankful to my parents because even they are too strict, they did not spank me that's why i respect and love them very much :)